In the past two years, I have been trying to be myself, finish my work, feel the subdivided life with my heart, keep my heart calm and not be infected by impetuous phenomena. Maybe I can't do my best, at least I can do better. So I keep working hard to become a better self step by step.
1. Freedom of economic domination
Recently, when learning words, the teacher in the video has been repeating the phrase "on", which means both dependence and dependence.
The teacher said: "Now many girls are clamoring to be better themselves, but even the most basic economy can't be independent. How can it be better? "
Economic independence is the premise of becoming a better person. If you don't have enough freedom to control the economy, where do you start? I can't afford the clothes I like, but I want to travel, and I don't have enough money to enroll in interest classes. ......
So, don't rush to get better, try to be financially independent first.
2. Financial management is more important than making money and saving money.
"Don't always think about saving money, think about making money." I don't know where I heard the truth, and then I have been pursuing all kinds of reckless eating and drinking.
The salary for the first three months will be paid together at the beginning of the fourth month. For me who just graduated, it is not a small income. I am very excited about all kinds of buy buy shopping. My dad said to me on the phone, "When you have money, think about the days when you have no money, and don't spend it indiscriminately." I don't believe it. Coincidentally, the fifth month's salary was delayed, and I only had 70 yuan left, which made me afraid to go out of the office.
From then on, I understood the importance of managing money while making money.
3. Be a good cook
Sister sent a message saying, "Sister, I want to eat your fish again." I am secretly happy to see such content.
Many years ago, I cooked a meal at home, but I didn't cook it well. The food is either fried or has too much or too little salt. My sister always remembers the taste at that time, so whenever I mentioned cooking, she avoided talking about it and refused to eat it.
But after working outside, I live in a single dormitory. Every time I eat, I consciously wash the dishes and watch them dance on the stove. But when they were away, I was just hungry, so I went to the vegetable market to buy food by myself, followed the recipe steps, stir-fried and put seasonings on it several times, and it actually felt great.
Last winter vacation, my sister began to beat her to death and refused to eat. Seeing that the color of the food is not bad after serving, I often get up my courage and give her a big surprise.
On her birthday a month ago, she ordered the fish I cooked, and she didn't forget to look forward to the next time after dinner. I think this is also one of my progress.
Life is not rich, but the spirit should be rich.
I still remember seeing a lot of such news a long time ago: how much did it cost to dress up the rental house in style, or how much did it cost to dress up the dormitory in such a luxurious way?
This is the mood of life.
Not everyone is white or not, but in a limited economy, we can also improve the quality of life and make our life more interesting.
This is the so-called spiritual wealth, created with wisdom and sentiment.
Xiangyang has recently changed a big house. He said he rewarded himself because life was hard. Compared with him, many people will save more money on housing, because she feels that she can't afford it. Such expenses are extravagant, but she ignores that the quality of life should be higher.
Everyone is better than the poor. Be a person who can live, buy yourself a bunch of flowers every week, spend little money and light up a wonderful life.
Not everyone deserves your concern.
I was depressed for a while and didn't want to go to work every day. As soon as I think about going to work, I think I'd rather bury myself if I can.
Because I am engaged in preschool education, more than 40 children in my class have to face more than 40 families and more than 40 family concepts. The most exasperating thing is that a parent called me and scolded me. He said I abused his children.
He was very excited by all kinds of questions and abuse on the other end of the phone, and I was constantly angry and wronged on the other end of the phone. The next morning, his wife came to apologize to me. The child was in a hurry to call me and scold me without making it clear.
At that time, I was not in the mood to accept an apology and wanted to change careers. However, when I turned around and saw those cute little faces, I felt that it was just an insignificant thing, and he was just an insignificant person, one of many parents in my life, not important.
At this point, I understand that to be a better self, you need to turn your heart into a leaky spoon, leave out unimportant people and things, and leave behind people and things worth cherishing and cherishing.
6. Take poetry as a book and enjoy yourself.
The Reader exploded, and Dong Qing became a role model for many people. There has always been a rumor in the circle of friends that the opening remarks of readers in each issue can be an excellent composition.
