Talk one-on-one at ordinary times, don't be too sharp, for fear of hurting each other. In fact, what I really want to express is: "If you don't leave the training camp, you won't last for a few days, there is no demand, or the pain is not enough."
Like when I first started as a teaching assistant, I called on my friends to change their nicknames and punch cards in large groups every day. No matter how hard you try, he doesn't respond. Later, I wrote the training camp game into an article and personally sent it to them every morning. After writing for 30 days, I didn't expect it to help me develop the habit of writing.
When my son was 2 years old, he would follow me as soon as I entered the kitchen. Then touch here, touch there. I told him never to touch the freshly cooked pot, it was too hot. He didn't listen and touched it.
As a result, when he touched the pressure cooker he had just taken off the fire, his hands became red and there were blisters on his back. This may be a good thing. From then on, I saw the pressure cooker bypass.
This is what James Clearer said in Mastering Habits. "Habits can be formed in a second, but they can't be formed because there is no demand and it is not painful enough.
During the establishment of the day tour group, a friend told me that I was a Buddhist and I didn't want to join the day tour group. I just want to write with you. I really want to kick his foot. Didn't you read the name of the group? It is a Japanese watch. It is a Japanese watch. I want to help my friends develop micro-habits. Fortunately, he finally got into the habit of working day after day.
How can we cultivate good habits? In Mastering Habits, James Clearer provides us with a set of templates for habit cultivation. Let's take a look!
First, finding the demand and cultivating the habit can solve the problem.
Many people tell me that I can't stand seeing the secretary. I asked him, did you take notes after reading the book? He said no, I asked him about the book you finished reading. Have you used the knowledge in the book? He said no. I asked him, what are you studying for? He said it was reading.
In life, many of us study because of reading, so that when we finish reading, our brains will be refreshed and then there will be no more.
You don't have a goal, you just do what you want to do. That's how life is wasted. Whether you are studying or forming a habit, you should set yourself a goal. The first step to cultivate good habits is to find out why you want to cultivate habits. What problem can this habit help you solve? Achieve what goal? Then write down this goal and carry it out. In addition to forming habits, these steps are also suitable for reading!
Second, make good habits visible.
/kloc-at the age of 0/50kg, I joined the online slimming group in Duoyan Zheng, and the coach sent us a beautiful poster with a good figure. Posters issued by boys, wearing clothes has a figure, taking off clothes has muscles. She asked us to stick it on the wall opposite the bedside and the dining table. She said that she told herself before going to bed every day: "I want to go to the wall as beautiful as her tomorrow." Drink 200 ml of boiled water before eating, then look up at the beautiful woman on the wall and eat slowly. "
I am the administrator of the group and a data statistician. I found that our slimming was quite successful. I remember very clearly that about 40 days later, a girl came to me and told me that she was leaving the group. I checked her weight loss record, and she lost weight quite quickly. Is it because I didn't serve well? I quickly called to ask, and she cried happily and told me that she was pregnant. I have been married for three years and have been infertile because of obesity and high body fat.
Put the phone down, I am happy for a long time. I don't know if it's because of this, I soon lost weight. Until now, I have never been as fat as before. This is our second good habit. We must make the results visible, even if we post a favorite photo in a place we often see.
Third, be attractive.
We should find the desire to form the root of habits and add attraction to your goals. Just like the poster above, in order to stimulate you, let you see her figure every day, see more and practice more, and her good figure will become your good figure.
It's like someone asked me why I beat chicken blood every day. You go to my circle of friends to see my friends' feedback and social feedback. This feedback tells me that this is my value. When a person can create value for himself and others, you will become addicted. You know that, right? We spend money on value. Won't you be addicted when you are valuable to others?
Fourth, simplify the complex.
My teacher told me that a good running habit starts with tying your shoelaces. If you want to help yourself form a good habit, start with the simplest and best operation.
If you want to run, put on your sports shoes and go for a walk outside. If you want to practice yoga, you can start by taking out the yoga mat and do yoga for a few minutes. If you want to develop the habit of writing, you must first edit your circle of friends carefully. I started writing, and there were only three lines in three hours.
