Putting all virtues and filial piety first is the eternal melody of human feelings and the traditional virtue of our Chinese nation. Meng Jiao, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, famously said, "But how much love there is in an inch-long grass, it returns three rays of spring". Filial piety should not only be filial to parents and parents-in-law, but also care for the old people who are known and unknown. It is our bounden duty to respect, love and help the elderly. Filial piety for the elderly and caring for their families are the foundation of being a man.

First, do your best to be filial to your parents.

My parents are the same age, and they are almost eighty. They have worked hard for our five brothers and sisters all their lives, and they have also broken their hearts for their children. Now they are old and in poor health. As children, they should be filial to their parents. Of the five brothers and sisters, I am the only one who has a regular job, so it is my bounden duty to see my parents and get medicine. Although my brothers and sisters are very filial, I always feel that my income is higher than theirs, so it is right to pay more for my parents. My husband expressed his understanding and support for this, which made me very moved.

My father has been suffering from bronchitis since childhood. With the growth of age, his illness is much heavier than before, especially in winter. Listening to his cough, I heard it in my ears and it hurt in my heart. Usually I like to collect some information about treating cough, such as food tonic, medicine tonic, acupuncture, ointment and so on. As long as it is effective in treating tracheitis, I will always write it down in my special notebook, consult a doctor and give it to my father for trial later. Colleagues laughed and said that I was half an expert. Before winter comes every year, I will buy a big barrel of high-quality honey from the specialty store and cook rock candy pear water for my father every day to relieve my cough. Take dad to post for three days in summer. Many things happen. The symptoms of father's cough have not worsened in the past two years, but have eased. My mother has always been in good health and seldom catches a cold. But three years ago, she suffered from demyelination of white matter and her physical condition went from bad to worse. Her limbs are weak, and it is difficult to eat. She can't take chopsticks or move bowls. Gradually, I can't walk and stand up. Although I have been diagnosed and treated in many ways, nothing has been realized. The doctor said it was senile, and there was no good way. Now my mother can't take care of herself at all, and she has to rely on people to take care of her daily life. Mother worked hard all her life and never wanted to trouble others, even her own children. But things are always so unpredictable. I thought my mother, who had been in good health, would take care of my father in the end. Who would have thought that a disease would be so serious that a strong mother can no longer be separated from the care of her children. Mother is attached to us and always wants to spend more time with her. Sometimes dad will say that they all have their own things and can always be with you. At this time, my mother will be as silent as a child who has made a mistake, and my heart will be sour at this time. Mother is by the bedside every day. She's so lonely. Physical inconvenience has also caused changes in the mother's mind. She became particularly vulnerable and especially liked to cry. Every time I see her like this, I feel particularly sad. Tears can only flow secretly, dare not let her see. On the surface, I have to smile to comfort her that it's okay. As long as I take my medicine on time and treat it actively, I will be fine. A mother who is equally concerned needs not only care, but also companionship. Since my mother was ill, I have been home at least twice every day at noon and at night, rain or shine. Take care of her medicine, drink water, relieve herself, give her back rubs and massages. Because I have to go to my mother's, I go home to cook after work at noon every day, and then I go to my mother's. No leisure, no entertainment, no vacation, no nap. As long as the mother can be more happy and less painful, it is worthwhile to work hard, which is nothing compared with the efforts made by the mother for her children. No matter how old a person is, as long as he has filial parents, he feels happy.

Second, treat your in-laws like your parents.

Although my parents-in-law were not born to me, they are her husband's biological parents. If you love your husband, you should love her parents and his family. As the saying goes, when you enter the house, you are a family. Therefore, from the day I married my husband, I took my in-laws as my parents. It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult, but I have lived with my in-laws for more than ten years. Whether our daughter ate and lived together when she was a child or later came out to live alone, we never blushed or quarreled with our in-laws, and we always showed filial piety to our in-laws. My mother-in-law and I have a lot to say, and our neighbors say that we are closer than mother and daughter. I think as a daughter-in-law, I should be considerate, respectful and kind to my in-laws.

To be considerate of the elderly, we should respect them and not argue with them. After decades of life, they have formed their views on various things in the world. We don't have to try to change them. Here, obedience means understanding. My father-in-law died three years ago at the age of eighty-six. The old man was a construction worker before he retired. He suffered hardships all his life and was very frugal. He can't afford any waste. Even if some useless bottles and cans are thrown into the trash can, he will pick them up, and he will reprimand those who throw them. Leftover food is not allowed to be thrown away. He always said to save them for him to eat next time, and he would be angry if he found them thrown away. At that time, there was no refrigerator at home, and summer leftovers could not be preserved at all. Throwing them away will make the old man angry, and keeping them for the old man will damage his health. Because of this, several husbands and brothers quarreled with their father-in-law. Later, I found that although the old man refused to pour the leftovers, he couldn't remember what was left. So, I put away the leftovers in front of him and then secretly dumped them. Next time cook a dish, stir-fry it less and put it in front of him. While eating, he said that the food was not bad, and it smelled good. We ate it secretly. Be considerate of the elderly and try to make them happy without making them angry. This is not difficult, as long as we spend a little more time. This is also a sign of respect for the elderly, respect for the elderly, and the most important thing is to respect the living habits of the elderly. In the course of decades of life, habits have become natural. If you change your habits rigidly, accidents will happen, so respect is better than change.

