Looks, wealth and working ability are excellent, but the object of looking for is very general. At first glance, you may wonder: How did you find such a good person?

But good partners don't care. In their eyes, the partner looks radiant.

Just like many celebrities and rich people who choose to get married, it seems that they are no better than their predecessors in other aspects.

Why TA?

The reason is that we feel more comfortable together. If we can meet all the material needs ourselves, then the requirements for our partners will be more focused on emotional value.

So it is not surprising that there are many beautiful and independent girls around, and finally they all marry ordinary and honest people.

0 1. A single woman with a house and a car lives a rich life.

Chen Yun is 40 years old this year. She has a house, a car and several facades. The economy is much better than ordinary office workers.

Chen Yun was beautiful when he was young. After years of proper maintenance, she looks only in her early 30s.

Being single is not her choice. All these possessions were left to her by her dead husband.

At that time, when they got married, they were very poor. Because her husband was very capable, Chen Yun could take care of the family with confidence.

It's a pity that her husband died in a car accident a few years ago. Chen Yun took over her husband's business, but because of poor management, she transferred the business to others and bought several sets of facade houses and a house property.

Even if she doesn't go out to work, she and her son can live well by collecting rent.

She usually just plays mahjong, goes shopping and doesn't worry about food and clothing, so she is generous at ordinary times and has a very good popularity in the community.

Someone saw that she had been single and wanted to introduce someone to her, but she refused. She said: "My son is still young, and I am afraid it will have a bad influence on him."

So from the age of 35 to 40, her son went to high school and came back once or twice a month. She feels bored at home alone.

She felt that her son was old, and after consulting with him, she decided to pursue her own happiness.

02. Single men pursue fiercely and leave their relatives to get married.

She told her sisters what she was looking for so that they could meet the right person and introduce them to her.

Because Chen Yun's own conditions are good, most of his clients are middle-aged divorced men with good career and personality. But Chen Yun didn't take a fancy to it, sometimes because the other party was too busy to spend time with her, or because the family was entangled in the past.

Chen Yun felt very tired and thought, "Let it go, don't look for it, wait until you meet the right one." .

She didn't expect fate to come so quickly that she met a man who made her move in a few months.

It was a party organized by the park, and Bai Feng fell in love with her at first sight. She didn't notice this humble man, but Bai Feng made a fierce pursuit of her after the party.

Chen Yun sent a message to a circle of friends at 2 am, saying that he wanted to eat steamed stuffed buns in a place. Bai Feng immediately found this shop by driving 100 km. When the store opened, Lin Yun opened at 7: 00 in the morning and saw Bai Feng standing in front of him with hot steamed bread and millet porridge.

Sometimes Lin Yun has a whim to say that she wants to go to the seaside, and Bai Feng asks for a week off to accompany her. If she has a slight cold and fever, Bai Feng is more nervous than she is. The taste of Chen Yun is a bit awkward. Bai Feng spent half a day cooking soup for her. She doesn't eat if she doesn't like it, and Bai Feng is not angry at all. She said that she was rejected by her wife.

Under the enthusiastic offensive of Bai Feng, Chen Yun fell completely, introduced him to all his friends, and even took him to his hometown to meet his parents, saying that he must marry him.

But parents don't agree. First of all, the conditions of Baifeng are really bad. People in their early forties have no house, no car and no savings, and earn more than 3,000 dead wages every month.

Chen Yun's father advised her, "He has nothing. What do you want with him? "

Chen Yun doesn't think so. She said: "I have a house and a car, and I don't want anything else. I just hope that others will be honest and treat me well. "

Mother also felt unreliable and said very tactfully, "Daughter, it's not that you can't find an honest man. Marriage depends on character." Do you know his past? Have you met his parents and friends? "

When the former in-laws knew about this, they also advised her to be cautious, but Chen Yun was completely carried away by the sweetness of love and didn't listen at all.

At the expense of the whole family, I finally got a marriage certificate with Bai Feng and became a legal couple.

But what she didn't expect was that all this became the beginning of her nightmare.

03. The "honest man" tore his face and was miserable after marriage.

Bai Feng used to be a security guard in the factory and lived in the factory dormitory. After getting married, Lin Yun asked him to move out and live in his own house. The factory is more than two hours' drive from home.

Looking at Bai Feng leaving early and returning late, Lin Yun was very distressed and asked him to quit his job and find one near home.

After Bai Feng resigned, he stayed at home for more than half a year, playing games at home every day, and his living expenses were paid by Chen Yun. Chen Yun helped him find a job as a security guard at the entrance of the property. He said: "All people who live in a community are neighbors. Isn't it shameful for people to see me as a security guard at the door? "

Later, because Jelly Lin found out that he secretly rewarded tens of thousands of female anchors with his own money at night, he stopped giving him money, and Bai Feng slapped her.

Lin Yun first froze, and then she couldn't believe that her husband, who had been so gentle, had hit her. But the next day Bai Feng knelt down to her again, slapped herself in front of her and said that she would commit suicide if she didn't forgive herself.

Jelly Lin relented once, and was injured countless times later.

Her forgiveness didn't get Bai Feng's "reward", but it got worse. As long as she doesn't pay, she will be beaten by Bai Feng.

In front of everyone, Bai Feng showed a harmless look, acting very innocent: "Wife, listen to you, don't be angry."

And Chen Yun has no obvious injuries, because Bai Feng knows how to hit people without leaving scars.

Whenever Chen Yun cries to the people around her that her married life is miserable, everyone still advises her to get married without quarreling, so just put up with it.

In this way, Bai Feng became more unscrupulous, began to check her mobile phone, controlled her to associate with others, even girlfriends, and stared at her at home every day not to let her go out.

Chen Yun knew that Bai Feng's tolerance and love for her were planned in advance. He said, "If I hadn't chased you, would I have driven in the middle of the night to buy that stupid steamed stuffed bun?" I'm sick. "

She filed for divorce, and Bai Feng said, "Yes, I'll share half of the property."

Finally, Bai Feng went out to buy cigarettes, and Lin Yun secretly ran away from home, penniless, and took a taxi to his parents' house, and his father paid the fare.

Father looked at her and said, "Do you think he is honest? He can only be honest, because he has no ability and no capital residue. "

Bai Feng found Lin Yun's parents' house and tried to drag her back. Lin Yun is determined to get a divorce. Bai Feng also wants to share half the property. Chen Yun's only luck is that she transferred the property to her son before she got married, just as she listened to her former in-laws. Although she was very angry at that time, it proved that Bai Feng was not that kind of person. She actually punched herself in the face.

Finally, Bai Fenglai refused to leave Chen Yun's home. In order to prevent Bai Feng from retaliating and harassing, Chen Yun had to sell the house and move back home exhausted.

Conclusion:

Marriage really needs something. Many women will say that before I married an honest man, I wanted nothing, just to make others honest.

But is this really the case? Emotion and material things are indispensable in marriage. Some contemporary independent women are better than men economically, so they may be inclined to find a husband who can provide them with high emotional value.

If the husband is willing to meet his wife's emotional needs and the wife provides the necessary material conditions in the marriage, such a marriage is unnecessary.

Maybe someone will say, isn't this a typical soft meal?

Ms. Li Yinhe once said: A man who can eat soft rice must have some unique charm.

However, most men are not satisfied with being dominated by their wives. If they don't have a deep emotional foundation, they have to be tolerant all the time, and the result is likely to be a soft meal.

Maybe what you want is his honesty, but once he takes back his kindness to you, he has nothing.

If a person has nothing but good for you, will you choose to marry him?