The factors that determine a child's courage and character are innate temperament and acquired cultivation. But nurture can play a leading role. 1. Don't show disappointment with your child's performance. This will only aggravate his inferiority complex. 2. Encourage him to show himself more and give him some opportunities. For example, tell stories and describe what you have done orally. Compare him with extroverted children as little as possible, although you can encourage him to learn from extroverted children. Don't encourage quiet or introverted behavior in front of him, and don't praise other children's timid behavior. As long as it is something he can do independently, don't interfere or even guide. 6. As long as you feel that there is no danger, encourage him to go out and play with other children alone. 7. When encountering setbacks, let him find a way to deal with them. 8. Another point is very important. Let him taste the courage to do things and the pleasure of self-expression. As long as he becomes interested, he will try it himself. I believe that if you give him more space and exercise, he will gradually build up confidence and dare to show. Many successful people were shy when they were young, and then they succeeded after consciously overcoming their personality weaknesses. (* * Encourage. My little guy is a little timid outside, and we are trying to cultivate her ability to dare to associate with other children.

How to cultivate children's courage

"My child is too timid" is a headache for many parents at present, and many people are actively looking for countermeasures. Psychologists believe that there are many reasons for children's timidity, including congenital factors, environmental factors, improper parents' education, and children's bad experiences, so parents should find out the reasons and then prescribe the right medicine. Now some parents often tell their children strange stories such as "ghosts" and "monsters" in order to exercise their children's courage, and even some parents use them to scare their children, which is very easy to leave a psychological shadow on their children. The importance of courage is self-evident. Only those who have courage and courage can overcome difficulties and achieve success. But I also hope that when parents cultivate their children's courage, they can think from their children's point of view and not be too harsh. Psychologists believe that children are timid for the following reasons: 1. Congenital factors. Parents are introverted and not good at communicating with others, and children inherit their characteristics. Parents should understand their children's personality, let them have a gradual adaptation process, and at the same time give them as much care and love as possible, and encourage them to interact with others. Parents should be role models for their children, and don't show timidity in front of them whenever something happens. 2. Environmental factors. Nowadays, most people live in commercial housing, and the closed environment of one household makes children lack living space to communicate with their peers, which leads to their withdrawn and timid personality. 3. Improper education. When children cry, parents often use "ghosts" and "monsters" to scare children; There are also some parents who, when their children want to go out to play, use words such as "there are liars outside, they will cheat you away" to dispel their children's thoughts and leave a shadow in their hearts; Others expect too much from their children. Once children do something wrong, they will be reprimanded or beaten, which will make them flinch for fear of failure. Some children are timid and lack courage. One of the most important reasons is that parents pay too much attention to their children and even spoil them, replacing them in every detail, depriving them of the opportunity to try. 4. Personal experience. When children express themselves confidently in front of their parents, they get ridicule and sarcasm instead of praise, which makes them very depressed; Or the child has had an injection, and the pain of touching the skin will make him afraid to go to the hospital next time ... After finding out the reason, we should pay attention to the method of education. For parents, they should be patient and careful when educating their children. When children are crying, we should educate them positively and don't scare them. Children should not be treated as "adults" and should not be asked to do things beyond their power with too high standards. Parents should spend as much time with their children as possible, play with him and inspire him to play new tricks. If parents can't play with their children because of something, they can agree where to play and how long to play under the premise of paying attention to safety. It is worth noting that when parents want to stop their children from going out to play, they must not scare their children with terrible stories. When the child comes home, let him tell the story of the play, and then evaluate the child's behavior, praise more and criticize less, which not only exercises the child's courage, but also cultivates the child's oral expression ability. If conditions permit, it is also a good way to cultivate children's courage to ask them to help buy some odds and ends or borrow things from neighbors. When a child encounters difficulties and setbacks, parents should tell him an easy-to-understand story in due course, telling him how human beings are not afraid of difficulties. When cultivating children's social skills, parents are advised to create more opportunities for their children to communicate with others. When parents teach their children some communication skills, they should let their children undergo various exercises. For preschool children, cultivating their brave qualities mainly means: learning to endure and face when falling or having minor injuries; Disputes between peers should be resolved by themselves; Cultivate and encourage him to speak and perform when there are many people; Actively participate in sports activities, etc.

