It's too slow to reply one by one.
So I'm here to reply all of them.
First, it depends on what the man looks like. If he thinks it's at least average, please look down.
Secondly, if you are not only average-looking, but also handsome and sunny, you don't have to look down. Congratulations. Generally speaking, as long as there is no problem with language expression, no matter you are a good person or a bad person, there is a great chance of catching up with the girl you like.
The third kind is ordinary people. How to judge that others have a good impression on you? Is it because I don't ignore you that I have a crush on you? I don't think anyone will refuse to make more friends or know more people now. Don't treat the opposite sex in addition to affection is as cold as ice, best decission? Anyway, I have never seen such a person. To judge whether she really likes you, I think it depends on whether what she has done to you is beyond the proper relationship of friends, such as some small moves when you are together, the content of the conversation, what she will ask when she talks to you, whether she wants to know about your life and so on. This is probably related to the girl's own personality. Maybe everyone will think that the standard for judging whether they have a good impression is too high. But please also note that no one said that you can't catch it if you don't like it. The above is just to discuss whether there is a good impression. In fact, in real life, this kind of situation does not often happen. A large part of it, let's just say that couples are temporarily divorced, and it's not just boys who exchange their hearts.
Having said that, I just hope that many boys will not hesitate and worry about whether the people they like like like themselves or not. Let go of your own way to pursue the happiness you think. As long as you are really nice to her and the girl is not, she knows how to measure it. In addition, I hope you don't always want to know what the girl you like is thinking, just like a person can never guess his own destiny. Do more things for her with the energy and time of guessing. At least helping others is a happy thing, isn't it?
There is no fixed formula for the relationship between people. It needs the love of both sides,
Give both sides space to understand each other's wishes and needs, what they can do and their different lives.
People always ask: What is love? What is like?
I have heard people say before that love is deep love and love is light love. However, this explanation seems very abstract to me. Because, I just don't understand what love is and what I like! Although there is some truth in this statement, it is always vague. Of course, some people say that love needs no explanation, because it has no reason at all. If you can find a reason to love someone, one day, you can also find a reason not to love him. However, people are so strange that they can't help asking: Why on earth did I fall in love with him?
Why is the reason so important? Because, we will be afraid! What are you afraid of? Afraid that we love the wrong person, afraid that we will blindly pay all our efforts, but in the end we will not bear fruit. So, we rack our brains desperately to find a perfect annotation for love. Only in this way can we have more courage when we love someone. Because, everyone is afraid of loving the wrong person, and they are afraid that a piece of sincerity will fall into the water.
But we ask ourselves, is it really that complicated? Destiny takes a hand, he is the person you are destined to fall in love with. Emotionally speaking, he is another semicircle you are looking for. To be rational, he is the only one who can enter your eyes at present. No matter what you say, falling in love is falling in love. It doesn't matter what the reason is Because, realistically speaking, it doesn't matter at all.
Of course, I will say this, provided that you are in love. If you are just moved and still in the wait-and-see stage, then you may be able to use your reason and go well &; Uot evaluation &; Uot for a while. But then again, if you really have this reason, such love is too much, just like choosing goods in the market. Even, I will think that when we can fall in love rationally and consider whether the other person's conditions are suitable for us, such a person does not simply want to fall in love, but wants to get married for a rainy day. Of course, this is very practical, and it is not necessarily less romantic.
There are always people who are too rational, and there must be people who are extremely romantic. I'm not saying that you don't have to think about many things when you fall in love. I just think it's totally much ado about nothing to presuppose the consequences of your's relations. Because, who knows what will happen in the future? Everything you think now, will the future be as you wish?
You will say, at least I have figured it out now! That's true, but if the future changes, you'll have to reconsider. You waste less time than people who think nothing! No wonder the ancients said that fools are blessed with fools, and sometimes it may be true. Of course you can be a smart person, as long as you are not confused by intelligence. What's more, falling in love is not simple enough to be universally applicable. The object you will fall in love with may be despised by others; You may scoff at what others see, don't you?
Since love is such a personal matter, you should leave everything to your present mind and love the person you choose! After all, he touched your heartstrings, although he probably touched others' heartstrings at the same time. If we find the root cause and find that we only find reasons for love because we are afraid of getting hurt, then we should review ourselves in turn. Why are we afraid? Instead of trying to find a reason to love, and then relying on that reason to let yourself love.
If one day, you look at the person you love and want to ask: Why do you love him? On the other hand, how to make him love you more, how to make you love him more, and how to make this love last forever? In the process of love, it is impossible to be completely sweet. There are always moments of embarrassment and quarrel between two people. When you complain angrily about why you have to torture yourself by falling in love with him, think about happy times. At that time, you will find that love is love. For whatever reason, you just can't bear to part with him, even if you spit out a jar of blood.
I always thought that if you fall in love with someone, you should love him well! Maybe you will get hurt in the future, but at least, you are worthy of yourself and the fact that you once loved him. As for the reason for falling in love with him, who cares! Will you love him more for this reason? If so, then I'm beginning to worry that one day another person will provide you with a better reason to be half-hearted. Sometimes, you might as well learn to be open-minded! Although some people always say that youth is limited, don't waste time loving the wrong person, but who wants to love the wrong person? There are always some things we can't do and we can't predict the consequences.
So, love is love, love is good, otherwise, I hope you have a full reason to be smart and let time dilute your's feelings, otherwise, if you have plunged into love, then, manage well and work together! Otherwise, if you don't love, there won't be so much trouble! I think the efforts of two people are far more important and practical than finding a reason for love!
This is the conclusion reached after repeatedly looking for reasons for love. I hope I don't have to think about why I fell in love with him in the future. I want to use this time to love him. Because this is the most important thing in love. You say, is it?
First, what kind of first impression should I leave on MM (time: I just started to contact MM)
1, I think the most important thing is to let MM see your self-motivated.
The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.
Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.
2. Be confident and responsible.
Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.
It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.
Not too formal, but not too casual.
Where it is serious, it is serious. It's funny when it's funny.
Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.
Step 4 look mature
A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.
Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting to chase)
1, the most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.
Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.
Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you come out resolutely from the beginning, you will basically be bored back immediately.
Step 2 start with a low profile
First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".
Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !
This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.
Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.
Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).
Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.
Also, don't show the ambition of "you don't want to marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.
4. Create opportunities appropriately.
I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.
You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.
In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.
5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.
Some people are eager to chase girls and like to give things to others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.
As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will try to repay you. If there is no way to pay you back, they will try to stay away from you so as not to owe you a favor all the time.
If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.
Third, what is a "girlfriend"?
1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise.
You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". One sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand. In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.
I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "
So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.
2. What is "confession"?
As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem. They always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say that they are very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".
3. Have you ever had to confess?
Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.
At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.
4. Don't export the word "love" easily.
I often see "bold confession". To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.
A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.
Fourth, civilization; Love can't be forced
1, not every MM can catch up.
There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin.
Look at the problem from another angle. No matter how nice she is to you, a little rural nanny who didn't graduate from primary school will be willing to be a cow and a horse for you, and you won't fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.
So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.
2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity.
Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself.
Finally, add two points:
Never show cynicism in front of MM. Cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser".
(2) After reading it, no matter what? You have to thank others first, or you will never get a wife (* _ _ *) Hee hee ... You added it yourself.