At the mention of the word "bride price", many people are scared to death. In fact, if you look at the history books, you will know that the bride price is only the blessing of the ancients to the newcomers. But now the bride price has become the center of many family conflicts, especially some rural families. The high bride price makes them miserable. Although the country has introduced the corresponding checks and balances policy, in some remote areas, they will still ask for money under various excuses, except my hometown.

In order to marry a daughter-in-law, many male families have to bow their heads before the high bride price. In my hometown, the bride price is generally around 6,543.8+10,000 yuan (only about 6,543.8+10,000 yuan five years ago). For ordinary rural families, it is very difficult to get a bride price of 654.38+ 10,000. If you meet a boring woman again, it will easily lead to contradictions and even conflicts.

I received a private letter from reader Xiao Fang yesterday. Speaking of Xiao Fang, I personally admire this big boy. He is a rural child. When he was five years old, his father died for some reason. His mother brought him up with great pains. In order to support Xiao Fang to go to school, my mother works three jobs during the day and helps people wear mutton kebabs at night, just to earn more 10 yuan. Every time Xiao Fang wakes up in the middle of the night, her mother still wears them.

Later, Xiao Fang was admitted to the university with great interest. When she received the notice, her mother read the portrait of her father word for word three times. Finally, her mother shed tears. After entering the university, Xiaofang not only studied, but also found various part-time jobs to make money. College life is too full for her to love. After graduating from college, Xiao Fang found a good job with his good professional achievements, and his basic salary was much higher than that of fresh graduates of the same age.

After work, Xiao Fang's family is slightly better, and her mother doesn't have to work so hard. Xiao Fang has never been in love because of her introverted personality and almost no contact with girls during her college years. During this period, I was introduced to Xiao Fang, but for various reasons, Xiao Fang and the other party didn't follow. Finally, Xiao Fang listened to her mother's advice and decided to find one in her hometown. Although Xiao Fang is unwilling, the reality is so cruel.

Introduced by relatives in my hometown, Xiao Fang met this girl, A Qian, who is also a famous beautiful girl in Shili Baxiang. There is a lot of media publicity every day, but A Qian's requirements are more demanding. The bride price is not only much higher, but also has a degree. But A Qian values the latter more, so few people meet this requirement, so it is delayed.

After Xiao Fang and Aqian got to know each other, they were both very satisfied (the blind date in rural areas is usually based on the woman, so long as the woman is satisfied, the marriage can basically be achieved. However, when the parents of both sides discussed the bride price, they were deadlocked. A Qian's parents asked for a bride price of 654.38 million yuan, which is not negotiable. Although Xiao Fang and her parents talked about the current difficulties in turn, Aqian's parents simply ignored them. Xiao Fang wanted to talk to Aqian about the situation for her, but she refused. A Qian said confidently, "My parents have raised me for years, and I don't want 65,438+10,000."

Finally, Xiao Fang decided to agree to this condition. To this end, he borrowed all the relatives and friends around him and worked for the company for half a year in advance. This just got enough bride price. After receiving the bride price, A Qian's parents were overjoyed and said, "We are not insatiable people and will not ask for money again." On the wedding day, Xiao Fang led the motorcade to pick up the bride. When the parties came to the bride's house happily and were ready to pick up the bride, they were stopped by the bride's aunt and said, "Take another 8,000 yuan as a sedan chair gift, or you won't be allowed to pick up the bride." Everyone around agrees that this is a rule that must be taken.

At this time, Xiao Fang went to ask Aqian about the situation, and Aqian also affirmed it. Aqian said, "We took all the 65438+ 10,000 bridesmaids, and this 8000 is not bad. Take the wine, or we really can't get married. It's a shame. " As soon as Ah Qian's words were finished, Xiao Fang felt like an overturned cruet. Regardless of whether the 8000 sedan chair gift can be taken out, the woman's practice alone, coupled with Qian's words, made Xiao Fang very angry. Xiao Fang thought for 10 minutes, and then said slowly, "If you don't pick up, you won't pick up. Let's break off our marriage. " Say that finish, Xiao Fang left the woman's house with the team.

After reading Xiao Fang's private letter, I suddenly didn't know how to persuade Xiao Fang, but after thinking for half an hour, I still affirmed Xiao Fang's decision. Although it is only 8 thousand yuan as a sedan chair gift for outsiders, it seems to me to be an attitude. If this 8,000 yuan is agreed in advance, instead of on the wedding day, maybe Xiao Fang will accept it. I believe others will make the same decision as Xiao Fang, and I want to say it.

Finally, the Xiao Fang incident warns female readers that it is understandable to ask for a bride price, but it should be acceptable to both families. As the saying goes, "ten miles are different", and the customs in some places may be different, especially for such a big event as marriage, so I think it should be made clear in advance, and we can't sit on the ground and start the price. This is undoubtedly a manifestation of bad character and a blasphemy against marriage.