What kind of life should I live at the age of fifty?
Before retirement age, I was busy with my daily work during the day. When I came home from work, the house was brightly lit, the food was delicious, and there was a smiling lover. After dinner, hold hands with your lover, take a walk on the roadside and dance square dance.
On holidays, children go home and the family is happy. Shopping in the market, making soup, joking with a stern face and a coquetry face. There are lovers' nagging and children's laughter. Life is helpless and life is colorful.
Some people, at the age of 50, should be healthy and energetic. They can talk and laugh with their children and lovers. They may not be able to cook well in the kitchen, but they can certainly bear the responsibilities and burdens of the family.
But some people, at the age of fifty, suddenly died.
On the morning of October 29th, 65438/kloc-0, Havin said in Weibo, "In the United States, after 17 months of anti-cancer treatment, I lost my love forever at 5: 20 am on October 25th, 20 18 ..."
At this moment, how many people, like me, can hardly believe Havin's Weibo content. How is that possible? Teacher Li Yong is only fifty years old!
1, life can go on anyway, but life is not controlled by people.
There is a popular saying, "It's easy to live, but it's not easy to live."
But in fact, no matter whether you work hard or do nothing, life will continue no matter how bitter it is, but everyone's lifestyle is different. However, human life is extremely fragile, there will be diseases and unexpected accidents, and no one knows his own tomorrow.
I was ill for some time. I asked my husband, "What if I suddenly leave you one day?"
The question was very sentimental, but I couldn't help crying at the moment I asked it.
I am sad that I can't grow old with my relatives and move towards old age; I am very sad. If I leave, what should I do with the person I love? I am very sad, with the person I love most, when I face where you are going, I feel helpless and miserable.
How many couples in the world are in love? They thought they could go hand in hand and spend the rest of their lives together. But how many couples in the world, who love each other so much and live so hard, still can't compete with fate.
65438+1In the early morning of October 25th, when the morning came, Teacher Li Yong never saw the first ray of sunshine that morning. And we can't imagine how dark and painful Havin's world was at that moment.
The sun rises as usual and the sun still shines on the earth. Just like yesterday and the day before yesterday, people will rush through the street corner, cross the intersection, run around, live, love the people around them and worry about the unfinished work yesterday. We will mourn for Mr. Li Yong, miss the joy that Mr. Li Yong brought us when we were growing up, and burst into tears while mourning and mourning.
However, we will eventually forget this day.
However, Havin's world changed completely on this day.
2. Love when you are alive, at least leave without regrets.
The society is impetuous and many people are restless. How many young men and women have gone their separate ways after entering marriage, and there is no itch for seven years; How many couples can still maintain their deep love for each other after being married for more than ten or twenty years?
I have read such a passage, "A better marriage turns love into affection, a worse marriage and affection are exhausted by trivial matters, and even marriage becomes a grave, which makes many couples break up."
The affection between Li Yong and Havin has become a unique landscape in this impetuous society, which is more impetuous than the entertainment society.
As a famous host of CCTV, Teacher Li Yong is also a romantic, considerate and loving husband.
Ha Wen was a college classmate of his first lover, Li Yong, and later a colleague of CCTV. From campus to the workplace, from youth to youth, from love at first sight to never giving up, from the most confused time to the most certain time in life. He only loves Havin.
Love to the extreme, beyond words.
Teacher Li Yong not only loves and cherishes Havin in daily life, but also often publicly expresses his love and gratitude to his wife in the media. In addition, he also wrote love into his self-report article, commemorating all the knots and fetters in love and marriage with words.
It was love at first sight when I was nineteen years old, and I used a pen to draw pictures for the moved girls in class every day. After marriage, even the old couple will be anxious and depressed because of the separation at work.
What moved me most was that after they had been married for many years, Mr. Li Yong always had a regret in his heart. Because of the limited conditions when they got married, he and Ha Wen only got a marriage certificate and didn't even take wedding photos. Later, he said to Havin, "When we first married me, there was nothing. I really wronged you. Now I want you to marry me again. " So, Teacher Li Yong took his wife to take wedding photos and buy a ring.
