I'm thinking, how can we bring people's full potential into play!
Occasionally, during the epidemic period praised by school leaders, the class management information sent by the head teacher and the lover's roar at his son came to my ear. Just because he cooked the food, his son didn't eat it right away.
For his lover's hysterical temper, his son dares to be angry and dare not speak, and forbearance and repression have become his survival mechanism since childhood.
In high school, when I met a male class teacher, my son would project his anger on the current class teacher from time to time and repeatedly proposed to change classes.
Years of teacher experience have taught me about all kinds of children. Like the head teacher above, I have also proposed a similar strict class management system.
But now I feel very uncomfortable when I see similar requirements. During the epidemic, children's psychological pressure is no less than that of adults. What would you think if you saw these pressures in the group again?
As a self-conscious parent, I deeply understand how far-reaching the influence of parents' mental state on their children's growth is.
In particular, this deep healing course has cured our relationship with our parents before we were seven years old. Every participant, no matter how great his career achievements are or how high his education is, is inevitably influenced by his parents' emotional patterns and restrictive beliefs.
Even as adults, we still live unconsciously with the energy given by our parents, or with a deep sense of lack (mainly the lack of love and money).
When I answered my friend's phone in my room, I heard my lover shouting occasionally in the living room. I put down the phone and brought the food at the door into the room. These two days, I always feel that my lover's cooking is not very delicious, which should be because of his negative emotions!
After dinner, I opened the door, put on a mask and asked them what had just happened. My son said nothing. His father said it was because he called us several times and refused to come over for dinner.
I said you are only responsible for cooking. As for when to eat, that's our own business, there's no need to get angry.
Then tell him that since I saw him yesterday, my breasts have been hurting all the time, and my son's left heart was injured by him two days ago. I hope he won't lose his temper again because of these trivial things.
This time, my wife immediately admitted her mistake and said that she would correct it later.
By the way, I also told him not to worry about his son's rest time. When he is full of sleep, he will naturally study because online courses can be listened to.
Because my son started to sleep at two o'clock this afternoon, I woke him up without waking up, even in the morning. Adequate sleep is the guarantee of efficient study.
When a child is brought up by mature parents, he will naturally get enough psychological nutrition when he grows up, and he will have greater potential when he grows up.
If a child lives in the emotional shadow of his parents every day, how much energy he needs to transform these fears, fears and fears!
Therefore, I am more accepting and tolerant of my son's current learning state than before. His study pressure is great enough. What I can do is to be the audience he wants when he needs to talk.
Before I moved home, my son said several times that he not only had to cope with the great pressure of study at school, but also had to face his father's negative emotions when he went home, take care of him, comfort him and make him suffer.
After I moved home, my son didn't spend much time at home every day, and the contradiction with his father rarely happened again. The relationship between father and son has basically eased, but this epidemic has made them get along day and night. My wife's mood fluctuates greatly and I am not at home. Their relationship has once again met an iceberg.
During the last ten days in Bali, I heard his helplessness, anger and resentment against his father from time to time on the phone. Every day, a lot of energy was spent on various dissatisfaction with his father.
When I got home yesterday, I didn't have much chance to talk to my son, but I still saw his occasional smile. He spends most of his time in the study except sleeping and resting.
I told my wife not to put any pressure on his son, but to give him the initiative to learn. His college entrance examination is much more stressful than his parents.
I hope I can be a bright light in my child's life and illuminate his way forward with my own light. To be a lighthouse is to try your best to realize all your potential.