After the video was broadcast, the public was in an uproar. People from all walks of life began a fierce crusade against maternal mother-in-law and husband, and there were many radical words in the middle.
There should be two aspects to arouse public anger: one is the video broadcast, in which the mother knelt down twice and begged her mother-in-law to agree to caesarean section, but her mother-in-law ignored it and told her to endure it, and her husband acquiesced in her decision.
Another content is that after the mother jumped to her death, the mother's family did not seek justice from her husband's family for her daughter whose bones were not cold, but helped her son-in-law to ask for compensation from the hospital.
Yesterday, it was revealed that the maternal husband received more than 500 abusive text messages and more than 300 abusive phone calls a day, and finally had to turn off his phone. The family asked the hospital to clarify the video content. They can't imagine the content of the video just by seeing the maternal movements. The fact is not what the hospital announced, and they asked the hospital to apologize to him.
According to today's news report, the hospital and the maternal family have reached a compensation agreement. We don't want to discuss the specific content, nor do we want to discuss who is right or wrong. We just want to talk about why people react so strongly to this matter. There is only one reason, that is, people can't see a woman's attitude towards her when she walks through the death gate for her family and children. Many people who watched the video commented that the mother died not of pain, but of despair caused by indifference to her loved ones.
Seeing this violent incident, I remembered the situation when I gave birth to Bauer, when I lived in the same ward with two other parturients.
A woman in her twenties. The day after she arrived at the hospital, she began to feel stomachache. At first, she could bear it. Later, when the pain was relieved more often, she couldn't help crying. In order to let her give birth early, the doctor told her to walk back and forth in the corridor and ward instead of sitting or lying down.
Fortunately, my mother-in-law is fine and has been with her. Wherever she goes, she follows her. It is her husband's performance that makes people uncomfortable. The lying-in woman walked around the room crying with a stomachache, and her tears kept flowing like broken beads. Others are distressed to see it, but her husband is lying in bed playing with his mobile phone like a fine uncle.
Several times, his wife sat by his bed with her stomach in her arms and said to him, "I have a terrible stomachache, why not have a caesarean section!" " "He raised his eyelids and impatiently replied," Isn't it always like this when giving birth? If others can bear it, you can bear it, then bear it again! Then continue to play with his mobile phone.
When the wife saw that her husband did not support her caesarean section, she continued to cry and wander around the house. What is even more unacceptable is that the man stayed in the hospital for a long time, thinking that there were many people in the hospital, which affected him to play mobile phones, and actually went to the Internet cafe next to the hospital to play games all night.
Fortunately, 24 hours later, my mother gave birth to a baby boy. My mother-in-law kept her mouth shut happily, but her husband was still in the Internet cafe, and finally she was the baby boy's sister-in-law. A teenage girl dragged her brother back in the Internet cafe.
The first thing he did when he came back was not to see how his wife was, but to pick up the child in his arms and say happily and proudly: I have a son! I have a son! I am a father! At this time, his wife is like an old hen who just laid eggs in his eyes. He only cares about her eggs, but he doesn't care about the chicken she just laid. It seems that she was right to stay away from her eggs.
Another woman is also in her twenties. After more than ten hours of labor pains, she successfully gave birth to a baby girl. Although the mother-in-law didn't put her unhappiness on her face, her words were harsh: Look at the skill next to her, she gave birth to a boy! You gave birth to a girl! Forget it, a girl is a girl. If I continue to give birth next year, I won't believe that I can't give birth to a boy!
Lying in bed, the mother, hearing this, didn't dare to out of the atmosphere, didn't dare to fart. My husband sat by the bed, with his head down, silent. Just looking at his wife, touching the children, a face of helpless expression.
I was 46 years old when I gave birth to Bauer. Because of my age, I decided to have a caesarean section myself, and my husband was very supportive. The doctor pushed me out of the operating room after the operation. My husband didn't rush to the nursery to see the baby, but followed my stretcher all the way back to the ward. Help the doctor carry me to the hospital bed, then squat down and whisper in my ear: "Wife, you have suffered." Although a few words are warm, he understands my pain, and I can't help but have wet eyes when I hear his words.
I can't move easily after the operation. Every time he picks me up and helps me out of bed. At that time, he suffered from lumbar disc herniation, but he always took care of me day and night.
When I was discharged from the hospital, his waist often bent 90 degrees in pain, but in order to take care of me and the baby, he kept biting his teeth, doing laundry and cooking every day, and washing diapers for the baby.
Of course, when a woman gives birth to a child, most of them say that men can still care and take care of their wives wholeheartedly, but some men are really squeezed into the scum of the men's team. They think it is as easy for a woman to have a baby as to buy food in the street. They always think that it is natural for women to have children, and it is natural for women to have pain when giving birth. A man with this idea should really let him be a woman in his next life and taste the pain and suffering of giving birth.
As the old saying goes, when a woman gives birth to a child, it is a trip to the gate of hell. At this time, giving birth to a child becomes a demon mirror. Who loves motherhood the most, who is good at motherhood, and who can best understand the feelings of motherhood are all vividly interpreted in this mirror.
People who love you will cry with you when they see you crying. Seeing your pain, he (she) can't wait to hurt for you. This person will treat you as his own life. You can even trade his or her life for yours at a critical moment.
People who don't love you, when they see you crying, will say that you are blx, too melodramatic to bear any pain. He not only turns a blind eye to your crying and your noise, but also blames you for making a fuss about a little thing and disturbing him to sleep and play with his mobile phone.
Therefore, when a woman gives birth to a child, she must let the person who loves you the most accompany you. When you encounter danger, unexpected events and unbearable pain, this person can always hold your hand to open the way for you in the mountains and bridge the bridge in the water. Although this person can't hurt you, he can comfort you, accompany you, understand you, give you strength and confidence, and let you walk through this ghost gate safely.