How much men are afraid that women hate getting married, how much women are afraid that men are in a hurry. Want to break through many obstacles and touch the girl you love? You must know when to lend a helping hand and when to pull back from the brink. Many times, many girls don't know any tricks, but more are their natural reactions.
First, how to chase girls who are high and cold? The more concerned, the more indifferent. What happened?
1, Q: I have a crush on a girl in my class, but she is cold and withdrawn. Her roommate has a good impression of me. But in the past two years, she basically didn't talk in class and rarely communicated with men. When I contacted her, she didn't dislike me. It's annoying to talk to her many times (she usually doesn't talk to men). But I still smiled when I greeted her. I have limited knowledge of her. Please ask the teacher to show me the way.
This girl is very cold. In a special case, she is psychopathic, that is, she doesn't like others to pursue herself, and she doesn't like others to approach herself actively. No matter how good the other person is, once you know that the other person is interested in you, you begin to dislike it. As for how this kind of psychology is formed, it remains to be scientifically studied. ...
But in general, there are many ways to solve the high cold of girls.
For example, looking for opportunities to be nice to her, but verbally saying, "In fact, I am so kind to my friends." ...
For example, be nice to her and tell her jokingly that I really love you. ...
And so on, just to let girls play the drums of curious speculation ... Although others seem to be slow or cold on the surface, their hearts have been turned upside down.
This is sexy ~
However, if you really like other people's girls, please be really kind to her, find out her various preferences, and treat her with your heart.
2. Q: Why do I care about others when chasing girls, but the more I care, the more I hate it?
A: Because you were forced to leave your mind, maybe deep down, you don't care about others very much, but in order to "get" her, you forced yourself to do caring behavior. I want to win the favor of girls by caring about others.
Your so-called concern doesn't make people feel good, because you don't really care. Some concerns are "controlled" even if they are true, such as your mother insisting that you wear long pants.
How can you really care without control? In fact, it is to do something for others in a down-to-earth manner and do these things as well as possible. Even if your concern is not real and purposeful, others will feel much better.
The worst worry is to do nothing but talk.
For example, it is very cold today. Do you ask others if they have enough clothes? If someone tells you it's a little cold, your next move should be to send someone a dress, and then ask her where she is when she arrives. Instead of asking people to keep warm and drink hot water. What's more, they will directly send people back and wear enough clothes before coming out.
Do you think this concern can not be annoying?
3. Q: How to pursue a careless girl?
A: In fact, you have a natural self-deception on this question. Why? No matter what you think of this woman, she is quiet, tall and has many admirers. In fact, the core problem is that you feel that there are obstacles and difficulties, but you put this obstacle at a certain point in her body.
For example, some people feel inferior in front of highly educated girls before asking how to pursue a highly educated girl. But in fact, this kind of problem doesn't exist here at all. I don't even consider my education when I associate with girls ...
For example, when this classmate asks how to pursue a careless girl, she is likely to have social obstacles and feel inferior in front of such an outgoing and sociable girl.
But in fact, their inferiority complex is just an appearance. If these girls are ugly, for example, they may not care about them at all. It is precisely because these girls are attractive to themselves first, so they are not confident in front of such attractive girls and feel that they can never do it. Then they feel inferior to each other because of various defects, which leads to even more inferiority.
So the result is to create problems for yourself, because you will only pay attention to each other's advantages.
But in fact, any girl needs to filter out this illusion of self-deception and find a truly correct way of thinking. For example, for a girl with long legs, it is estimated that the biggest trouble is that men who approach her see beautiful legs have sexual fantasies, so they want to have sex with her more. No one wants to be really nice to her, and her emotional needs can't be met.
This depends on the characteristics to find problems, but what I said is not necessarily correct. Maybe no one will approach her at all, because many people will feel inferior in front of girls like you. It's just that if you don't pay attention to her leg length at first, you will think in the right way faster.
Otherwise, you will always be troubled by your own ideas.
So if you want to pursue a girl, you should pay attention to what she needs, not what obvious advantages she has for you, such as how to pursue a girl who is always prone to illness. A girl is a foodie, how to pursue it?
What do women really need? It's a man. Since women need men, all you have to do is be a man and release your due androgens. This is the key to chasing girls.
Second, about routines, dedication and security.
Philosophical vocabulary:
Do to others what you want them to do to you. For this is the law and the words of the prophets.
1, Q: Hello, teacher! What do you think of the sentence "routines win people's hearts and sincerely change feelings"?
A: Students who ask this question, first of all, I want to ask you a question. Do you-do you like being set up by others? The answer is obvious! Confucius has a good saying, "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". When you don't want to be played by others, you'd better not be played by others first.