Eighty-year-olds are like urchins, and sometimes they have to be as patient as children to make them happy. My mother-in-law is old and her legs are cold. It hurts especially when it is cold or cloudy and rainy. She always hits her legs with a garlic hammer, and sometimes her legs are bruised. I have seen many hospitals, but they are not good. Later, I found that an old Chinese doctor had a good effect on this disease, so I went with my mother-in-law. He gave her more than 40 kinds of Chinese medicines at a time. I think her mother-in-law can't sleep well at night because of her leg pain, so she gets up early every day and cooks medicine for her mother-in-law before going to work. My mother-in-law praised me for being sensible and filial to everyone, which made her old sisters envious. Filial piety to the elderly is also a kind of social morality, which can promote the harmonious development of society. Mencius said: "everyone is close to his relatives, and he is long, and the world is peaceful." In other words, "as long as everyone loves their parents and respects their elders, then the world will naturally be peaceful."

Third, brother and sister care for each other, and flesh and blood carry each other.

Some people say that more brothers and sisters, especially in the husband's family, cause more trouble, but I don't think so. As the old saying goes, "Brothers in battle, father and son in battle", blood is thicker than water, and flesh and blood are irreplaceable. As long as we are sincere, we can get the same gift. Therefore, in dealing with the relationship between brothers and sisters, I have always adhered to two principles: treat each other sincerely and help if you can; In-laws are treated equally. If even your brothers and sisters don't want to help, others will be more difficult to get along with. Over the years, no matter my mother's brother or my husband's brother, I have always tried my best to help anyone. Uncle's factory closed down, his job was not settled, and his sister-in-law did not have a stable job. The two often have conflicts because of their economic situation. My sister-in-law and I lived in the same hospital for five or six years. During this period, I never asked them to pay the water and electricity bills, and I always had to bear it alone. Usually I always buy food for them together. It takes half a family to buy a watermelon. I always buy two clothes for my children, and whatever I buy for my little niece. I am more trustworthy in filial piety to my in-laws. I usually buy things for the elderly and give them living expenses. I never see my sister-in-law in front of them for fear that they will feel embarrassed. Sometimes my parents-in-law feel that the same son and daughter-in-law have to rely on our family for food and use, and feel embarrassed, so they tell me that they don't want their living expenses, and you don't give them. We can't use your father-in-law's pension. I always say that you have worked hard all your life, and you can't wronged yourself any more. Raising children to prevent old age is what we should do. Do your best for the elderly and honor each other. Filial piety can't wait, and filial piety can't be relied on. It is the responsibility and obligation of children to let their parents spend their old age safely.

Fourth, teach children the habit of respecting and loving the elderly.

Respecting the elderly is a fine tradition of the Chinese nation and a precious wealth left by our ancestors. Today, we should carry forward this virtue and pass it on from generation to generation. However, in daily communication, it is often found that many children treat the elderly with insufficient respect. For example, contradicting the elderly and disobeying discipline; Stiffly ordered the old man to do this and that for him. Therefore, it is necessary to educate children to know how to respect and care for the elderly from an early age. Parents should set an example and be role models for their children. Children have superficial understanding, poor judgment and lack of independence, and their psychological activities are suggestive and imitative. In their eyes, parents' behavior is a ruler, thinking that he can do whatever his parents do; What parents do, he should do. Therefore, when I get along with the elderly (whether in my own home or other old people's homes), I always try to be humble, polite, caring and considerate, such as serving tea and water to the elderly at home and giving my seat to the elderly in public. Parents' words and deeds, children see in their eyes, remember in their hearts, and behave in their own actions. They will treat the elderly like their parents. I also pay attention to using relevant festivals to inspire and induce children to respect and love the elderly. For example, take advantage of the birthday of the elderly, the Double Ninth Festival (Double Ninth Festival), New Year's Day, the Spring Festival and other favorable opportunities to induce good behavior through conversation, instruction and suggestion. For example, ask a child, "Tomorrow is XXX day. What should you do? " ? How to make grandpa (grandma) happy? "Children will seriously say" I help grandpa cut the cake and wish him a happy birthday, health and longevity ","I give a gift to grandma "and" I give my grandparents a New Year greeting "... In the long run, the seeds of respecting and loving the old will sprout in the children's hearts. The virtue of filial piety and love for the elderly is a lamp in the dark; It is a fire in the cold winter; This is spring in the desert; A long drought brings rain. Honor parents and take care of the elderly, regardless of time and place, regardless of conditions. Love, you have to start from the eyes, that is, the real action; Love is all around us, everywhere; Love, you have to say it; Love, no need to wait!