Then on a social platform, countless people, including Xiaoyu's mother, began to forward pictures and words, hoping to get justice for Xiaoyu with the help of public opinion.
The reason why so many treasure mothers support Xiaoyu's mother is that besides the sympathy of "children and young people", the deeper reason is that the majority of treasure mothers want to see the fair and orderly development of education.
I burst into tears the moment I decided to write this article.
Because my daughter has been bullied by the teacher for a long time in kindergarten, the child's emotions are easily out of control, she can't communicate with others normally, and even she is tired of learning, so I especially don't want this to happen again.
School bullying, the teacher may also be an abuser.
School bullying is not only something in junior high schools, but also in primary schools and even kindergartens.
School bullying is by no means an emergency. What you can see in the newspaper must have been brewed in the early stage.
I wrote down the children's experiences in detail, and I hope everyone can understand the development of bullying.
I don't sell anxiety. I just hope that my experience can alert everyone and promote the orderly development of education.
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Attention should be paid to the abnormal behavior of children.
I'll say I found it first.
After school started in September last year, my daughter was promoted to a large kindergarten class.
Every night after school, I go to pick her up. She often comes out with her head down and her mouth pursed. On the way home, I asked her what she was happy about at school. She always said, "xx bullied me."
At first, when I was a child, I had conflicts. I didn't care too much. I just helped her analyze it to promote the friendly relationship between their classmates.
However, since late September, my daughter has been clamoring not to go to school, waking up in the morning and sweating with a quilt over her head. Every morning, I coax and scare her to send her to kindergarten.
I have also communicated with the class teacher countless times to understand the child's performance in kindergarten. The answer is: your child doesn't attend class and always says he wants to poop; After lunch, your child squatted in the toilet, dragging two or three girls to chat; Your child always pushes the child from behind; Every time I line up, the children will fight for the first place. ...
I was particularly surprised to hear that. I don't think the teacher is talking about my children, because I firmly believe that my children are not as "bad" as the teacher said. The answer the teacher gave me was "Your children can pretend".
No matter how outrageous it is, the teacher will make people believe it every day.
During that time, I was particularly afraid to see the information of the class teacher on WeChat. Children can't hear the word "Mr. H" at home. As soon as the children heard these three words, they said, "She is unreasonable and I don't like her."
During that time, I watched a lot of parenting books and TV programs and gave a lot of guidance to children's problems. But to no avail, I suspect that my child is an alien and cannot be solved by the earth method.
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A child's injury made me start to examine the teacher's behavior.
On the second Wednesday in October, in the afternoon 1 1, the child stayed up and snuggled up to me. At my urging several times, the child cried and said that his hand was broken. When I saw it, there was a half-centimeter cut on the middle finger of my right hand. It's so shallow that I can hardly see it. But the child was so excited that I asked her what was going on.
She said she didn't wait in line and the teacher pulled her collar from behind. She stepped back and hit the wall with her hand. I asked her if she had told the teacher. I find it incredible that the child said no, but I trust my child because she never lies at home. I held the child tightly and told her, "Mom is very distressed to see you hurt. I'll blow it for you. Can you tell me something about your school? "
The child got a sense of security from me, so she told me a few things about how Teacher H treated her unfairly. What children say most is
At this time, I realized that there was something wrong with the teacher. But in the attitude of solving things, I communicated with the director and Mr. H about the child's injury. The director is determined to protect the teacher. Although Mr. H also apologized, he said more: "You don't know your child at all. She will be very helpful." I also told the teacher clearly: "My children are kind by nature and play well with the children in the neighborhood. Let's start with a 6-year-old child. She has no deep heart. "
Although I didn't agree with the teacher, the teacher apologized and promised to care more about the children in the future. I didn't say anything.
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The conflict with children exposed the teacher's educational defects.
/kloc-On the last Tuesday of October, I went to pick up the children, and the deputy director called me into the kindergarten, saying that my daughter hit a girl named Xiaohua and poked her in the eye, and other parents found the kindergarten.