How to cultivate children's courage?

Adults should let go to help the baby desensitize. If something happens to the baby, parents need to identify whether the baby is timid or spoiled, or for other reasons. The way to exercise your baby's courage is to encourage him and desensitize him to what he is afraid of. Some babies are cautious just because they are very sensitive, insecure in unfamiliar environment and need a long time to adapt to the new environment. ■ Nurses should not intimidate children, often blame or reprimand them, and gain self-confidence through some activities, such as taking part in physical exercise, cultivating some specialties, making some lively and cheerful friends, and encouraging children to do what they can. ■ Xie Zhenjun's courage to encourage children in time is not innate, but related to personality and acquired cultivation. I often say to my son: You are a man, and men should be brave. Men only bleed without tears. Therefore, my son still has some courage. I will take my children to some social activities whenever I have the chance. When I encounter stage fright, I will give him a thumbs-up and tell him, "Believe in yourself, you are the best!" " ■ Ma contacted my family with children. Yun Hao was born timid. When he went to get the slide, he was squeezed down by the older children, and he was too scared to play. My father and I decided to send Hao to kindergarten so that he could have more contact with children. I believe he won't be so timid for a long time. ■ Yun Hao's mother and children are unwilling. Don't push him too hard when you know he doesn't want to. In our nature, he will gradually find the way that suits him best. According to the book Love and Freedom, he will educate himself, and we will only help him when necessary or when he asks. ■ Before Rui Zaizai let the children go shopping alone, my family was very timid and never paid attention to people I didn't know. Later, I often took her to some crowded places, encouraged her to talk to strange children, and often consciously let her go shopping in the supermarket near my home to exercise her courage to speak and her ability to communicate with others. Now it seems that the effect is not bad. ■ Meng Meng's mother is afraid and fearless. This is my understanding. One is to make the baby afraid, and the other is to make the baby fearless. Fear refers to electricity, fire, hot water bottles filled with hot water, etc. These are very dangerous things for the baby, and these are all things he is afraid of; Fearlessness refers to small things that don't threaten your baby's safety in general life. For example, Xiaofeng was afraid of hair dryers when she was a child. She cried when she heard the sound of the hair dryer. Later, I held the hair dryer in front of her and told her that it was used by her mother to dry her hair, so that she could feel it. Slowly Xiaofeng is not afraid of the hair dryer. ■ Ma Xiaofeng should not give children too much "preventive" education. She should avoid giving her children too much "preventive" education. In order to make them obey, she often tells them that this is not good, that is not good, and even scares them to achieve their goals. This will invisibly kill their adventurous spirit and become timid over time. As the saying goes, "Ignorance is fearless". In fact, many children are quite bold at first. ■ An Ma 'an should be brave and don't protect his timid family too much, which is the enemy to cultivate children's brave spirit. Try not to strengthen his cowardice, but encourage him to participate. Don't scare the child with what he is afraid of. Never say things like "If you can't do it, the devil will take you away" or "Don't go there, where tigers will eat you". ■ Yuanyuan's mother, I am accompanying her latest son. Don't be too far away from adults before going to bed at night. For example, I'm going to the bathroom to drink water and take me with me. I will quietly encourage him to go by himself and stay with him at the same time, but I will keep a certain distance from him if he doesn't refuse. Perhaps it was recently in "Three Little Pigs Advanced English" that I saw that the wolf would eat little pigs. I think he has reached a sensitive period of knowing fear. ■ Autumn language

