Her circle of friends has accumulated 50 praises, free manicure once, so-and-so flower shop receives it for free, and collects it immediately, otherwise she will regret waiting for some such news all her life, no matter whether it is true or not, but a little profit will forward it.
Xiao Wang, who met part-time in a clothing store at school, was born in 1994, but is already the mother of two children, the oldest of whom is five years old.
Looking at this slightly green and tired girl in front of me, it is hard to imagine that she 18 got married. When I was struggling to be called aunt or sister by my child, she was already a mother, struggling for a living.
Xiao Wang had quarreled with every partner in the store, and even hit someone. When talking to her, he will pretend to hit you. He is outspoken, overbearing and hurtful. He will never suffer. He always quarrels with everyone about such trifles as taking out the garbage and tidying up his clothes. He bared his teeth like an aunt in the vegetable market.
Girls in their twenties should not be shy, quaint or quiet. When we are discussing the scenery of a certain place, if we have time to go out together, she is talking about how to beat her mother-in-law and husband. When we gossip about a star, she asks us what the TV play is called.
I can see that she really wants to blend in with us, but the gap between people is there. No matter how close you are, there will always be some gullies.
When the boss asked us if we were born in the 1990s, we still liked to listen to Jackie Eason Chan's songs. She was listening to the song "The woman at the foot of the mountain is a tiger" and laughed at me for wearing casual jeans with "men's" pants and a baseball cap worn by fugitives on TV.
Over time, her attitude towards us changed from friendly to unreasonable. Many times when we are chatting, she will pretend to pass by and swear that we are laughing at her. From the first quarrel to the later complaints, many times we are in distress situation.
Perhaps getting married too early created her character, which is a bit out of place with the identity of the post-90 s. The popular word "greasy" is particularly appropriate for Xiao Wang. Both of them are post-90 s, as if they had entered the ranks of middle-aged aunts in advance.
People who are too self-abased often attach great importance to other people's ideas, are sensitive and alert, wrap themselves in thorns, attack once someone approaches, cover up their inferiority, want to integrate into the circle, and are afraid that others will hurt themselves.
My cousin is quiet, one year older than me, 95 years old. But because I dropped out of school too early, I have been working outside for many years. When we were children, we were the only sisters who had a good relationship. We grew up playing together, and now there is nothing to talk about when we meet.
Last year, I met her during the Spring Festival. My cousin said that she has been working for many years now. After graduation, I still spend money to go to school and work. I might as well go to the hot pot restaurant where she works. Maybe I'll get married when I meet a rich man. I smiled awkwardly.
Looking at my cousin's untidy appearance, she always wears colorful clothes. There are always guests at home during the Spring Festival, and her hair is not washed for a week. She is even a well-deserved greasy queen, and she still talks about marrying Gao Fushuai all day.
In the days with her, I really came into contact with a greasy woman.
Accompany her to KTV to sing. After a while, I called a bunch of friends. Boys and girls get together to play cards, shake a sieve to blow beer, swear, sit with their legs crossed, and laugh loudly. There is smoke and alcohol everywhere. Some girls show up and pout when playing. The sweetness in the video is completely different from them.
I am out of place among them, especially different and extremely uncomfortable.
I thought friends' parties were just shopping, eating and watching movies. It turns out that birds of a feather flock together, and there are many things you don't know outside the circle.
I remember my cousin and I stopped by an uncle's house when I was just on the train in college. He said that if a girl studies well, she might as well get married. He introduced me to a relative who didn't go to college. What happened to her now?
Yang Lan once said, "Doing well is the foundation, and marrying well is inevitable." I always think that the better the girl, the better the man. When you have enough knowledge, ability and accomplishment, you will be more attractive to attract boys as good as you.
In fact, it's very greasy, but it's just an aversion to people who don't know themselves and are not self-disciplined.
So to get rid of the greasy label, the most important thing is self-discipline and study.
If you don't discipline yourself, you will ruin your life. If you want to live a delicate life and be a simple and refreshing person, you must pay time and energy.
Sister Fangfang was also met by me in that shop. Contrary to Xiao Wang, Sister Fangfang is a particularly attractive and caring sister. When I first met her, she gave the impression that she was generous and intellectual, and her makeup was also very temperament.
Later, when I got to know her, I realized that she 19 1 was unmarried, and there seemed to be many suitors. Now an employee of an insurance company feels bored staying in the office and goes to a clothing store to sell clothes. Last year, she told me that she always wanted to have her own clothes and opened her own clothing store in the first half of this year.
It took me a long time to discover that Fangfang is really a "big sister". She not only performs well, but also has a good personality. She likes to play, has been to many places and seen many scenery. She represented the province in the "Boys and Girls Rushing Forward" and won the championship. She is also a member of a caring society. She gets up at six o'clock every day, punches in at the insurance company, and then comes back to work, arriving half an hour early every day.
Self-confident, cheerful and diligent.
After understanding, I found that Sister Fangfang is really a big sister with a story. At the age of 65,438+05, she went to work in Inner Mongolia alone. From her appearance, I really can't see that her education level is only junior high school. 19 years old, married and have children. 2 1 year-old, divorced because of her husband's domestic violence, and was entangled by her ex-husband for three years. Sometimes she misses her children so much that she loses sleep at night.
When she said these words, she seemed to be telling other people's stories. I admire her optimistic attitude towards life. She smiles at customers every day and is always happy with her.
After work, I found that nothing is really easy in the adult world. Roman Roland said: There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life.
Life is not easy, just being alive is very tiring. Don't give yourself too much burden. Go into battle lightly, and maybe you will live more comfortably.
No matter where you are, please keep your love for life and an enterprising heart. You have to believe that the hardships you endure and the blessings you receive will make your twilight years come true, and all the years you want will be given to you.
Independent, brave, strong, warm and hard to love.
This is what a girl should look like.
Your twenties are your best years. May you move on. May the day you set out be sunny.
I wish you strong and lovely.
I wish you progress all your life and never look back.