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How many years did Daiyu live in Guo Rongfu?
Lin Daiyu's charming appearance is very charming. However, what makes her charming and artistic. It is her unparalleled rich and beautiful spiritual world. First of all, Lin Daiyu is a woman with inner wisdom and external beauty. She "knows her heart better than her works". Jia Yucun, her tutor, said that he, a female student, "speaks and behaves differently from any other woman." Because of my mother's name, Jia Min, "Whenever I read' Min', I read it as' Mi', and when I meet the word' Min', I also subtract one or two strokes." When she arrived in Jiafu, she was still a child, but she remembered her mother's entrustment before her death: "Grandma's family is different from other families ... be careful step by step, always pay attention, don't say a word, don't walk a step, and be afraid of being laughed at." She always looks at her thoughts and secretly examines them; However, his words and deeds are so polite and decent.

But we also felt that she was depressed from the beginning. She is good at poetry. When others write poems, they always think hard, but she "brushes them off". She said to Jia Baoyu, "If you can read ten lines at a glance, I can't?" Indeed, Lin Daiyu is famous for her cleverness in the Grand View Garden.

She is good at touching scenes and making good use of topics. Once Baoyu went to see Baochai, who was between a "golden lock" and a "psychic". I didn't expect Daiyu to have waddled in. Seeing Baoyu, he said with a smile, "Ouch! I came at a bad time! " Baochai said with a smile, "What do you mean?" "If I had known he was coming, I wouldn't have come," said Daiyu. . Baochai asked again, "What does this mean?" Daiyu said, "What do you mean, everyone comes together, and no one comes; He will come today; I will come tomorrow, but the time is staggered. Won't someone come every day? It's neither too cold nor too lively. " Baoyu heard Baochai say that eating cold wine is harmful to his health. He put down his glass, and Xueyan just sent a hand stove. Daiyu quipped, "Who told you to send it?" Don't disturb him. -It's freezing in there! "Xueyan said it was from Zijuan, and she immediately said," You should listen to him, too! You turn a deaf ear to what I tell you on weekdays; How can you do as he says, faster than the imperial edict! "Clever frown, how sharp and subtle the way she expresses jealousy is, and double-click it. Baoyu once again looked at Baochai's white arm in a daze. At this moment, "I saw Daiyu pedaling on the threshold, smiling with a handkerchief in her mouth. Baochai said, "The wind can't help blowing, so why stand at that tuyere?" Baoyu said, "Why aren't you in your room? Just because I heard a cry in the sky, I came out to have a look. Baochai said, "Where is the goose? I also want to have a look. Daiyu said,' I just came out and he flew away with a loud noise. As he spoke, he shook his handkerchief and threw it at Baoyu's face. "

This alertness, this irony and banter, only Lin Daiyu can be so pure and flawless. There are several interesting mouthfuls in the Grand View Garden, such as Xifeng's mouth, Jia Mu's mouth, Qingwen's mouth, You Sanjie's mouth and Redjade's mouth. Daiyu also has a more interesting "mouth". Baoyu's wet nurse, Mammy Li, said, "Sure enough, a word from Sister Lin is more important than a knife." However, the "mouth" of Xifeng and others is different from that of Daiyu: Xifeng is mostly "secular teasing"; Daiyu is elegant and handsome. As Xue Baochai said, "What's more, there is a narrow mouth. He used the method of' Spring and Autumn' to describe vulgar language, summarize its essence, simplify it by deleting complexity, give an example, sentence by sentence. " Speak sincerely and skillfully.

Cover up inferiority with self-esteem

Here, the self-esteem of "being afraid of being laughed at" becomes the self-defense of "being afraid of being seen by villains". This self-defense is a subtle reflection of Dai Yu's inner environmental changes and family differences. Judging from the scenery, it is not only for Zhou Rui's family, but also for Aunt Xue and Jia Fu. She wants to weigh herself on the scales of the royal family and the Houmen family by sending the palace flowers. This is the essence of the problem.

