Last month, a great event happened in Lao Wang's family, because Lao Wang, who is usually resigned to his fate, had a big fight with his powerful wife. Everyone was surprised, because Lao Wang has always been a good man who is afraid of his wife, and no one has seen him lose his temper.
After asking, I found that Lao Wang's old mother was ill and needed a lot of money to treat the disease, but old Wang Can couldn't afford it now. There is a mortgage to pay at home, two children need money to study, and the family needs money. So this makes Lao Wang desperate. His wife told him to give up his mother and not let him touch the money saved for the children. After all, his mother is so old and the disease can't be cured, so he can only delay and waste money. It is precisely because of this that Lao Wang lost his temper and had a big fight with his wife.
Old Shenshen Wang remembers what his wife said to him: "This is the only thing you can do. I only lose my temper with my own woman. If you really have the ability, take care of this family first, don't hurt anyone, and don't ruin your child for your mother. " .
It was his wife's words that made Lao Wang really desperate and collapsed. He had the idea of "suicide" more than once because he felt that his pressure was really too great. Even in the end, his mother firmly told him, "She doesn't need to treat this disease. Anyway, she is old bones, and she has lived enough. Moreover, the disease can't be cured, and it is more painful to drag on. " Lao Wang is still not relaxed at all, but even more collapsed, because he knows that this is because he is incompetent, so he let his mother make such a choice, and he is actually a waste and doesn't even have the money to see his mother.
It is precisely because of his mother that Lao Wang became more and more reticent and often secretly wiped his tears, so he was often scolded by his wife for being worthless and useless. Lao Wang once told me more than once that the post-70s generation is really unlucky and hopeless. Lao Wang said that although he has never experienced a war or shared a pot, he has experienced an era of not having enough to eat and not being warm. It was not easy to study at that time. His parents tried their best to provide him with education, but he failed to enter a middle school, study and find a good job, so that his parents became everyone.
Therefore, Lao Wang feels sorry for his parents and is an unfilial son. He doesn't know how to face his parents and the future, so he can really relax.
Bian Xiao has something to say:
Although the experience of Lao Wang's family is very miserable, I don't sympathize with Lao Wang at all, because in my opinion, Lao Wang is not strong enough, because their generation after 70 is very bitter, but everyone has come like this. There are many families like him. Why can others cheer up but he can't? If everyone gave up when encountering some difficulties and setbacks, then this society would have been finished long ago.
In other words, Lao Wang is not qualified to give up and give up now, because he has not only an old man to support, but also a small one to support, so he has no choice. As a man, he can only face life stronger and work harder to change the status quo, because there is still a chance to change the status quo. If he gives up, it must be despair.
In my opinion, the collapse of post-70s men started with "lack of money", so making money hard is the most important thing for post-70s men to do.
After 70, men are under great pressure and are very short of money. Because parents need money to support the elderly and see a doctor, children need money to study and get married, and even life is not a small expense. Do you think the post-70s men are under great pressure?
In my opinion, it is precisely because of this that Lao Wang should be strong. Now that he knows the shortcomings, you should work harder to make money instead of giving up on yourself. You have children and parents. In order to change or prevent such a tragedy from happening again, you can only work harder, because only in this way, when the next crisis comes, you will not collapse and have the confidence to solve the problem.
As for the wives of the post-70s men, I also want to say that I hope you can understand the post-70s men more, because they are really not easy. Many people know that "men don't cry easily", but few people know that "they just haven't reached the sad place yet". When men collapse, I hope women can understand and support more, because women's attitude is often the last straw to crush men, just like Lao Wang.
Because of the post-70 s men, because of education problems, they are always silent when things happen, and everything will be swallowed up. Because their parents' generation came from the war years and saw the parting of life and death, it is a lack of parental education for them to raise their children normally, even if they are happy. Therefore, the post-70s generation, whose ability to express their emotions is often poor, is unwilling to communicate with women, so women should understand and tolerate them more. Otherwise, after a man collapses, there will only be more and more families.