Around us, most men value face very much, and even value face more than feelings, so when there is a contradiction with their wives, because of face, they will never humbly apologize to their wives, even if they know they are wrong.
However, Li Yong once talked about his love with Havin on the show. For more than 20 years, the contradiction does not happen overnight. He also said: "It is a virtue for a man to apologize to the woman he loves."
Because "I love you", I am willing to try my best to have you.
Because "I love you", all the efforts and treasures are to accompany you without regrets.
3, people sleep, no matter how much regret can only be regret.
Weibo, who lost my beloved Havin forever, touched the hearts of countless lovers. Many people are feeling: Teacher Li Yong is gone, what should Havin do?
Life will go on. Havin will take his daughter to start a new life after enduring great pain in a world without Li Yong.
Fortunately, from 19 years old, love at first sight to marriage. 1992 got married, and then at the last moment of her life, Li Yong devoted all her love to Havin, accompanied her wholeheartedly, and tried her best to protect the people she loved, just for one day to leave without regrets.
I once wrote in If there is no afterlife, will you regret not loving each other in this life? ? "I wrote a story about my uncle and his aunt before they died.
As mentioned in the story, it didn't take long for my uncle and aunt to be diagnosed with gastric cancer.
If it's a lot of people, probably in this situation of neither fame nor hope, they have to stay away from it. However, my aunt stays in front of my uncle's bed every day. After his death, not only did she get nothing, but even during his hospitalization, she gave some money as a subsidy.
When my uncle was still alive, the longest time I spent with that aunt was probably the company in the hospital. When a group of younger generations can't watch day after day, my aunt peels apples, carries water, feeds, reads newspapers and chats day after day.
I will always remember that when I visited my uncle, I just walked outside the ward and heard him say to my aunt, "You are still young, find someone to marry."
Aunt said: "I am so with you, I am happy."
Uncle said, "I kept you."
Aunt blew her nose, the same three words, "I am happy."
Uncle walked fast, but not suddenly. Stomach trouble tormented him for nearly two years. In those two years, menstruation stayed with him from beginning to end. Never give up and never give up.
Many years after my uncle's death, my father also went to see my aunt with gifts, probably because he was grateful for his persistence and care for many years, but my aunt has been alone for so many years.
If there is no regret, it must be false.
If uncle is still here, he will take good care of his aunt, take her to see the mountains and rivers, take her to eat street snacks, take her to the most beautiful hills and watch the sunrise and sunset.
But once people are gone, no matter how much regret they have, they can only regret forever with the cessation of life.
No amount of regret can make up for a person's sleep.
Life comes and goes, and the future is really not long.
The biggest mistake in life is to think that you have a lot of time. I always feel that the years are long and there is plenty of time to waste and wait. I always feel that there will be a lot of things tomorrow, and there is no need to rush a lot of things. Many people don't need to meet once.
But in fact, life comes and goes, and there really isn't that much time. The rest of my life is too expensive to waste.
Mo Yan once told such a story: I chatted with a classmate many years ago. Shortly after his wife died, he told me that when he was sorting out his wife's things, he found a silk scarf, which they bought in a famous brand shop when they traveled to new york.
It's an elegant and beautiful brand-name scarf with a high price tag on it. His wife has been reluctant to use it. She wants to wait until a special day to use it.
At this point, he stopped and I didn't answer. After a while, he said, "Never save good things for a special day. Every day you live is a special day. "
So, treat life well and love the lover around you.
If there is any misunderstanding, just say it; If you have any ideas, just communicate; Change if there is a mistake; If you have any problems, just solve them together. Don't wait until it's too late to realize it's too late.
Don't think that life can be in our hands by eating three meals a day and working regularly. It can only be said that after all accidents are ruled out, eating well, sleeping well, exercising and paying attention to health are the most harmonious ways with life.
As for when the accident will come, we can only leave it to fate.
Everyone's life is limited. In a limited time, love the person you love the most and be the best you can be.
As Teacher Li Yong said before his death, "A lifetime is very short. There are people you love and people you love, people you care about and people who care about you. Don't wait too late to remember. "