I didn't get enough sleep before Dabao was two and a half years old. He's a little sleepy. He woke up for almost an hour and a half at night and slept very lightly. I didn't need diapers then. I often get up at night to change diapers. Neither adults nor children can sleep well. Take care of the baby's eating, drinking and having fun during the day. Being supported by panda eyes every day, my physical strength is seriously overdrawn. Sometimes I can't stand it. I often yell at my baby, ignore him, make him cry hysterically, and blame myself afterwards. How can a mother be so heartless? How much damage should a child's young heart suffer! Very anxious and painful!
After six years, I naturally gave birth to a second child and relived the painful days when I didn't sleep. The difference is that young mothers become middle-aged mothers. I thought Bauer was a relieved girl (girls usually sleep longer than boys), but she slept for four hours. I'm satisfied with three or two hours, but now Bao Xiao only sleeps for three hours twice, usually two or an hour and a half. These two days are particularly "excessive": one hour, half an hour in my arms, half an hour in bed, and I feel sleepy as soon as I lie down. Well, try to cheer her up and breast-feed her. If I can continue to sleep after feeding, I am afraid that I will cry sometimes after feeding, and I will take time to coax. Can you sleep like this?
Being with Dabao and not sleeping is a kind of wisdom gain. Now, although it is still very tiring to face this kind of day again, it is very relaxed and calm! Age will not grow in vain!
Ma Bao had the experience that the child finally fell asleep, but she couldn't sleep at all. When she is sleepy, the baby wakes up, which is the most painful. Sleeping is not terrible. The terrible thing is worrying about not being able to sleep. The more I force myself to sleep, the more I can't sleep. Now I don't force myself to fall asleep. When I can't sleep, I will get up to exercise or do something I like.
I tried yoga to relax my body. Very effective. When you lie on your back, you feel your breath. When you inhale, your imagination will absorb good energy. When you exhale, your imagination will take away all the bad energy. At the same time, you will feel every part of your body, from your toes to your head, to make them relax. Some body parts are actually very nervous and don't pay attention. Relax and fall asleep naturally.
I don't think it's terrible not to sleep. The terrible thing is that poor sleep, unhealthy body, accelerated aging and ugly anxiety. Anxiety is not terrible, what is terrible is fear of anxiety, not accepting anxiety, and then getting more and more anxious!
I accept the fact that I can't sleep well, accept the fact that I can't sleep, accept the fact that I am anxious, observe myself like a bystander, and let all kinds of emotions flow through my body, whether good or bad.
How to spend those sleepless days, I think, keep a positive and optimistic attitude, be objective and realistic, don't stick to a dead end, don't have bad hints such as physical collapse, accept the reality and face it calmly. I can't help but lose my temper with my children and don't pursue perfection. The past is the past, the important thing is the future! It doesn't matter if you can't do the above. Allow yourself to be anxious, vulnerable, negative and not doing well. ...
Emotion is still that emotion, the difference is the state of mind in which we look at emotions. Speaking of this, I think of a passage full of Zen machines: seeing mountains is mountains, and seeing water is water; Seeing mountains is not mountains, and seeing water is not water; See mountains or mountains, water or water! hahaha ...