How to cultivate children's courage

Children's courage is acquired. Children's timidity is mostly the bitter fruit of exaggerated terror deliberately created by parents, and children become bold and brave, which is largely exercised. Children's courage is different. Some children are naturally silent, afraid of strangers and afraid to express themselves. We would rather regard this as his personality characteristics than simply as a shortcoming. Some children are very timid. Parents are also responsible. Parents are too aware of safety and always scare their children. Parents always say "danger" when their children do anything. Over time, children will sum up an experience. The most reliable way is not to touch or do anything. In the eyes of adults, it is natural to be timid and have no courage. Don't stab the child's self-esteem. Some parents always accuse their children: "Look at others, their mouths are small. Look at you again, like a pimple. " This kind of "positioning" criticism is particularly easy to stab children's self-esteem and self-confidence. It just strengthened its cowardice. Don't criticize, be patient, encourage children to play more, communicate with children more, give him some communication skills with peers, cultivate his interest in new things, and develop a warm and lively personality. Practice courage from an early age-walk the balance beam. Childhood is a sensitive period to absorb thoughts and feelings, and it also shows non-selectivity in psychological interest in external things. There are no concepts of difficulty and easy, fear and unafraid in early childhood education, so those sports that are difficult for adults to learn and things that will be difficult in the future (such as skating, walking on the balance beam, swimming and diving) are not difficult for young children. Children should contact as early as possible to stimulate his interest, and he will be as easy to accept as learning to walk. By stimulating interest and learning skills in entertainment, we can not only exercise and master sports techniques that are difficult for adults to master, but also promote the process of intellectual development and psychological development. "Fear" is a sensitive expression of self-protection consciousness, danger identification and avoidance. In this sense, timid children are much more sensible than children who can't see anything clearly and don't care about the past and the future. The more new knowledge you have, the more things you are afraid of. However, if you suppress your curiosity for self-protection, you will lose the opportunity to gain new experiences. If you are particularly timid, it is necessary to find out why. Why do children form a timid character? Children's timid character is influenced by certain genetic factors, but environmental influence is a more important factor to form cowardice. What parents do will inadvertently affect their children. Mothers will scream in fear when they see bugs or mice, and they will also bring fear to their children. Some parents use intimidation to stop their children from crying: "Don't cry, the wolf will eat you when he hears the child crying!" " "Or use a similar scare method to let the child sleep, so that the child's brain is frightened, and the uneasy * * * forms fear; Overindulgence and pampering of children will also make children timid. Therefore, the formation of children's timid character has a lot to do with parents. The future society needs strong and fearless people with brave spirit. Timidity always reminds people of cowardice, retreat and incompetence. In order to prevent children from becoming "cowards", in addition to avoiding the influence of the environment, children need to be trained to practice several bold sports in early childhood, which can make children brave. For example, skating, swimming, walking on the balance beam, diving, swinging and other sports that are considered by ordinary people to be difficult and require courage have no sense of difficulty and fear in the eyes of children. They don't know what is "difficult" and what is "easy", so it is easier to learn at this time. The sports they have learned during this period are not afraid of contact when they grow up, and they learn better than ordinary people. Children aged L-2 can practice walking on the balance beam after learning to walk. Although walking is not complicated, it is easy to shake and fall when standing high because of the influence of vision and the hint of psychological fear. This kind of action is easy to learn because the child is short and has a low center of gravity. On the one hand, it can cultivate their physical ability to master balance, on the other hand, it can also train their courage and concentration. At first, I walked on the cement stone strip on the roadside, then on the bench strip, and gradually walked on the high-level balance wood. Even if you haven't learned to walk independently on the flat ground, you can walk on the balance beam, mainly to familiarize your child with the ability to master body balance and the ability to adjust muscle tension at heights. Parents should show appreciation and encouragement to let their children walk, and don't make nervous expressions. Let children feel more novelty and happiness when they climb higher, and let them leave a happy impression. Don't deliberately scare children or make it more difficult, and rush to let them walk independently, which will lead to failure and make them ... >>

How to exercise children's courage

Psychologists believe that children are timid for the following reasons:

1. Congenital factors. Parents are introverted and not good at communicating with others, and children inherit their characteristics. Parents should understand their children's personality, let them have a gradual adaptation process, and at the same time give them as much care and love as possible, and encourage them to interact with others. Parents should be role models for their children, and don't show timidity in front of them whenever something happens.

2. Environmental factors. Nowadays, most people live in commercial housing, and the closed environment of one household makes children lack living space to communicate with their peers, which leads to their withdrawn and timid personality.

3. Improper education. When children cry, parents often use "ghosts" and "monsters" to scare children; There are also some parents who, when their children want to go out to play, use words such as "there are liars outside, they will cheat you away" to dispel their children's thoughts and leave a shadow in their hearts; Others expect too much from their children. Once children do something wrong, they will be reprimanded or beaten, which will make them flinch for fear of failure. Some children are timid and lack courage. One of the most important reasons is that parents pay too much attention to their children and even spoil them, replacing them in every detail, depriving them of the opportunity to try.

