The foundling storm in Zheng Shuang brought the topic of "foundling" into people's field of vision.

In Zheng Shuang's view, those two children are like a hot potato, a "stain" that she wants to hide, and a "tool" that Rowling used to blackmail her, not two cute little lives.

This crisis may be the biggest crisis in Zheng Shuang's life, and Zheng Shuang and his family think of their own interests first.

Actually, I don't quite understand why Zheng Shuang "gave up".

After the child landed, she bravely took over, and then created the image of a single mother raising the child independently (such as Crystal and Yuqi Zhang). Isn't it popular?

Of course, if Zheng Shuang had, she wouldn't be Zheng Shuang. Although Zheng Shuang is 30 years old, she is still a thinking child, but she is not ready to be a mother.

Zheng Shuang has been promoting the image of fairies. Once she becomes a mother, fans may not buy it, and her commercial value may be greatly reduced (after all, our society's aesthetic of women has always stayed at the level of "girlhood").

The appearance of two children will only add to her confusion, and she will never take over.

With Zheng Shuang as the foil, I suddenly feel that the images of female stars who gave up their careers in order to have children suddenly became great, although they just did what normal people should do.

More than one person in Big S loves beauty, and usually only eats vegetarian food, but in order to have enough nutrition for the fetus in the abdomen, he eats meat instead.

20 16 When she gave birth to her son, Da S was 40 years old. It is said that she had a seizure due to excessive anesthesia to relieve labor pain. She was admitted to the intensive care unit and was in a coma for more than ten days. After waking up, I couldn't play anesthetic for physical reasons, and I cried day and night in bed.

Yi Nengjing was 47 years old when she gave birth to her second child. She was rich, but she never thought about surrogacy.

Cecilia Cheung likes children. After having two children with Nicholas Tse, the third child didn't know who the father was, but she held the child in her arms.

Crystal hates her ex-husband Yi Huang enough, right? Daughter and Yi Huang Qing are almost identical, but she always takes her daughter with her, which is very good for her.

They just did what people should do.

Second,

We have discussed such a question before: If you are abducted and raped, but you can never escape from their palm, and you are forced to have a child with your husband, what will you do?

For example, what happened to Gu in Half Life: Your brother-in-law raped you, and your sister imprisoned you and asked you to have children for them. After giving birth, you escaped with the help of others.

A girl replied: I must let my "husband" watch me chop the child born after rape into a paste and then kill him.

Seriously, in a desperate situation, I fully understand that you want to kill this "husband" and all his associates. It's just that I don't know if these people can really do it when they raise their butcher knives and face the life they need to support.

This logic, in the final analysis, is only because others don't treat you as a human being, so you should treat children who are weaker than you as a human being. You passed on your hatred for others to innocent children.

Gu in Half-Life hates her sister and brother-in-law, but she doesn't pass this hatred on to her children. Seeing that the child was in trouble, she resolutely stepped forward and won the custody of the child.

This is the light of Gu's humanity.

Zheng Shuang's abandonment is really nothing to argue about.

If she is raped, then it is understandable to choose to have an abortion in the first three months of the fetus. But she decided to have this baby, and she also participated in the whole process of finding a surrogate mother. Later, her relationship with Gungun changed, and she actually wanted to induce labor, but the law did not allow it. If she can't induce labor, she will give up. This is really selfish and inhuman.

We should know that induced abortion and induced labor face different ethical pressures.

Abortion is usually carried out in the first three months of pregnancy, when the fertilized egg is splitting into a complete, tangible but immature embryo. It is generally believed in medicine that embryos in this period are unconscious.

Induced labor is carried out in the second and third trimester of pregnancy. At this time, the fetus has facial expression, can swallow, has touch, has hearing and can kick. In short, it has grown into a human form and started to have human consciousness and perception.

Abortion is a remedy for contraceptive failure, but artificial induction of labor is not (unless the fetus has a major physical defect or endangers the safety of the mother).