Commenting on this passage, Zhifuzhai said: "Now I have a new passage, but I wrote the nature of A Qiu from my bones, so I know this is also the official story of A Qiu." "Nature" refers to this kind of self-esteem that makes others a little unbearable. Daiyu, who won't be hurt by others the least, hurts others the most unscrupulously. But your wife never imagined that it was obviously beneath her dignity to vent on Zhou Ruigu's minions, but what she wanted was lost. This detail is undoubtedly the crowning touch of Daiyu's personality background, so Zhi Yanzhai solemnly pointed out that "writing from the bone".

Of course, a person can't live without self-esteem, but if she has too much self-esteem, she will develop into narrow-mindedness. When Shi Xiangyun said that the actors in Xiao Dan were a bit like her, Miss Lin's slight resentment turned into thunder and anger. But she noticed her identity this time, and she didn't have an attack at that time. Back at home, she confided to her lover one after another: "I used to make fun of you-compare me to a player?" "This section is also angry. Then why are you blinking at the clouds again? What are you worried about? She will degrade herself only if I insist on her own opinions? He used to be a princess, and I used to be Shu Ren's maid. He is very stubborn to me. If I talk back, won't he make himself look cheap? That's the idea, isn't it? This is also your kindness, but this kind of goodwill, which does not receive you, is generally annoying. You made love to me again, but you said I was a little girl, and I was very angry with my behavior. You are afraid that he will offend me. If I am angry with him, what's it to you? What does it matter to you that he has offended me? "(the 22nd time) Here, Teacher Lin explained the values of personality and family and the relationship between them clearly. Being compared to a player can be forgiven, but it is unbearable to regard Xiangyun as more noble than her. Although this is only her analysis, Baoyu didn't mean it. But let's not be fooled by Daiyu's sophistry. In fact, the most unforgivable thing is to compare him to a player. She felt that her identity was humiliated and her self-esteem was hurt, so she vented so much, which was an obvious manifestation of her self-esteem.

In fact, for Lin Daiyu, self-esteem and inferiority are just twin sisters. The former is the externalization of the latter and the latter is the connotation of the former. Unlike Jia's family background and dependence on others, she has a deep sense of inferiority. So she always tries to protect her self-esteem in front of others and cover up her inner inferiority with self-esteem.

When we first arrived at Guo Rong Building, we saw Lin Daiyu observing everything carefully and answering everything politely. She seems to remember her mother's last words: "Grandma's house is different from other homes", so she "pays attention step by step, always cares, does not say a word, and does not move forward" ...

This cautious life may have its own advantages?

However, we saw that she didn't seem to do it seriously. She soon left an impression of "aloof" on the people in Guo Rong Building.

It turned out that the kind of "attention" and "concern" when she first arrived here was only based on such a motive: "I am afraid of being laughed at." No wonder she didn't leave too much impression on others, just let us know that this is a girl with strong self-esteem.

However, fate seemed to play with her maliciously, and soon her father died again. When she went back to her hometown to take care of her affairs, and then returned to the mansion, she was no longer the young lady of Yangzhou Yanbanlin, who came here as a guest, but a homeless relative who came to Jia's mansion to take refuge. Under such circumstances, self-esteem has obviously lost its place, and her "self-restraint" is even more out of place.

However, this change did not change the girl's attitude towards life. On the contrary, it seemed to arouse her pride and make her stare around suspiciously for fear that someone would discriminate and despise her. Zhou Rui's wife gave two palace flowers, and her first concern was not its "Wei Miaoxin Qiao", but whether "others didn't pick the rest". When Yuan Chun returned to this province, everyone wrote poems and had a good time. She could have sung a hymn to her voice, but all she wanted to do was "show her talent to be overwhelming". Later, because he could not "violate many lines", he "made a five-character poem at random" Grandmother Jia was unhappy for Xue Baochai's birthday. This was not suitable for words, but she just showed her "resentment". Shi Xiangyun said that she was like Xiao Dan on the stage, and everyone smiled and echoed. She could have laughed it off, but she sensitively felt that comparing her with a "player" was a kind of "teasing" with contempt, so she was greatly dissatisfied and could not help but get angry. ...

