Reorganize the wardrobe and throw away all kinds of reluctance.

I lost weight 12 kg in eight months under the condition that my psychology affected my physiology, but this is not a healthy weight loss, it is purely the result of an uncontrollable emotional pressure. At that time, no matter how you eat, as long as you go to the stadium, you will lose a pound when you come back.

After slimming down, every coat, trousers, coat and dress in the closet is too big for me to wear loosely. I told my friend, "Everything is loose, without lines and shapes. She replied, "Good. You used to wear loose clothes. Do you have a style? Being so excited by her reminds me that my previous habit of buying clothes was based on "looseness and comfort". What's next? Continue to be loose?

Look at the closet full? I can't say what style of clothes it is. I don't think there is a better way than asking for help from professionals. Miss V came to my house for the first time and looked at my wardrobe. Half of them are dark clothes and the other half are colored. She only said to me, "Those clothes should be thrown away! All of them! " I stayed for a few seconds, all of them. ! Without giving me time to react, she began to take out the clothes one by one and put them on the sofa. Within a few minutes, the sofa area was full of clothes she was going to donate to me, but I didn't want to throw away or donate those clothes, because everything was my favorite. How can I get rid of them?

I began to pick up every dress and tell her a few short stories: "This dress was bought in France", "The other one has my memory" and "Those clothes are expensive …" Miss V saw that I didn't mean to lose my clothes at all. She shook her head and said, "Do you want me to listen to your story or help you find yourself? Watching her take one out of the closet makes my heart smoke. On the way, I tried to convince her that we should get rid of 50% clothes first, so that if I get fat, at least half of my old clothes will be left in the closet. In the face of my absurd idea, Miss V didn't say a word, and her hand never stopped.

Looking at the clothes mountain on the sofa, I really don't give up. In order to let me know what is "no longer suitable" and "can't make do", Miss V decided to adopt experiential teaching and let me try on my own reluctance one by one. One day and one night! I spent a day and a night trying on all the clothes. In this process, Miss V taught me to judge which ones are suitable and which ones can be matched, so I left that one behind. Sure enough, there are only 2% clothes left. I'm a little disappointed, but it's really not suitable, and it's no fun for me to insist.

When Miss V came to see me every other day, she found that I had secretly taken some clothes. Although very helpless, I can only share this process of "abandoning inertia". "Breaking up, giving up and leaving" is a difficult subject to learn. Even now I know that she is good for me, I still feel: "How can I throw away all my clothes! 」 ?

I began to break the inertia and formed the habit of parting from time to time?

I met a guest who hoarded patients while recording the program. According to the statistics of Johns Hopkins University, about 4% people around us suffer from hoarding. With a population of 23 million in Taiwan Province Province, there may be nearly one million people suffering from this symptom. The behavioral characteristics of hoarding are that it is difficult to give up items, and there will be situations where you want too much. They will always buy, always take, always take. More than 8% hoarders are shopaholics, and 50% hoarders like to pick up waste from outside and pile it up at home. The most troublesome thing is the patient who has no feeling of illness. He will fill his apartment with things. In addition to not seeing the ground, he may pile up, have no place to sleep, and cannot live a normal life.

Of course, there are either too many things or hoarding. Most people, even if they love shopping and buy a lot, can keep their homes clean and tidy. The reason why hoarding goods is mentioned is because both living environment and living habits are facing one of the important links of "breaking inertia" in the process of change. Most of us find it difficult to change our thinking logic or cognitive concept for many years, so we can choose to start from the life level first.

Break the inertia

There are no fixed steps to break the inertia, only a ceremony between yourself and your heart.

No matter from appearance, living habits or thinking logic, before you start to act, you should remind yourself that after this action, it means that you have abandoned the past and everything is a new beginning. This is a psychological hint. The actual action (such as cleaning the closet) is an external gesture to get rid of inertia, while the invisible ceremony is a conscious reminder of the inner beginning. Although there are no fixed steps to "break the inertia" and learn to "break, give up and leave", I personally think that cleaning the closet is a good choice.

Because the things in the closet cover most of our bodies, which can best reflect your laziness, your self-awareness and your attitude towards life. The color, style, quantity and arrangement of clothes in your closet make you look at yourself. ? Some clothes do have the value that should be preserved, not the quantity, but a precious memory, which is a memory puzzle in my heart. Talk to a tailor who can modify clothes and see if the old mini tent dress full of mother-daughter memories can remove the shoulder pads and regain the waistline. I don't want it to be fashionable, but a little fit may make it easier for you to put on your coat … and so on.

But remember, only those clothes that are worth spending money on can be modified. Not every piece of clothing with memory can be modified or create new value. Most cheap clothes or clothes without special design have a certain life in materials, and the color saturation cannot be kept fresh for many years. Clothes like that, let it go. Just leave good memories in your mind, heart and photos.

Don't buy anything until you make room.