4. Personal experience. When children express themselves confidently in front of their parents, they get ridicule and sarcasm instead of praise, which makes them very depressed; Or when the child has an injection, the pain of touching the skin makes him afraid to go to the hospital next time. ...

After finding out the reasons, we should pay attention to the methods of education. For parents, they should be patient and careful when educating their children. When children are crying, we should educate them positively and don't scare them. Children should not be treated as "adults" and should not be asked to do things beyond their power with too high standards. Parents should spend as much time with their children as possible, play with him and inspire him to play new tricks. If parents can't play with their children because of something, they can agree where to play and how long to play under the premise of paying attention to safety. It is worth noting that when parents want to stop their children from going out to play, they must not scare their children with terrible stories. When the child comes home, let him tell the story of the play, and then evaluate the child's behavior, praise more and criticize less, which not only exercises the child's courage, but also cultivates the child's oral expression ability. If conditions permit, it is also a good way to cultivate children's courage to ask them to help buy some odds and ends or borrow things from neighbors. When a child encounters difficulties and setbacks, parents should tell him an easy-to-understand story in due course, telling him how human beings are not afraid of difficulties.

When cultivating children's social skills, parents are advised to create more opportunities for their children to communicate with others. When parents teach their children some communication skills, they should let their children undergo various exercises. For preschool children, cultivating their brave qualities mainly means: learning to endure and face when falling or having minor injuries; Disputes between peers should be resolved by themselves; Cultivate and encourage him to speak and perform when there are many people; Actively participate in sports activities, etc.

For most one-child families, only by boldly letting children do things and exercising in life can children become brave and strong and gradually grow into a brave person.

Children are timid, how to exercise their courage?

Shyness is a natural expression of human emotions. Almost everyone has experienced shyness, and babies are no exception 2-3-year-old babies are physically and mentally fragile, and it is normal to have "fear of life". With the continuous maturity of physical and mental development, most babies can bravely take their own steps and explore the outside world. Too shy babies are afraid of contact with the outside world and lose the opportunity to learn and be happy, which is very unfavorable for their development and communication. Let's take the pulse for these babies and find their shy The Secret Behind!

First of all, shyness is an advanced emotion of babies. Babies aged 2-3 tend to be timid and shy, and some parents directly put their babies into the shy circle, trying to correct their behavior. Actually, they "wronged" the baby. At this stage, the baby's self-awareness gradually develops, and they begin to care about other people's eyes and experience a period of shyness, which is a normal phenomenon of their emotional development. The baby will be shy, which means that his mood has become rich, so mom and dad don't have to be too nervous!

Second, the baby's temperament type. Every baby has a natural temperament, which can be divided into four types according to the traditional classification: choleric, sanguine, mucinous and depressive. Irritable babies are easily excited, unconstrained and easily lose their temper. A hot-blooded baby is sensitive and lively and can adapt to the external environment quickly. Babies with mucus are tough, slow and relatively stable. Depressed babies are timid, cautious and withdrawn. Depressed babies are more likely to be shy and shy when they are in contact with the outside world.

(1) Too indulgent or too strict. 2-3-year-old babies begin to explore strange environments. They are curious, curious and like to do things according to their own ideas. However, some parents regard the baby as a "treasure in their hands" and think that the baby is still young and can't do anything well, so they will do everything for him. This doting attitude hinders the development of the baby's autonomy, and the baby has doubts about his ability and formed a timid psychology. Autocratic parents, on the other hand, often give orders to their babies, adopt strict education methods, and criticize them at every turn. If the baby loses the space for free development, it will form submissive characters such as inferiority, shrinking back and shyness.

(2) "close" the baby at home. Some parents are afraid of taking their babies out for trouble, or worry about their safety, so they let their babies stay at home all day and deal with TV and books. Babies have little contact with people and lack opportunities for exercise. It is not surprising that they are timid and shy in the process of interacting with people.