The judgment made by the United States in the case of 1973 Luo v. Wade set a "three-stage standard": in the first three months of pregnancy (early pregnancy), women make their own decisions; In the second trimester of pregnancy (the third trimester of pregnancy), for the sake of women's health, States can restrict abortion, but they cannot ban abortion; In the third trimester of pregnancy (3 months after pregnancy), unless the mother's life is in danger, in order to protect the fetus, States can legislate to restrict or prohibit abortion.

The idea that a man decides to have children should start with ejaculation, not after a woman is pregnant. So, once ejaculation is completed, but you refuse to accept the consequences of "children", you are abandoned.

Women bear most of the reproductive functions, so their decision to have children should start from "the fetus is in the womb for three months" (in the case of induced abortion). Once the child develops and is healthy in the abdomen, it will not endanger the safety of the mother, and it will be abandoned if it is not needed later.

Abandoning a child after birth is a relatively moral behavior.

In Zheng Shuang's case, she was fully involved in the birth decision at the early stage, but she was not actively responsible after the baby was born. Of course, she was abandoned.

I think this is really a question of human nature, not a question of gender.

If a man does this, it is also a very inhuman thing.

Third,

I can only feel: one meter raises a hundred people.

The fate between children and parents is too difficult to talk about. In this world, there are always some parents who don't respect and welcome the little ones, especially those who come carelessly, which may bring trouble to themselves.

Some people regard children as a brand-new life, while others regard children as a tool to carry two people's genes, and then hate houses and dogs.

Yi Shu gave birth to a son when he was young. He never looked at his son again and refused to admit him.

When his son Cai Biancun was eleven years old, it was the last time he saw his mother. 19 years later, Cai biancun became a famous painter and designer in Hong Kong. She went to Vancouver to visit her mother, but Yi Shu refused to see her.

Interestingly, Yi Shu became famous in his forties and gave birth to a daughter, which he regarded as a treasure.

It can be said that the son is Yi Shu's accident, trouble and burden, and the daughter is her "plan" and her lucky star.

Jackie Chan abandoned Wu Zhuolin.

When Jackie Chan saw that Wu Qili was pregnant, he first asked her to have an abortion.

After the baby was born, he broke up with Wu Zhuolin.

He regarded his daughter as Wu Qili's revenge on himself.

Over the years, Jackie Chan has been quite kind to Fang Zuming (though not dutiful enough). He brought his son into the entertainment circle to wipe his ass for the consequences of drug abuse.

Wu Zhuolin was Jackie Chan's accident, Fang Zuming was part of his life plan, and he was a candidate to carry on the family line. So Jackie Chan prefers one of them.

Zhang Tie-Lin is also a famous scum dad.

He was married only once and had a mixed-race daughter with a Polish film producer. At first, he only recognized this daughter.

After giving birth to an illegitimate daughter with the actress Hou, he refused to admit it.

Later, he gave birth to a son, Little Xiao Min, with a female student, and also published an eternal famous saying: How can you young girls not touch? Something happens when you touch it.

In order to support her daughter, Hou, who retired from the entertainment circle, began to sue for compensation for her daughter's alimony. Since then, a series of lawsuits have started in Zhang Tie-Lin.

After Xiao Min in Xi 'an gave birth to his son, Zhang Tie-Lin felt that his throne was not inherited, and his son needed another one, so he went to Xiao Min in Xi 'an to rob his son, and Xiao Min in Xi 'an also had an accident in the process of robbing his son. If I want to see my son in the future, she will block everything.

20 15, Hou and Xi' an jointly sued.

Finally, Hou's daughter was paid alimony of 6.5438+0.98 million, but Xi 'an never saw her son. Whether things between them have a result is still unknown.

Illegitimate daughter is Zhang Tie-Lin's trouble, illegitimate child is the "fragrance" of his family, and half-blood daughter is the apple of her eye.

Three children, three treatments.

Ying Da denied the son Batu born with Song Dandan, but "fatherly loved" the child born with his later wife. The reason is also very simple: the former is a burden, and the latter is "a planned gift from God to Ta".

In fact, Chen Chong also gave up foster care. Earlier, she adopted two children in Nanning. Later, when she got pregnant, she gave them to a "good family".

This incident has brought a stain on her life. She clarified that she had never adopted, but was soon slapped by the Civil Affairs Bureau.