Season 1, Issue 1: Throughout the ages, there are too many words describing various encounters. "The white dew is frost, and the so-called Iraqis are on the water side." This is a touching encounter; "This sister, I have seen it before." This is a pleasant encounter between Baoyu and Daiyu when they first met; "Nice to meet you. How was your evening? " This was met by Princess Anne in a daze in Roman Holiday. "Before I met you, I didn't want to get married. I haven't thought about marrying anyone since I met you. " This is the lifetime meeting between Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang.
Dong Qing deeply understands this encounter from ancient times to the present, from China to foreign countries, across times and national boundaries, and the definition of each encounter is just right.
It all comes from reading. So many people say, "Dong Qing is a truly poetic woman." Men, women and children praised Dong Qing.
Therefore, a lot of reading, exposition, ancient and modern Chinese and foreign, in broadening the scope of knowledge, increasing talent at the same time become a better self.
7. If you don't understand the consequences of refusing, you will shit on yourself.
San Mao said: Don't be afraid to refuse others, if your reason is justified. When a person opens his mouth to make a request, he has two answers in mind. Therefore, it is expected to give him any answer.
There is always such a situation in life. People keep asking you for help. In fact, you were busy enough, but you agreed because of your kindness. As a result, the more people need your help, the busier you are.
Don't just think about others, think more about yourself, cleverly refuse overloaded help, and coquetry and admiration are all desirable.
In addition, sometimes you obviously want to go to the library to read, but your best friend always pesters you to go shopping, walk the playground and watch movies with you. Compromise after compromise makes you very unhappy. You want to stay with her and study more.
Speak your mind honestly. Don't think that everyone will be angry. If you are really good friends, you will understand. If you are angry, this friendship can stop here.
No matter at any stage, learning to refuse is an important skill in our life, even in love. When you meet a boy who doesn't like you, you can refuse cleverly and tactfully without hurting the other person, which will also increase your burden.
8. Self-discipline, reasonable arrangement and efficient use of time.
Now many clubs are teaching others how to be self-disciplined, how to arrange their time more reasonably and how to use their time efficiently.
In fact, if you really want to make progress, you don't need to be so complicated and troublesome.
I have been busy learning English recently and have been in school for two years. Although there is a foundation, it is still a bit difficult to learn again, especially the words that are clearly remembered one second, and the words that you can't remember the next second.
I have to go to work during the day. In order to grab more time in the limited time and improve my learning efficiency, I keep trying to find my most reasonable arrangement. From 5: 30 in the morning, I read English for an hour, practice the violin for half an hour after work in the afternoon, read the planned writing feelings, and then learn to review English for an hour before going to bed.
My mind is full of English, so I have no energy to waste time. Of course, the premise is to have a strong motivation, so before planning and using time, you must find a strong motivation that can impress you. For example, all kinds of studies in high school are to get into a good university.
9. Live a meaningful life
Many people feel that they are working hard, but they will never find a sense of accomplishment. Without a sense of accomplishment, it is difficult to continue, because everyone needs to be affirmed and encouraged.
So, set goals for yourself, one day, one week, one month, six months, one year, five years and ten years. .....................................................................................................................................
More importantly, in the realization of each goal, you will get all kinds of sense of accomplishment, which will constantly encourage you to move on and give you the strength to move forward.
I originally planned to take the driver's license test before June, so I forced myself to go to the venue to practice driving early every morning in order not to delay my work. I am very tired. I thought about stopping for a while to wait for the summer vacation, but I had summer vacation plans. In order to complete my goal before June and not delay the later arrangements, I survived.
Finally, it passed smoothly at the end of May, and I lost 5 pounds successfully, and the whole person was full of energy.
10. Don't doubt that you will become a better self.
Inadvertently watched a postgraduate entrance examination video, and the senior said: Many candidates always ask me if it is difficult to take the postgraduate entrance examination. Generally speaking, those who answer his questions are not admitted, and those who answer his questions are admitted. No matter how difficult it is, as long as you prepare for the exam, I don't believe it, so you won't take the exam.
Just like Zhu Wei, an English teacher, has been repeating this sentence in the video: less utilitarian pursuit and more unreasonable persistence.
Many people only see the immediate employment needs in the postgraduate entrance examination. In fact, it has more important significance, that is, it can make you better yourself.
Don't worry. Don't be frightened by unknown fears. Don't doubt that you will become a better self. If you believe it, you can.
Just like many years ago, the books you read, the roads you walked and the scenery you saw will all show up in your temperament.