Some people say that marriage is a besieged city. You walk in alive and come out with blood. Others argue that the high divorce rate is the progress of society.

The reflection of the steps. Marriage is the ultimate destination of two people's feelings. People in love are full of yearning for marriage. In marriage,

Some people are a little disappointed in their married life. There is a saying in the ancients: it makes sense that each family is suitable.

Before and after marriage, the same person is a different person. Not both parties want to change, but they have to change.

Before marriage, both parties were independent, most of them were still young, supported by their parents in the world, and had no burden on their children. The so-called one person is full.

The whole family is not hungry, which is the reason. At this time, the other party has no burden and can do whatever he wants.

Let your mood, whether it's men chasing women or women chasing men, give everything for love for no reason.

Therefore, there is no need to hesitate or think, as long as it can make the other party happy, even if it is heavily in debt! marry

Two people who are together for the first time will feel happy and romantic no matter how bad they eat every day. Still like this after marriage, it will make the other person feel that he is.

There is no hope, no future and no progress, but people are not satisfied. Even if you give each other meat every day for a long time, you won't feel it.

Eat delicious food, unless you keep improving, but the reality is that you can't change it if you want to. marry

After the emergence of the right relationship, the economic ability of both sides will make both sides feel their commitment to this family. If you pay monthly,

In 2000, the other party earns more than 2000 per month, so naturally the other party will feel that they have paid too much, even if you are tired every day.

Earn 2000 yuan a month, and it's useless for the other party to sit in the office and get 3000 yuan. At this time, the one who pays more will always feel.

I think what I said is justified. Of course, this is the accumulated consciousness gap after marriage. And with

With the size of the economic gap, family status is particularly obvious. This is an unchangeable fact, and it is certainly tolerant of people.

Understand each other. This kind of thing won't happen, but it will be less and less.

That is the reality. Some people say that if I really love you, I won't. That can only say that such things are rare, especially now.

In today's society, we don't feel the pressure of life at all. Only when we bear the pressure of life can we know what the reality is. In that way

The stress in the second half of life comes from economic problems in real life.

Before marriage: parents can help you, and you don't even have to make money. At this time, all you need to pay is to pay.

The other party creates surprises, romance and gifts. The only thing to consider now is to live a wonderful life, which is a matter for young people. No negative effects.

Bear, do not need to bear any responsibility, get together when you are happy, and divide when you are unhappy.

Marriage: at this time, if the woman's requirements are not high, the wedding, banquet, dowry and dowry should be considered.

After marriage: just two words, responsibility, responsibility is greater than everything. At this time of the general family, parents no longer support, so all

Everything depends on yourself. With a house and a car, the family economy is ok, and the pressure is less. If there is no room, no car pressure

It's even bigger. When there are no children, we should consider the food, clothing, housing and transportation of two people, that is, the living expenses, and then prepare to have children.

Education, medical insurance, buying a house, buying a car, insurance, when a child is born, there are three people, food, clothing, housing, milk powder, education and children.

The tuition fee for children to go to school, the school district room, if they want to make their children better, what interest classes and extracurricular tutoring are available, and their parents are old.

Then we must consider giving them old-age care in the future in advance. It is impossible to take one step at a time, and there are old and small, and

For the health of the whole family, I have to see a doctor and take medicine. This is just a part of it.

When you are alive, there are often more pressures, which can't be understood simply by saying it. It depends on who is under more pressure.

People who bear more, and then change faster, will feel that the other person has changed, not their former self.

At this time, we need tolerance, consideration and understanding. If not, it is more likely to be a divorce. You need it after you get married.

Can couples think about the future together? If not, unless you are lucky or

Give up your responsibility, or it will be a tragedy. This tragedy may befall you, and more people will befall you.

On the child. After marriage, you need constant patience, tolerance, consideration and understanding. This tolerance and understanding are the same.

Mutual, if it is only unilateral, it will not work. It is often not love that makes a couple grow old together, but love.

Family, there is love between families, but that is not love. Family members are often noisy, but they still love each other. if

We all try to bear each other's burden, even all of it, which is not desirable and will be unbearable one day.

It is better to take it together, just like when we are in love, we can be together, and this includes all the good things together.

Not so good.

