It's just that some children are timid and easy to be bullied, and the reason why children develop such a character is largely because of problems with their parents' education methods. The following small series will show you what kind of parental education will lead children to develop a timid character.
Story: Children are timid.
Xiaohe is six years old and will be in the first grade next year. Xiao He's parents are princelings with strong personalities. Although they take good care of Blackie.
However, Xiaohe is usually afraid of them. Because his parents are excellent, they are not low on Xiao He. He seldom takes Xiaohei to the playground, and spends most of his time in various super-long classes.
Xiao He's life has also been carefully planned by his parents. Every day, food, clothing, housing and transportation are arranged by his parents. Blackie only needs to be responsible for obeying and doing.
Xiaohe usually talks very little. Although parents think Xiaohe is usually reticent, it is good for his children to be quiet, so he doesn't care that Xiaohe never turns off the bedroom light when sleeping, and rarely talks about his interesting things at school.
But the teacher's words made Xiaohei's mother regret it. Xiaohe is so clever that he listens to what his classmates say. He has no ability to distinguish right from wrong at all, but just does what others say.
Black mother heard this, with tears in her eyes, and she also reflected on herself. It is precisely because she usually over-arranges her children that she will be fierce if she doesn't do well, which will develop this timid character for her children. After a long time, he will think that he will do whatever others do, and she has no idea at all.
Many children are timid because they have strong parents. What is even more tragic in today's society is that parents are strong and they don't even know it, but they just think it's good for their children. Children's cowardly parents can also be found through small details.
The concrete manifestation of children's cowardice
1. Fear of loneliness and darkness
Dark environment can make people feel insecure, especially children. It is a terrible thing for a person to be in a dark environment without parents. This is one of the manifestations of timid children, afraid of the dark!
2. Excessive dependence on parents
Generally, timid children are very dependent on their parents psychologically. They live under the protection of their parents' wings and are used to everything arranged by their parents. They don't need to think about what they really want, just do it step by step according to their parents' requirements and rely too much on their parents.
Don't talk to strangers.
Being afraid of strangers and afraid to talk to strangers is also one of the manifestations of children's cowardice. They are wary of all strange things, afraid that things outside will hurt themselves, so they dare not easily contact unfamiliar people and things.
Extended reading: how to change the cowardly character
1. Harmonious family atmosphere
If you want to change your child's timid personality, you need to create a harmonious family atmosphere first. This family atmosphere gives children a very relaxed and pleasant feeling. Children can speak freely and have equal status with their parents. Such a living environment is also conducive to children's positive and sunny personality.
2. Let the baby take care of himself and learn to show himself.
Everything is very detailed for the child, which will make him lose the most basic self-care ability. Children are sometimes stronger than you think. You need to give him some independent opportunities to show himself and meet unknown challenges, so that his character will become stronger little by little. Otherwise, he will only want to ask his parents for help after encountering something. Once his parents can't solve it, he can't do anything, which is equivalent to a waste.
Summary:
A person, whether a child or an adult, is timid and cowardly, and she will be bullied by others. Whether parents want to admit it or not, this is the law of the jungle and the survival of the fittest. How can a timid person protect himself and the people he loves in the future? So from today on, be strong!