"Secret Love for One Night" was directed by Jiang Cheng and starred by Li, Zhou Kaixian and others. This film tells the story of a man and a woman who meet on a trip and leave after a night of romantic passion. The man is obsessed with the woman and pursues her. They meet again in the city. The subsequent experience made everyone fall in love and it was difficult to extricate themselves. The film was released in July, 20115.
0 1 originally from Gu Ting.
According to Gu Ting's description, one rainy night, my mother left her and her father because of love. Although Gu Ting held her mother's hand and wouldn't let her leave, her mother left cruelly. In later years, when Gu Ting saw her mother, she thought of rain. In other words, the event that Gu Ting's mother left Gu Ting left Gu Ting with great emotional trauma and a strong stress reaction.
I can feel that Gu Ting's father was full of anger at Gu Ting's mother's departure, and this anger extended to Gu Ting's mother's new husband, even with deep hatred and revenge. Perhaps, Gu Ting's father is a gentleman. On the surface, he works hard, takes care of his daughter, loves her, and is abandoned by his wife, which is even more sympathetic. However, this secret curse, hidden hatred and revenge in his heart were inadvertently conveyed to Gu Ting. This invisible knife not only deeply hurt Gu Ting's feelings, but also made the relationship between Gu Ting and her mother inextricably linked. This selfish man, I hate him very much
No matter how Gu Ting denies it, it is hard to hide it. Gu Ting needs maternal love very, very much! ! Does her father know Gu Ting's needs? He slapped Gu Ting's needs so hard that Gu Ting felt that this kind of maternal love was not worth it! ! This kind of injury, such as the virulence penetrating into the bones, with nicotine, makes you willing to bear it. Even if you are attacked by virulence, you are still excusing the crime of virulence.
As Gu Ting told her mother in great pain, "You know what? Dad asked me to take good care of you before he died. I'm just fulfilling a wish I promised my father. " Gu Ting said cynicism and indifference, because she was infected by the virus, and she didn't understand what she was talking about.
In Native Home, Gu Ting was hurt because she didn't believe in love, and felt that no one would really love herself, especially the mother of her closest relative would abandon herself. What about the rest?
When Gu Ting's mother was admitted to the hospital when her husband was ill, and when her closest relatives were about to leave, her inner loneliness and sadness were enormous. I can see that her new husband loves her very much. Although other children treat her badly, their love seems to be enough to make her live well.
However, when her beloved husband is about to leave, and her favorite daughter has never forgiven her, her last desire for life is gone. So Gu Ting's mother went with her husband.
Analyzing this intimate relationship, marriage is a matter for two people, and children cannot be involved. Gu Ting loved her father from beginning to end. She thinks her mother is sorry for her father. Therefore, personally, I think Gu Ting's father is selfish, which is more harmful to Gu Ting than her mother.
Gu Ting's father mishandled his relationship with his divorced mother in Gu Ting, and put this inappropriate relationship into his daily handling with Gu Ting, so he let Gu Ting spend his childhood and adolescence in the negative emotion of hating her mother until now. At the same time, Gu Ting has been condemned by his conscience that his mother needs to be forgiven. On the one hand, feelings are unforgivable; On the one hand, asking for forgiveness intellectually, can Gu Ting's intimate relationship be normal after such entanglement? How can she feel safe in an intimate relationship?
If Gu Ting's father could put aside grudges, respect Gu Ting's mother's choice, give Gu Ting complete parental love, and not express anger and judgment on Gu Ting's mother's wedding, perhaps Gu Ting's childhood would not be so loveless and cold. Here, I think, Gu Ting needs a warm hug. Maybe she resists, but I still firmly believe that she needs a big hug that loves her unconditionally.
02 Gu Ting and Su Dong
See how they met in the movie.
Su Dong (Fang Zhongxin) used to be a professional photographer. After an overseas shooting mission, he was scarred and exhausted. After returning home, he went to Yunnan alone to have fun, and met a beautiful stewardess (Li) on the way. The lonely man and woman traveled together, so the flame of love was aroused, but the sudden fire interrupted everything. After returning to Beijing, Gu Ting witnessed the scene of Su Dong's girlfriend picking up the plane at the station and consciously cheated. At the same time, the contradiction between her and her mother for many years also prompted her to find a new life.
