Five-year-old Yue Yue is now in a big class in kindergarten. Seeing that the neighbor's little girl who is one year older than Yue Yue can get up, dress, wash and comb her hair by herself, she can go to school without waking her mother. Yue Yue's mother also wants to cultivate her children's self-care ability. When brushing her teeth that night, her mother asked Yue Yue to do it herself. Who knows, Yue Yue shouted at her mother, "It's none of my business, I just need to do my homework. What does brushing your teeth have to do with me! " Mother was surprised by Yue Yue's words, but she also strengthened her determination to let her children learn to take care of themselves as soon as possible.

As we all know, children from other places will have to support themselves when they reach the age of 18. Many of them go to college with loans, but in China, even if they get married and start a family, many children will continue to "live on their laurels". In this way, parents in our country seem to be more responsible, but is this really appropriate? The answer is of course no.

In fact, it is better for mothers to be "lazy" in educating their children. If only the mother is diligent and does everything for her, it will be difficult for the child to become a truly independent person in the future. So, how to be a "lazy" mother is appropriate?

1. I believe that children can take care of themselves.

Many mothers don't trust their children, don't believe that their children have the ability to take care of themselves, and want to control everything about their children, but forget that their children are a growing independent individual. When their children are old enough to take care of themselves, their mothers still take care of their affairs. In fact, children are often more capable than their mothers think. Many children's greatest hope for their parents is that their parents can trust themselves. As long as mothers have confidence in them and give them independent space and opportunities, they will bring many unexpected surprises to their mothers.

2. Give children a chance to try

Children have independent requirements, and mothers should give their children full trust and autonomy, let them experience the joy of trying, and believe that he can do it. Of course, children will inevitably encounter some setbacks in the process of trying. At this time, what the mother needs to do is to help the child turn the unfavorable and wrong factors into positive and favorable factors in the process of continuous trying, and give the child more opportunities to "try-make mistakes-correct-improve".

3. Let the children face the problems themselves

No mother wants her children to be weak, but if they are allowed to grow up under the protection of their mothers and know nothing about the world, how can they make a smooth transition from being taken care of at home to being able to face the ups and downs of the outside world alone? In daily study and life, every child will encounter many problems, big and small. Mother should not think that the child is clumsy and wastes time, but should give him enough time to think and explore. Only in this way can children gradually become strong.

4. Give children the opportunity to think independently

In our life, children encounter problems, and some parents often help them solve them without thinking. Slowly, children will develop the dependence idea of not thinking about how to solve problems by themselves, but immediately seeking help from their parents. Children's thinking ability is slowly stifled, and the ability to solve problems is naturally impossible. Therefore, don't deprive children of the opportunity to think. When the child really can't think of a solution, parents can give appropriate hints, don't rush the child because of his slow response, and give the child enough time to think.

Being a "lazy" mother doesn't mean to be really lazy, but to leave room for children to practice and create opportunities for them to practice. Therefore, a "lazy" mother is not necessarily a good mother!