It seems that this girl has too much sensitivity and self-esteem. Her temperament seems so narrow. But all this always stems from a hidden pain in her heart, that is, her fate of relying on others to live. She is uneasy about this fate, but she can't get rid of it. This kind of contradiction often distorts her feelings and psychology, so her mood will never be calm and will provoke a lot of seemingly unnecessary troubles and pains.

Once, she knocked on the door of Yikangyuan. Qingwen mistook it for a girl and refused to open the door. This pure misunderstanding actually hurt her so deeply. If she really "asks her loudly" outside the door, things will be solved. However, this dependence on others did not make her think much, but immediately aroused a feeling in her heart: "Now his parents are dead and helpless, and his family lives alone, and now he is seriously angry and bored." Really, nothing hurts this girl more than hurting her self-esteem, and hurting her by the fate of living. That night, she "leaned against the railing of the bed, with her knees in her hands and tears in her eyes. Like a woodcarving clay sculpture, she sat straight for more than 20 days before falling asleep." The next day, she saw falling flowers all over the floor and wrote the famous Flower Burial with emotion.

The fallen petal awakens the fate that women can only be trampled on by others in her heart and cannot be dominated by themselves.

However, the girl can't know more, and she blames this fate on her lack of a home. As a result, she suffered from homesickness anxiety. The noise in the Grand View Garden, the laughter and warmth of other people's homes, and even the fallen flowers in nature, autumn wind and autumn rain, etc. , has caused her heart homeless. In front of her, the whole world seems to be the raw material for tears and sadness.

It seems that this grandmother's family didn't show any kindness to her, and everything treated her like a lady. She seems to torture herself with too much doubt and intolerance. She didn't seem to see that the lavish Jia family would care about the granddaughter's food and clothing expenses? At the same time, did you show any "petty" in front of her? What's more, Jia, who is too authoritative in feudal families, loves her so much; Losing parents not only did not cause discrimination, but aroused the warmth and love of the old lady. Indeed, living under the door of such a good relative, what is the need to be so obsessed with your own pain? Wouldn't it be lucky to be someone else?

However, it is here that we find the very subtle charm of Lin Daiyu.

Such a character, living in that era, became the source of all pain. As Chernyshevski said: "What a person can enjoy and bear can only be given to him by society." Therefore, Lin Daiyu's pain is not because of her sensitivity and paranoia, not because of her self-esteem, but because of the private system that causes this sensitivity and paranoia and oppresses this self-esteem. Private ownership, which is the total root of all pain and evil.

In all feudal family societies in China, the value, dignity, status and so on of a person are calculated by furniture. The so-called "a daughter's son can't sit in the hall", "a rich family, a rich body" and so on just illustrate this situation. Therefore, a person who has no home is equal to losing all social status, and the whole world seems to stand up in front of him, and there is no place of his own. Lin Daiyu, who lost her home, found a place to live in Jiafu, but many mental obstacles such as boundaries and concepts caused by the private ownership social system have not been eliminated in her mind. At the same time, it has not been eliminated in the hearts of people around.

Moreover, private ownership has caused a lot of hatred, struggle, competition, fraud and so on between people, which happens every day in the walls of Guo Rongfu and beside Lin Daiyu. Faced with this situation, even the maid Jiahui, who is still not sensible, lamented: "This place is really unbearable!" Is it true that under those snobbish eyes, Lin Daiyu, who has nothing but a suit, can settle down?

Not only that, but how can even the formal members of this family settle down? Miss Tanchun put it well: "We are a family of flesh and blood. We are all like black-eyed chickens. I hope you eat me and I will eat you. " This feeling naturally deepened in Lin Daiyu, an outsider. To tell the truth, people respect her only because they respect Jia, which is too authoritative. At the same time, since others can generously give her this kind of love, of course, it can also be taken back reasonably. It turned out that it wasn't? Yes, this is the "character" that almost everyone can achieve until others show their faces.

It can be seen that Lin Daiyu's paranoia and sensitivity are not unfounded pains that she found herself. It is through her paranoia and sensitivity that we see what magic that society has! It can torture a person secretly and tortuous, and even make you feel that it is entirely his own fault after hurting a person.