There must be a makeup that is accurate enough to take a selfie without pores, a dress that is fashionable and beautiful and fits the forefront of the trend, and an aura that walks in the crowd and looks up at the person you like bravely. Always keep smiling, dignified and elegant, love fitness and running, have a hot body, dare to yearn for the stars and the sea and leave for half a life, and come back with a poem and a book in his stomach when he was a teenager.
Therefore, we listen to beauty bloggers make up an hour early every day and spend an hour every day applying layers of skin care products on their faces; We listen to the frugality of fashion bloggers and buy a "exquisite girl" dress; Listen to the one-hour keep exquisite life of fitness bloggers every day, starting from me; Listen to the travel blogger's "100 places where exquisite girls must go"; Listen to the reading blogger's "After reading this book, you are one step closer to exquisiteness".
We listened to what so many people said, but forgot to listen to what we were thinking. Do you really want to be a delicate girl, dress beautifully and live a healthy life, or do you just want to stay away from the trend and not appear speechless at friends' parties? I don't deny that the exquisite life of bloggers is beautiful, because I once yearned for and pursued it. But when the passion for pursuing exquisiteness retreats, it brings me more confusion.
Today, when the media touts "exquisite girls", it seems that learning to be exquisite is the only way out for women's life today. We are like a porcelain that has just been burned and is about to leave the factory. We should not only accept external considerations, but also compare ourselves with others in a box. Whether my makeup is intact, whether my clothes are fashionable, whether I have a niche specialty to compare with others, and whether I can get enough envious eyes on the "exquisite" battlefield.
Just like ancient women bound their feet for beauty, women are proud of the three-inch golden lotus Scarlett, who used to have a thin waist in Europe, stabbed her waist to death in Gone with the Wind. Deliberately emphasizing exquisiteness in this era has become today's aesthetic trend. Win the public's favor with a nice name, and then the media deliberately promote it so that people are willing to wear corsets. Girls who are spurred by the times, regardless of their own style, all rush to the exquisite road first.
When everyone is pursuing exquisite self-denial and beauty, I suddenly miss that kind of unrestrained freedom. I miss Ge You's coziness lying on the sofa, chatting with friends while eating, the freedom of not caring about spitting in the dishes, the cleanness of laughing without worrying about the heat of the cone, and the satisfaction of eating the second half price alone. It's good to live exquisitely, but I just want to be a weed fluttering in the wind.
Everyone has their own growth posture. The exquisite shell is so beautiful that it is not necessary for everyone to wear the same clothes for themselves. Even if peony is really beautiful, orchids, plum blossoms, lotus flowers and chrysanthemums still have a place in the world of flowers. Today, even the small wildflowers on the roadside can be beautiful. Why force yourself to become a peony? No matter how beautiful the peony is, it will still be tired after a long time.
Exquisiteness is fashion, but it doesn't prevent me from going out without makeup; Restraint is pleasant, but I don't need to feel guilty if I want a piece of cheesecake occasionally; Traveling is a good way to increase my knowledge, but I am also happy to stay at home and watch movies and play games. Classic reading is meaningful, but I prefer science fiction and modern literature. Beautiful skirts are exciting, but I'm too cool to have any friends in pants.
Because I love the world, I want to live with a comfortable mind. It can be as fashionable as makeup, clean and tidy, as restless as traveling, or as staying at home, making home the most comfortable place in the world. As long as my life is what I love and is not limited by a certain direction, it is a good life. Exquisite is a road with good scenery, but you can meet different scenery by choosing other roads. Being a delicate girl is just one of the choices, not a certain trajectory of life.
We may need exquisiteness, but it is not the exquisiteness that the media has nailed down. The exquisiteness of life does not lie in the beautiful appearance and figure, nor in how many places you have been and how many books you have read. I understand exquisiteness as having inner independence, self-judgment on beauty, persistent pursuit of dreams, persistence that is not easily influenced by the outside world, peace that is not depressed when things go wrong, and peace that is not proud when things go wrong. You dare to work hard for the public aesthetics and dare to listen to your inner voice. Maybe one day, we won't be bothered by the definition of "exquisiteness", and we will have a truly exquisite life.
Finally, I hope you are exquisite, but I hope you are free.
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