I asked to see the surveillance. From the surveillance, I did see that my child poked a small flower. I'll ask the children to explain why after school. The child said, "Xiaohua calls me Pig. I called the teacher, but the teacher ignored me. I hit her for the first time and missed. She then made a face at me, then scolded me, and I hit her again. "
At that time, the deputy director was shocked to hear this. I concluded that she had no idea of the truth. So I asked her, "What do you think of the cause of this? If Xiaohua doesn't swear, won't my niece hit people? " The deputy director prevaricated and said, "Swearing is definitely wrong. We will communicate with each other's parents. "
Since then, no one has mentioned this matter again. It seems that it has passed, but I have also begun to pay attention to the teacher's behavior. Chat with your child every night and ask her what happened in kindergarten. I also learned some inappropriate words and deeds from children.
A mother heard these words, who can stand it? However, I teach my children to understand the teacher every day by being close to the teacher and trusting his teaching. Because I am also a teacher, I told myself: "The teacher's behavior is wrong, but I have to believe that the teacher is unintentional. Kindergarten teachers are in charge of more than 30 children. How tired they are. Sometimes impatience is normal. I am also a teacher myself. I hope to get the support of my parents and I want to support my teachers. "
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Bullying will not end automatically, it will only get worse.
165438+1October 1 1, I remember this day clearly. After school that day, I suddenly received a phone call from Xiaohua's mother, saying that her daughter scratched Xiaohua's neck. The other person is very emotional and has a sharp tongue. But I choose to trust my children and know the truth.
I called the class teacher, who said it was my daughter's intention, and suddenly she scratched. She also said that she could no longer control my daughter. She handed the matter over to the deputy director. I asked the deputy director, who also said that my daughter was wrong.
My daughter was so excited when she heard me talking to the teacher on the phone that she broke all the toys at home. She said, "It's not my fault that the teacher is unreasonable and Xiaohua lies."
Only after my daughter calmed down did I know the cause of the incident. It was really a trivial matter. Xiaohua stood in front of my daughter in the queue. There were three or four people in front of her, but Xiaohua didn't go forward. The daughter reminded her to follow, and the child said, "I'm not leaving." The daughter told the teacher first, and the teacher said "Xiaohua goes forward", and then she went to do something else. But Xiaohua just doesn't go forward. After several reminders, my daughter was anxious and wanted to push her forward. As a result, there was a cut on her neck.
Later, I asked the director to retrieve the surveillance video, and it was as my daughter said.
I also had a deep chat with the director, but I was shocked at this point. The director said a lot to the effect that
This incident, let me thoroughly see the level of this kindergarten teacher, completely disappointed.
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Carefully choose kindergartens to protect children's growth.
The day after I got a call from Xiaohua's mother, I stopped letting my children go to this kindergarten. After many inquiries, I finally chose a "Yueer Education Practice Park". This is the first kindergarten in our local area to manage teachers and educate children with educational ideas.
Director Wu Yuan told me: I am the most important person to my children. Besides the environment, there are also my educational methods that can change my children. She taught me how to help my children change together from three angles: unconditional love, acceptance and respect.
Under the guidance of Director Wu Yuan and Mr. Cui, the child's class teacher, my child and I stepped out of that shadow step by step.
Now children have learned to express their emotions, learn to get along well with children, and rekindle their interest in learning.
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Advice to parents
First, as parents, we must learn parenting knowledge.
Second, no matter how busy you are at work, you should also pay attention to your children and learn more about their affairs at school.
Third, parents should trust their children. If there is a conflict, stand firmly on the side of the child until you know all the facts. Even if it turns out that the child is wrong, you should stand on the same front with the child and bear the consequences with the child.
Fourth, if children are bullied, parents should invite sunshine to their children's hearts.
My daughter now occasionally mentions how her former teacher treated her badly. Every time I hear this, I can't wait to tear up the teacher or report it to the relevant departments. But I held back and maintained extreme restraint.
I will patiently listen to the child's words, then hug her and say, "Mom, after listening to what you said, I can feel how lonely and scared you were at that time. You should know that your mother will always protect you and tell your mother in time in the future. You see, Teacher Cui is so kind to you now. There are still many good teachers in the school. "
May all children in the world have a happy childhood.