Our brains are like that, so we can save trouble, otherwise you won't find that when human beings have an agricultural product, it can spread rapidly on the level of the earth. Agricultural technology has made rapid progress, and people are willing to do such things. If it is on a longitudinal continent, it is difficult to spread, because as long as you go down a little, the climate will change and the temperature will change. So from the pattern of the map, you will find that human beings follow the principle of least effort. How to save energy, how do you want me to spend less energy, how to come.
Reduce the difficulty, don't aim at your comfort zone, we just ask ourselves to make a little progress every day. Also, you should remember that completion is always more important than perfection, and starting is always better than inaction.
Fifth, make it pleasant.
I don't know if you know this. Toothpaste and soap used to be tasteless. When manufacturers produce ointments and soaps, few people buy them. They went to investigate, and then someone told them why I used these things, and I didn't feel anything after using them. Later, some experts told them that if you can make people happy with these products, they will buy your products.
That's why we have toothpaste and soap now. If you don't believe me, think about the advertisements for brushing black toothpaste and chewing gum. They are all telling you that after using their products, your mouth smells good and your whole body is happy. In fact, what you love is not toothpaste and chewing gum, but the pleasant feeling your body produces after using it.
And those who have the habit of running, if you don't believe me, you can ask them, can they keep running because of persistence? No, when running, recognition will produce dopamine. The more dopamine is produced, the happier our bodies will be. When the concentration of dopamine rises, our motivation to take action will become stronger.
The next time you do something right, or have a small achievement, you must remember to reward yourself and let yourself remember the joy at that time. So your body will produce more dopamine, and you will be more willing to do such a thing.
Sixth, the answer to good habits
I worked as a military officer in a Taiwan-funded enterprise for three years. During those three years, I formed this habit. Later, I changed jobs and indulged myself. Up to now, I have lost almost everything except doing things seriously. People are born to have fun. Just enjoy it a few times, and if you don't stick to it, that habit will soon be abolished by you.
So get into the habit of answering questions. Just like Franklin, we should answer questions about our 13 principle four times a year. In this way, he carved his good habits into his bone marrow and soul, and then made his legendary life.
The above is the cultivation of good habits introduced by James Clearer. Let's make a summary together! First, finding needs and cultivating good habits is to solve problems. Second, make good habits visible, often visible, in order to remember! Third, find the root of desire and make it attractive. Fourth, to develop a good running habit is to start from tying your shoelaces, from the simplest to be simple and easy to do. Fifth, make it pleasant. Remember to reward yourself for every little success. Let yourself feel that kind of pleasure, so that your body will remember it more easily. sequence
Sixth, always answer questions about habits.
When forming new habits, you must remember to tolerate yourself. We can't put down the butcher knife and become a Buddha. No matter what we do, we need a process. We are not afraid of slowness as long as we don't stop. We seek speed through slowness.
Studies by authoritative organizations have confirmed that more than 50% of a person's behaviors are unconscious habits, so we are the products of habits. Why do successful people succeed? Successful people are made up of one good habit after another.
According to the data, the most important reason is the formation of good habits, which is the most critical tool to reduce one's energy consumption. Good habits can reduce the loss of energy and time and improve our work efficiency without self-control and perseverance. We want to control ourselves through perseverance, which is not a long-term solution. Because perseverance is accomplished by energy, our energy will be exhausted at any time.
Successful people are smart. They turn Excellence into a unique habit. When you form a habit, you no longer need to control yourself by consuming energy. This can minimize the consumption of time and energy, and he used his habits to improve his energy.
However, many of us have not formed this habit. We spend a lot of time and energy on choosing and looking for things, and we can't control ourselves. I believe there are countless such examples.
Although habit is not the only factor that affects our success, it is the most important factor, which can improve our self-control and thus enhance our chances of success. Then, because we can improve our concentration, energy and time control ability through habits, habits can indirectly help us to do successful things and let us make continuous progress.
Come on! As long as we follow the habit template, I believe you can also develop the habit of 13, which makes people self-disciplined like Mr. Slack, and then get a happy life.