During this time, I learned not to let redundant emotions and things stay too long. After moving to a new house, I began to practice the habit of putting paper bags and plastic bags on the ground. When you buy something to go home, deal with it immediately and put it back, and always keep the desktop and floor clean and tidy. This principle of life makes me very comfortable. I don't drink coffee in my mouth, look at bags of things on the table, and think that I have to finish it and tidy it up quickly. Without that oppressive feeling, I began to feel that every day's life was beautiful.

There is a lot of space available at home, and many things that have become the past should be put away. The definition of packing is to pack neatly, seal it and put it in the corner. Instead of moving from your bedside to your desk, or throwing it from the bookshelf into the drawer. That's not putting it away, but throwing it around. The end of littering often needs to be cleaned up twice as hard, which is both time-consuming and frustrating. In the past, I used to pile up my house full, which may be clothes or specific items I like at the moment. But now I am out of that inertia. Because think about it carefully, in fact, there are not many things needed in daily life, including food, which can be bought after eating. There is no need to leave a pile of boxes at home. My principle now is-no. Output? Just don't? Invest. Don't buy anything until there is room in the cupboard. ?

Stop looking down at memories and look up at yourself!

Emotion is the most difficult thing in the world to get rid of. Many people will throw away or return all the things related to each other when they end a relationship, and many people will keep those memories and take them out from time to time. The first approach sounds more in line with the principle of breaking up, but it is not. You have to ask yourself, "Did you break up emotionally? 」。

Maybe the latter can really be emotionally detached, so he can regard everything as a "memory". Of course, there are many friends around us, who not only keep memories, but also live by them. If a friend is in this state of "inseparable from memories, hard to give up and hard to wake up", please give him a hand. Help her pack everything and put it in a corner where she can't easily get it. So she can look up at herself instead of always looking down at her memories.

Work hard like an ant every day to keep the butterfly's mood.

My previous life used to be like the French saying, "When I go out to work in the morning, my soul disappears, and only the glass of red wine at dinner can bring it back." This means that many people live a soulless life at work. But as long as you relax and slow down, your soul will naturally catch up and your body and mind will be more balanced. ?

Now I live a balanced life, because I have learned to break the bad mood when necessary, and that feeling is like implementing the concept of "garbage never falls to the ground". Let your mood and life become so bright, relaxed and free.

My work schedule is still full, but I really appreciate what Teacher Zhan Yawen said: "Although we work hard like ants every day, we should keep the mood of butterflies!"! My friend asked me, how do I take stock of my life these days? After thinking about it, I feel that life is not as simple as cleaning the house or sorting out the wardrobe, nor is it an inventory, but I am learning to face all kinds of "disconnection, abandonment and separation" every day; We should learn to look at everything with the feeling of "breaking, giving up and leaving" every day.

? Can also come in handy, "break the inertia" finishing.

Not everyone has a strict Miss V around, so I can't clean the closet in one place like me. But you can do this:

1 Pack things that you can't bear to lose and make room for your new life first.

First, you sort out and pack things that you really don't want to throw away, but you really won't wear anymore. Put it in a corner that does not interfere with daily life. This will at least refresh your wardrobe and temporarily break unnecessary emotional ties.

? Before buying new clothes, think about what's in the closet.

When ordinary people buy clothes, they often forget the original items in the wardrobe and impulsively buy things that don't match or repeat. Even some of them "imagine shopping", that is, when they see a beautiful evening dress, they imagine that they will look beautiful in it. But in fact, in the past and in the future, you have never attended an occasion where you need to wear an evening dress. That evening dress is absolutely rubbish!

? If this dress has not been worn for more than three years and two months, please throw it away.

You can find a best sister or friend who dares to tell the truth, watch you wear clothes together, and throw away all the clothes that are inappropriate and can be made. ?

4 transform clothes full of memories

Although giving up "inertia" is a way to change, when we really can't give up, maybe we can change our ways and ideas and create new value for what we can't give up. Take tidying up the wardrobe as an example. That friend specially bought you a coat abroad, the first boutique shirt you saved up to buy, and the dress full of mother-daughter memories. If you can't go, you can't go. Then create new value for it and find a tailor to transform them! ?

Buy yourself a full-length mirror.

Every girl must have a full-length mirror. No matter how old you are, it is a necessary tool for women. In fact, the full-length mirror really has its necessity and importance. You must see your overall shape completely from head to toe to judge whether there are too many colors on your body or whether the colors match. If you only rely on the chest mirror, you will only see the color and style of the upper body and ignore the lower body. Then the "colorful" situation I mentioned earlier may happen. Even the full-length mirror on the wardrobe wall is ok, that is, the sooner you get into the good habit of looking at the whole, the better.

* This article is excerpted from How to Press My Book of Changes @ Yu Meiren. Please do not reprint it without permission.

"This article is the author's view on cooperative innovation, not his position."