Before marriage, many things of the other party are unknown, and people are more curious about the unknown things, seemingly mysterious, and want to explore.

Now, so I will be more concerned about what the other person is doing, where he is, what he is doing, whether he has eaten, whether he is hungry or not, and how he is.

Wait, this forms the fact that the other person really cares about himself. Even if you know the other person has another friend of the opposite sex.

You will feel normal, and you may make yourself work harder to get each other's good feelings and feelings. Both parties have a long time after marriage.

Together, there are no more secrets, and the laws of daily life have long been known. Where is the other party at this time?

What are you doing, what are you doing, how is your health, and how is your life? All this is not unknown, so it is impossible.

When we were eating together, did we ask each other if they had eaten? What did you eat? Are you asleep? If there is a secret, or the other party,

Violation of this daily law will lead to problems, and this problem will become various problems and even worry about doubts.

Whether to cheat or not is of course the worst, but it is also inevitable. If you don't worry or doubt, then

It seems that the other person doesn't care about himself, doesn't care about himself, so-called doubt is wrong, no doubt is wrong, and there is no solution.

Here comes the problem.

Before marriage: all your shortcomings, all your faults, are just a feeling of the other party.

After marriage: all your shortcomings, all your shortcomings, will become the pressure and responsibility that the other party needs to bear.

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Before marriage: Where did the money go? I spent it all for you.

After marriage: Where did the money go? This is for the family.

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Before marriage: money is nothing, money is spent when it is earned, and love comes first;

After marriage: What is love? Don't buy me a bag, and don't spend money. If you don't give it, it's not love.

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Before marriage: love comes first, and it is important that your attitude towards me determines everything;

After marriage: money comes first, responsibility decides everything, and everything prepares for the future.

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Before marriage: my money and my husband's money are their money;

After marriage: the family money is the family money, and the children's money is the children's. No one can spend money indiscriminately.

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Before marriage: the husband can rely on;

After marriage: the husband can rely on it, but he can no longer rely on it. The economic base determines his position.

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Before marriage: money is not everything;

After marriage: you can't do anything without money.

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Before marriage: moonlight clan, use flowers, and use next month's if it is not enough;

After marriage: make plans for tomorrow, next month, next year and the rest of your life. Children can use it for a lifetime.

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Before marriage: spend money without frowning;

After marriage: Start shopping cheaply online.

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Before marriage: the other person's family is poor, which has nothing to do with me. We can earn slowly without money;

After marriage: it's really hard to make money. The hardest thing is that not only can we not count on our parents, but our parents also count on us to raise them.

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Before marriage: after marriage, two people go everywhere to play and travel;

After marriage: traveling after marriage is not a fart, but saving money to buy a house and have children to support the elderly is serious.

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Before marriage: where to eat today,

After marriage: Help yourself to something to eat today.

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Before marriage: I want to have my own husband and children, and I want to be good to them;

After marriage: the child is his own, but the husband is not. Can be changed, so the child should be right.

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Before marriage: lying together likes to cover the same quilt;

After marriage: I snore when I sleep and always pull the quilt. I still sleep well under cover.

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Before marriage: two people should respect each other as guests, understand each other and pay each other;

After marriage: Why do I always have to make way for you, but you can't make way for me?

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Before marriage: the most important thing between two adults is rational communication;

After marriage: communication is an armchair strategist. You can bear it. If you can't bear it, you can't bear it.

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Before marriage: you can slowly change your bad habits;

After marriage: Can this bad habit be changed?

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Before marriage: whenever I am angry, he gives way to me and understands me;

After marriage: Why hasn't he apologized?

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Before marriage: it doesn't matter if I wash the dishes a few times more, as long as he is really good to me;

After marriage: Why can't he help me every time I wash the dishes?

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Before marriage: when I am hungry, someone will cook for me, and no matter how late I get off work, someone will pick me up;

After marriage: an air conditioner+takeaway+taxi = solve all problems.

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Before marriage: when you get married, you always have a shoulder to lean on and a partner to face everything with you;

After marriage: Did you find a partner or ancestor when you got married?

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Before marriage: try to be a good wife and husband;

After marriage: don't call yourself a metropolis before marriage, otherwise it will be your job in the future and you can't get rid of it.

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Before marriage: find a filial one;

After marriage: people are good to their parents, but not necessarily to you. Parents are old, but not old!