What you get with routines is often not cherished and regarded as chicken ribs. Those who are used to thinking will become stiff and closed after a long time. Although there is a sly and confident smile on his face, there is no warmth and emotion of love in this kind of person's heart, so that any relationship he has experienced has an unreal feeling.
Because he doesn't mind.
In the final analysis, the fundamental reason why a person will try others is that you are incompetent! Because the essence of routine is cheating or hanging up ~
2. Q: Hello, teacher! I just recalled my emotional experience in recent years. I have experienced a lot from high school to college, but I don't understand. Is it not good to care too much about people and put too much pressure on each other? When you meet a girl you like again in the future, should you continue to keep your initial heart or pay your feelings slowly? When I didn't have much contact at first, I was able to attract the opposite sex I liked. But after a long time of contact, when I found that I particularly liked this girl, I paid more and more. On the contrary, girls think you are very nice, but they don't want to continue to associate with you in depth.
A: We put this classmate's situation down to "problem feeling". When a person feels that something is wrong, his brain will begin to deceive himself. Now this classmate is caught in a kind of "insecurity" problem. Once a person feels insecure, whether it is the transmission of your hormones or the expression of your emotions, it will give people an awkward feeling.
Next, you will want to solve this embarrassing problem by thinking. In fact, this is your defense mechanism and attraction mechanism pinching each other. If the defense mechanism is too strong, it will suppress the attraction mechanism. That's why you have these problems. You will consider whether you have paid too much and so on.
What do you mean? It is a natural behavior that you give and care for others in front of you because you really like it, and it is an attractive mechanism to enhance feelings between people; But when you really like it later, your investment and care are often to prevent loss. This is an offensive defense mechanism. With this psychological mechanism, what you do will "exceed the standard" and make a lot of unnecessary efforts, which is beyond the tolerance of the other party for your relationship.
For example, some people don't know a girl for a few days and then give her an 800-yuan earphone. Although generous, it will cause a great sense of debt to normal people, so the girl's later practice is to send back a pen with a price of more than 700 yuan, which will make anyone feel uncomfortable. So I want to keep my distance from you.
However, if this earphone from 800 yuan is a birthday present for your girlfriend, you must be moved by the other party, because what you are doing is just in line with your current role and status.
When many people are in contact with girls, they just don't know their position, so they will do all kinds of things that exceed the standard. It makes people feel sick, sick.
Third, who is the right person? What can our course help you?
1, q: Good evening, teacher! I've listened to you for months and hooked up with several girls, but none of them are my ideal. What happened?
A: Many times, the words a person uses to explain a problem are mapped into his heart. You said you hooked up with a girl in someone else's house. Naturally, in this relationship, you won't feel touched by the true feelings. People who don't care often have a fence standing in their hearts, so you will feel that all the girls you meet are not your "ideal".
If all the girls you are with are not from you, but through your efforts and the frustration of being rejected and slapped in the face, you won't think so.
On the other hand, what is an "ideal" girl?
In the past, Socrates told his disciples to go to the cornfield to pick the biggest corn, but only if they were not allowed to look back during the picking process. Almost all the disciples returned empty-handed, because they always felt that there was something bigger waiting for them ... and chasing girls was the same. Sometimes when we get along with girls, we always like to be the bad reviewer of each other, and we always wonder if we will meet a better half in the future, but we don't know that it is best to ignore our predecessors.
Instead of looking for him in the crowd, we should cherish and love the people in front of us.
2. Q: Hello, teacher. Recently, I listened to philosophy in school politics class, and I feel it has something to do with your class. Teacher, can you talk about the relationship between your class and philosophy?
A: First of all, our course will not talk about lofty things like philosophy. What we provide is a useful thinking system and a complete training process for you to change. Secondly, I would like to remind you that young people are less exposed to such beautiful and useless things as philosophy, Buddhism, Taoism and larded school. He will only make you a giant in thought and a dwarf in action.
What kind of person will learn philosophy? Generally speaking, there are two kinds. The first is the thinking that comes from doing something to the extreme and reaching a near-perfect state, that is, his research on this matter has produced "Tao". Just when Bruce Lee's kung fu reached its acme, he would have his philosophical thinking about boxing.
The second kind of people are people who do nothing all day and lie in bed looking at the ceiling. Because his heart is empty, he can't find any achievements in reality, so he can only disguise himself with this lofty theory.
The last sentence: routines can't get girls, and life can't be spent on chicken soup. Face the reality frankly, less theory and more practice, and you can see the difference.