Analyze it.
In the first passionate contact between Su Dong and Gu Ting, I probably felt Gu Ting's indescribable longing, while dismissing it, I deeply longed for it. There must be a reason for Gu Ting's inexplicable desire. Her seemingly casual and deliberate concealment attracted Su Dong deeply. At that time, the relationship between Su Dong and his girlfriend was ambiguous, and finally they parted ways after his girlfriend found a new boyfriend. At this time, Su Dong, who was obsessed with Gu Ting, finally found a clue in a fashion magazine. The two people who had been disconnected met again.
Su Dong's pursuit made it difficult for Gu Ting, who lacked love and longed for love, to control herself, so they started an agreed cohabitation for two months. They even reached an agreement to be single forever, their "three chapters of the contract"!
Look, when Gu Ting said he would give Su Dong a good present, Su Dong looked at the box and made a joke casually. Gu Ting said, "You like cheating. Have you learned not to trust others?" Su Dong opened the box, which is a ring that symbolizes swearing to be single. He obediently listened to Gu Ting's arrangement and put it on his middle finger.
Here, the person who doesn't trust others is Gu Ting. She inadvertently projected these on Su Dong, saying that Su Dong didn't trust people. And these distrust are all caused by the insecurity brought by her family.
From then on, no matter what Gu Ting thought, Su Dong made a plan to try his best to warm the heart of an injured girl within two months. Even if, he is in danger of paralysis at any time. He increased the dosage of painkillers and even took Demerol to complete his passionate love for Gu Ting. He did it quietly, without letting Gu Ting know. Because he thought that in two months, Gu Ting would go to France, and everything would be a thing of the past.
However, it never occurred to him that Gu Ting was pregnant and wanted to stay and love. Su Dong's loving approach helped her to go through the visa formalities in Gu Ting privately, but it was misunderstood by Gu Ting to drive her away. Gu Ting still lacks confidence and security.
Why did Gu Ting misunderstand? Because Gu Ting is emotionally inferior and in a weak position in intimate relationship, she likes the feeling that everything is under control. For example, she cares about where the newspaper is. Although it's not important, if it's not what she wants, it means that things are out of control and beyond expectations, and she will feel uneasy. The deep meaning of a small quarrel between Gu Ting and Su Dong is not where to put the newspaper, but the development of things, which is out of Gu Ting's control. She had deep fear and anxiety in her heart, so she turned into accusing Su Dong of putting the newspaper in the wrong place.
There are always accidents in life. Su Dong left Afghanistan unexpectedly. When Su Dong disappeared from this world, Gu Ting knew how much Su Dong loved her. For her, Su Dong actually put 80% of his life on God. Gu Ting finally realized that he had lost his favorite man and the man who loved him the most, and he would never get it back in this life.
On a rainy afternoon, Gu Ting went to the hospital. She is going to have a baby with Su Dong, and she wants to build a home for him. Unfortunately, the doctor told her that Su Dong had entrusted the hospital to use his own sperm before going to Afghanistan.
Walking in the rain, Gu Ting's heart is empty. She missed this precious love in the tangle of love and not love. Everything is like a dream, but it's good to have a dream.
No matter how ups and downs a movie is, what I want to convey is an idea. I wonder what teenagers around the age of twenty will see in this youth film. Love? Trust? Passion? Regret? Or something.
I hope everyone can realize from the film that the passion of youth is not terrible, and I hope to be rational. At the same time, intimacy is very important to everyone, which will affect their life value orientation, love outlook, and even affect interpersonal relationships. Therefore, in intimate relationships, especially between parents and children, between husband and wife, we should respect, trust, accept and communicate more, which will make us walk wider, hope more, regret less and be more rational. ......
I sincerely hope that through this baptism of love, Gu Ting can believe in love, believe in the warmth of the world, forgive past injuries, stop hurting himself, learn to love himself correctly, and then have the strength to trust and love others and start a new and better love. This is also the life that Su Dong, who loves her most in this life, wants her to live.