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Before marriage: if you disagree with him, you may get divorced;

After marriage: I'll make do, and then I'll find someone with a worse interest.

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Before marriage: the power of love is infinite, and marriage without love is not feasible;

After marriage: love is insignificant for marriage, and a sense of responsibility is the guarantee of a solid marriage.

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Before marriage: as long as there is him, suffering is sweet;

After marriage: I am so naive, this is really too bitter!

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Before marriage: lose weight in love! Lose weight!

After marriage: In order to live longer, don't lose weight for no reason, but pay attention to maintenance.

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Before marriage: I must clean up and get rid of littering;

After marriage: Is there any way to hide the sundries so as not to be conspicuous?

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Before marriage: I want to learn to cook the most difficult, complicated and gorgeous dishes!

After marriage: How can I make a delicious meal simply and quickly?

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Before marriage: I don't think the other person's family background affects feelings;

After marriage: I deeply realized that marriage should be appropriate.

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Before marriage: think that marriage is between two people, and nothing else is important;

After marriage: I found that this is between two families, no, it should be between two families.

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Before marriage: mom has some influence, and everything depends on the conditions;

After marriage: How wise my mother wouldn't let me marry this man. Do you have any regret medicine?

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Before marriage: you don't care, you should love him well;

After marriage: love yourself and improve yourself, otherwise he won't even look at me.

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Before marriage: I want to get married, and I want to bear it together!

After marriage: it's really annoying at home. I used to be so comfortable when I was alone!

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Before marriage: See if that girl is beautiful or not.

After marriage: what to look at, then go home and kneel and rub the washboard.

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Before marriage: two people together, no matter how bitter and tired, will be happy;

After marriage: it's really not easy to raise two families.

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Before marriage: he will always love me;

After marriage: love is bullshit. If you want to cheat, you'd better rely on yourself.

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Before marriage: his parents don't understand, whatever, they didn't live with them!

After marriage: When my daughter is looking for a partner, I must see what qualities her parents have!

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Before marriage: be a smart woman;

After marriage: it turns out that stupid women will be happy, even if they are not stupid, they should play dumb.

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Before marriage: it's good to have children, so cute;

After marriage: how difficult it is to raise children.

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Before marriage: I really want to have a group of children;

After marriage: having children? Just thinking about it is big, and one is annoying enough.

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Before marriage: when you are young, you should read more books and fight for your career, and the children will talk about it later;

After marriage: I wish I had a baby earlier, and my parents can take care of it for me. Now I'd better get a nanny.

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Before marriage: this house is good, cheap, with good area and scenic environment, so I decided to stay here;

After marriage: Why buy a house here instead of a school district? Now that the children are in school, what should I do?

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Before marriage: it doesn't matter if you don't have money, we will earn it together and there will be some in the future;

After marriage: I still can't make money. What will you do in the future?

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Before marriage: everything is delicious;

After marriage: Why do you eat this dish every day? Can you change it to something delicious?

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Before marriage: as long as we really love each other, nothing can stop us from being together;

After marriage: can you survive it? If you can't, leave. It's good for everyone.

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Before marriage: no matter what you become, I will always love you;

After marriage: Why did it become like this? I was really blind at first.

These things have happened in countless marriages. Of course, not every marriage will happen, but most of them will.

There is no need to doubt, and I don't want everyone to be afraid of marriage. I just want everyone to understand that marriage is like this, you

Have the courage to accept and bear. If you don't have the courage to bear it, then love is definitely not love, and marriage needs courage.

To share responsibility and face it together is not to shirk responsibility and blame each other, let alone not to mention the past and not to recall it, because people

Children are used to some things, such as being good to you, and it is not easy to cause deep memories, which is often the case.

Some of the most common times are when the other person has been nice to you, but you don't remember. Once it goes against you, you will

I will deeply remember that once the two sides start to blame each other for their bad things, then all kinds of bad things will come out, the good side.

The face was ignored, and it became more and more fierce. In fact, it ultimately boils down to an ordinary life, perhaps ordinary and extraordinary in material terms, but marriage

The ultimate spiritual guidance of marriage is ordinary. Learning to share the responsibilities of marriage is a long-term marriage.

The real meaning.