Women and men are different in physical, psychological and sexual concepts. They are not only late in sexual impulse, but also more ashamed of sex than men. On the wedding night, suddenly a man was in bed with himself. For him, he had to experience a novel and painful experience. Naturally, she is a little timid and hesitant, in a state of anxiety and expectation. On the wedding night, men are often carried away by passion, so that they take unexpected measures, which sharply increases the anxiety and fear of the bride, forming a situation of "one eager to try and one unwilling to refuse". At this time, if the bride forces sexual intercourse regardless of her inner pain, it will definitely hurt her psychology. Not only will the husband and wife's life not be harmonious, but even psychological obstacles will be formed, which will become an insurmountable obstacle to marriage. Therefore, on the wedding night, the groom should understand these psychological characteristics of the bride, understand the bride's mood, control his enthusiasm with reason, win the bride's complete trust with love, and resolve her inner anxiety. Don't rush to sleep when the guests are gone. You can chat with the bride to relieve fatigue and tension, or leave the bridal chamber for a while and let the bride take off her clothes and be mentally prepared. After going to bed, first of all, lie down beside the bride, gently caress her, and gently touch her face, hands and shoulders with her hands, so that she feels that her husband touches her body is a kind of happiness. When she quietly approaches the groom without any resentment, tell her how much you love her while moving, and tell her that they will never part after marriage. These practices can help the bride overcome shyness and fear and release her inner anxiety. Finally, the groom can approach the bride step by step and let her feel the warmth of the groom. And her sexual desire is gradually stimulated by such proximity. These gentle actions, sweet words and intimate kisses are getting stronger and stronger, and soon you can feel the bride's love for the groom and her gradual approach. Then continue to touch, kiss, hug and talk for a while. When the bride also has a strong sexual desire, she can have formal sexual intercourse. This kind of physical combination when the two sides reach sexual arousal is a clever combination of spirit and flesh, which will make both sides enjoy unspeakable happiness and sweetness. When sexual intercourse has been successfully completed, all the shyness and fear of the bride will naturally disappear completely, leaving only the feeling of loving her husband and doing her duty in her mind. So far, it has laid a good foundation for the happiness of family life. If the groom touches her secret part, she will still feel a little scared. If she refuses the groom or pushes him away, the groom must not go his own way, but should temporarily suspend the progress, but can continue to try kissing or hugging to see if the bride's refusal can be overcome slowly. If the groom thinks that the bride's refusal is real and difficult to overcome for a while, he should stop and start again later. Don't be too hasty It is common for some brides to refuse sexual intercourse within a few days after marriage because of past panic, fear, shyness or sexual psychological harm. As long as the groom can constantly stimulate her sexual desire in the above ways, she will eventually be completely conquered, and the passionate desires and demands will eventually be combined with the groom, so that the desires of mind and body can be synchronized. In a word, reason, patience and skill are the only way for an open husband to conquer a shy wife.