Young people nowadays are very strange. On the one hand, they feel that the elderly don't understand education, on the other hand, they urgently need the help of the elderly. But old people like to have children, but they don't necessarily like to take care of babies. This led to a "game" between the two sides, and they fought bravely on the issue of bringing a baby.
A treasure mother said that she and her husband didn't plan to have children immediately after they got married, but both parents said it was a matter of time, and it was better to have children later. Then, she gave birth to a baby, but after giving birth, the old people on both sides didn't mention helping with the baby. She is worried that she will go out to work alone and can't leave her children.
Later, she thought of a way to pretend to quarrel with her husband and divorce, and take her children back to her parents' house. She lives in her parents' house every day, and her parents can't help with the children. She also said to both parents: "After the divorce, I will definitely want custody of the children, and I will let the children take my surname. Anyway, I will bring it myself. " Her parents listened, trying to make peace and rushing to take care of the baby. In-laws, knowing that their daughter-in-law is going to divorce and take their children away, also go to the door to take their children every day, so that their sons can make amends and take their daughter-in-law home.
Have to say, Ma Bao's words are very clever, because the elderly don't want their children to divorce, but also worry about the ownership of future generations. She is also the weakness of both parents.
It's understandable that the old man doesn't want to bring a baby, but don't interfere with having a baby.
Perhaps, many people think that such a precious mother is smart, but she "bullies" her parents. Because it is not their parents' obligation to take care of the baby, she pretends to divorce and fight for custody, deceiving the elderly on both sides to take care of the baby for their children's marital happiness and save their offspring. This is really wrong.
However, on the other hand, it is also the parents of both sides who are "unjust". Because they have been giving birth to children, but young people have given birth to children and started to "play missing", which didn't help the baby at all. You know, when young people become parents for the first time, there are always many things they don't understand, and taking care of their babies will be beyond their power, so they need the help of the elderly. If the old man doesn't help but gives birth, the young man will definitely feel distressed.
Take care of your children. If you can't, don't blindly follow other people's opinions.
But then again. Some young people don't have their own opinions. Old people at home give birth to children. Are they born by themselves? I know that after marriage, my family's economic conditions are not good and I can't take care of myself. I also listen to what others say. I have given birth to a second or even a third child. As a result, I can't take care of it, and I still bother the elderly. Old people are not as angry as they are, and they also threaten to "not support the elderly." This is not right.
So young people should understand that children should take care of themselves. If they can't take care of themselves, don't blindly listen to other people's opinions. If you want to listen to other people's opinions, just ask, "Will you help me after giving birth? I can't afford you to raise it for me? " If you can prove it, you can succeed. Make money first if you can. With these reliable guarantees, it is not too late to regenerate. If there is no guarantee, then the couple will work hard and plan when it is more appropriate to have children. This saves you the last embarrassment and drags down the old man.
In short, when young people "play games" with the old people on the matter of taking care of their children, they should have their own opinions and make clear their responsibilities as parents of their children, and don't count on the old people for everything.
Topic discussion: Ma Bao, are your parents willing to help after you give birth?
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