(3) Make the baby feel insecure. Some parents often use their babies' fears to scare them, so as to make them obedient. For example, Xiaoru clamored to go out at night, and her mother told her that there were monsters outside, who ate children specially. Xiaoru was so scared that she stopped making trouble at once. Mom thinks this method is very effective and will continue to implement it in the future. Mom and dad scare the baby with words like "closing the darkroom" or "the monster is coming", and the baby will feel insecure. When the baby arrives in a strange environment, he will have fear, reject strangers and become timid.

Butch tip: There are so many secrets behind the baby's shyness! Mom and dad, come and feel the baby's pulse and find out why the baby is shy!

Shyness is our nature. For infants, the appearance of this advanced emotion is closely related to the development of their self-awareness. This shows that the baby has grown up and started to care about other people's evaluation of himself!

First, respect the baby's personality and leave a certain space for the baby. Introverted babies tend to be shy, which is determined by natural personality characteristics, but this is by no means a defect. Every baby is like a star in the sky and has its own bright spot. Although extroverted babies are lively and lovely, they are welcomed by more people, but introverted babies are calm and considerate, which is also a valuable quality. Mom and dad should respect the baby's personality and leave some room for the baby's free development.

Second, put an end to two behaviors-"labeling the baby" and "pushing the baby out". Mother took Ningning to a friend's house as a guest, but she didn't eat anything others gave her, and she didn't answer when asked. My mother felt very embarrassed and always explained that she was too shy. My mother labeled Ningning as "shy". Babies lack the ability to recognize, and when faced with shy labels, it is easy to be psychologically hinted that they are like this, thus becoming more shy about life. Therefore, mom and dad should never scold the baby in person and label the baby. Some parents find that their baby is timid and shy, and forcibly push the baby into a strange environment, thinking that more exercise can make the baby bigger ... >>

How to exercise the character and courage of a six-year-old child

If you want to teach children "how to get their things back", this concept is incorrect from the beginning. Do you want the children you will teach to be barbaric and survive by brute force? If this aspect is not properly guided, it is easy for children to form the wrong concept of "I want to get back what belongs to me", and it is easier to evolve into "I want to get back what I want" in the future. Children can be trained to protect themselves, including their own things. When someone robs him, you should tell your parents or other adults, and then get back what belongs to you in the right way. Never train him to rob. Some people may think that such a child will not suffer in the future, so he will be masculine. But don't forget that he is just a child, and his ability to distinguish right from wrong is not strong. In the future, when he tries to get what he wants, he will break the law and be punished. Is it too late to regret? It is right to cultivate courage, but the final direction should be clear, otherwise it is easy to mislead children. Parents often like to tell their children: "Don't be afraid, it's okay." "Don't be afraid, isn't that enough?" This kind of words may be nothing to adults, but from the point of view of children, the meaning behind these words is: "You just like to make a fuss." "Why are you so timid?" This reproachful tone often makes children feel unhappy and even more timid. Forcing children to grow up will only make them more resistant to growth. You should tell your child this way: "You must feel very scared, let's hear it ~" Let the child tell his inner fears (some trivial things that we think may be serious for the child, especially the three-year-old child), then calm his heart and tell him that he wants to break through, but at the same time emphasize that you will accompany him to break through, support him behind his back and increase his confidence. When he does the right thing, give him appropriate encouragement. Once children no longer feel that they need to face their fears alone, they often bravely break through themselves.

How to exercise children's courage

Coup 1: Give children incentives.

First of all, you can give children some incentives, such as participating in school performances and rewarding a toy; Participate in recitation competitions, reward big meals, etc. Can let the child's courage be exercised.

Coup 2: Encourage children to complete tasks independently.

Encourage children, tell them to do something independently, and give them some confidence.

Coup 3: Parents should give some help.

When children are trying something, parents must give help to help them overcome their timidity on the premise of protecting their safety.

How to exercise your courage, take your child out to see the world, and exercise your child's courage.

First, cultivate self-confidence. Only those who are confident will have courage. How to cultivate self-confidence is to have self-confidence and keep repeating something. If you succeed, praise it in due course.

Second, cultivate curiosity, only curious people will have the motivation to act. People who have the ability to act are not timid, but naturally have courage.

How to exercise your courage, take your child out to see the world and exercise your child.

You can go to summer camp. You can also take some classes with people your age. Just communicate with your peers more. It's simple.