For Chen Chong, adoption later became very troublesome; What comes out of yourself is sweet fruit.

Many parents regard their children as evil because they look like their hated ex-husbands and ex-wives. After remarriage, children born with remarried partners are regarded as "the crystallization of love" by them.

Some lives are destined to be unwelcome. Samsara is also a skill and luck. It's better to come early than to come opportunely.

But I really don't want to analyze abandonment from the perspective of "fate".

They should not be blamed for their bad lives, but their parents are unreasonable.

I used to watch a family-seeking program "Wait for me" with my mother. Many abandoned children, even if they meet a good family, will face a big or small psychological crisis, trying to find out why their biological parents abandoned them.

Huang Qiusheng's father is a scum father who abandoned his son. At that time, Hong Kong was ruled by Britain. There were many cases in which the British had sex with a local girl in Hong Kong and gave birth to a child and then returned to Britain without looking back. Huang Qiusheng's childhood was very difficult. He lived alone with his mother, living in distress and moving around in Wan Chai.

When I was a child, I was often bullied because I was "not from China, not a foreigner" and "fatherless".

After his success, he still wants to find his relatives. Later, when he learned that his father had passed away, he recognized two half-brothers.

He also said childishly, "My father once said in his letter that if I were a good boy, he would help me do everything." . I think he thinks I'm a good boy now, so he sent me two brothers. "

Do you think this is a man who is nearly sixty years old and has become a father?

No, I just think he is like a six-year-old child, a child who urgently needs his father's affirmation, encouragement and care.

He longed for his father's love all his life, even in his old age.

Interestingly, Huang Qiusheng later imitated his father and abandoned one of his children.

The same experience, as well as the French thinker Rousseau. He was abandoned when he was a child. When he grew up, he abandoned his children.

This family style is also hereditary and affects several generations. If you are not conscious enough, boys may imitate their fathers and girls may imitate their mothers. ..........................................................................................................................................................

Many people defend Zheng Shuang's abandonment of children, because he didn't consider this issue from the standpoint of children.

In real life, it is more common for men to abandon their children, because giving birth to children only requires them to ejaculate once. This phenomenon is so common that people are not surprised, but rather numb. It is the mother who abandons the child, which will cause public outrage and flogging.

And my position on this issue has always been the same: abandoning children is a very inhuman behavior, regardless of men and women. Anyone who has such behavior should be whipped (both men and women).

As for "leaving the child to the right person to raise", that is another issue in the future, which is beyond the scope of this discussion.

Parents who abandon their children must be punished by public opinion and even by law. My position will never change.

"Giving children to the right people to raise them is also a good deed", which is to lower the bottom line.

The running law of human society is like blocking a flood. The upper dam can't be saved, and the lower dam will definitely burst.

Just like the standing long jump, you have to aim two meters away to jump to one meter five. If your goal is 1.5 meters, your final standing long jump may be 1.2 meters.

"If you take the method, you will get it; Take the method from the middle and take the method from the bottom. " This is what Confucius said. It means: if you follow the above guidelines, you can only get moderate results; Imitation with medium as the criterion can only get inferior results; Take the following standards as an example, there is no bottom line at all.

Stick to the high bottom line and you can get a middle bottom line result. If the low bottom line is allowed to happen from the beginning and this behavior is defended, then human behavior will definitely break through the low bottom line.

Similarly, once you defend that "as long as you give your child to a more suitable person for raising, you are also doing good deeds and contributing to society", then the probability that the original parents give up adoption is 1%, which is likely to become 10%.

We can't ban abandonment, but this public opinion cannot be relaxed. If you relax, you will lower the bottom line. Without the pressure of moral condemnation, many people make the decision to have children and have children more casually.

The reason why Zheng Shuang was accused is not that she doesn't love children and doesn't want children, but that she is too casual about "having children", just like playing house. Giving birth is not eating. Eat if you want, and throw it away if you don't want. If we can't even condemn this, I really think there is no hope in this society.

Condemning doesn't mean forcing her to take over the child. These are two different things.

How can anyone not understand?