Two people have to go through many tests from love to marriage. It's really fate that we can finally get married together.

So how do young couples who are new here and have little experience deal with marriage? Let me, an experienced person, share the marriage with you. Tell me about the whole process of marriage with my personal experience.

It is hereby declared that each family's situation is different, and the following contents are for personal experience only.

First, parents meet.

For couples who have decided to get married, the first priority is naturally to meet their parents. Of course, you should have met each other's parents before that. In general, the time and place of meeting should be decided by the parents of the man and an invitation should be sent to the parents of the woman.

So when we meet, apart from communicating with each other and enhancing understanding, what are the main contents of communication? This is very important. Couples must do their homework before their parents meet to promote the effect of communication. Because many "big things" have to be finalized at this meeting. It means a lot!

In my personal experience, the contents of this meeting include the following points:

The problem of the house is naturally the top priority. My situation at that time was that the house had been bought, and 10' s housing loan was repaid by parents and husband and wife. As for the decoration, I will pay for the decoration, and my wife is responsible for buying home appliances.

If you haven't bought a house yet, you can communicate the location of the house in advance, estimate the house price, whether to borrow money, how to repay the loan, whose name to write in the house, the way of decoration, the allocation of decoration costs and so on. It is also necessary to plan the time for buying a house and decorating, and make sure that the house can be occupied before the wedding.

There is no mention of buying a car here. Buying a car was not very common at that time. Married for two years, the husband and wife bought the car together. If buying a car is also involved when you get married, you should also confirm the way to buy a car.

After determining the plan of buying a house and decorating, it is necessary to determine the time of marriage registration. Under normal circumstances, the man pays more attention to the time of marriage registration when buying a house to get a wedding. After registration, it will make the man's parents feel more practical and can better assist you in preparing for the wedding.

We set a date on the day when our parents met, and registered to get married within 1 month.

Of course, every family is different. A friend of mine, his wife's parents, asked to register after the wedding. Although they are happy now, this is not recommended. Because you have decided to get married, so don't deliberately talk about some unreasonable conditions, which will widen the distance between the two families.

The confirmation of the wedding mainly includes the confirmation of the wedding time, the number of friends and relatives invited, and the hotel level and wedding scale (mainly the number of tables) determined by the number of people. Then determine the way of the wedding, Chinese, western and so on.

If it involves different places, it may be necessary to consider how the wedding will be held.

Under normal circumstances, it takes at least half a year from buying a house and decorating it to preparing for the wedding, which usually takes 9 to 12 months.

We met our parents in August, registered in September, and prepared for the wedding in May of the following year for nine months.

Some couples may ask, does the wedding time need to be determined so long in advance? Once something happens at home, can you temporarily adjust it? Is it not enough to determine three months in advance?

It depends on the family situation and the city. In my experience, the sooner you decide, the better, because you have to choose a wedding hotel, book a etiquette company, a motorcade and so on. Weddings usually choose auspicious days. On such days, hotels, etiquette companies and motorcades are nervous. If you don't book in advance, you may not be able to book your favorite hotel.

As for the wedding date, once it is determined, it will not be revised without special circumstances.

After determining these three major events, some families may have to communicate about their future lifestyles, such as whether to live with their parents, whether to pay a bride price or not, and how much to give; Are there any special living customs or something?

Of course, some families gradually finalize the time by phone after their parents meet, which varies from person to person. But these three things must be confirmed first, and then the follow-up things can be promoted.

After the parents of both parties confirm these three major events, we will implement all the contents as planned. Especially buying a house for decoration is a very laborious and happy thing.

Second, wedding photos and honeymoon trips

Recommended booking time: 9- 12 months before the wedding, and the shooting time is preferably 3-5 months before the wedding.

We ordered the wedding photos in May (before our parents met) and took them in June at 5438+ 10, seven months before the wedding. Our last film was shot in March.

Wedding photos are of great significance to newlyweds and are precious memories of our lives. Why should wedding photos be booked as early as possible? 1) Couples should reserve time for weight loss and beauty. Who doesn't want to take a wedding photo in the best condition?

2) Give time for post-editing. Because your wedding photos are usually displayed at your wedding and hung in your new house. So we should reserve enough time for editing and designing the studio.

3) The shooting site and photographer should be booked in advance, so as to ensure the effect.

Recommended booking time: 4-6 months before the wedding.

Honeymoon travel is very desirable for many couples. Booking a honeymoon trip in advance is to fully prepare a lot of things before the trip. Because we have wedding and decoration to deal with at the same time, we must not wait until the wedding to make a reservation.

Generally speaking, you will travel the day after the wedding. Because our wedding leave time is limited, we must make full use of every day.

We made a honeymoon trip plan six months in advance and made full preparations. Go straight away the day after the wedding.

Third, wedding preparation.

Knock on the blackboard. Here comes the point. A perfect wedding is inseparable from careful preparation and planning. So what are the steps to prepare for the wedding?

Recommended booking time: 6- 12 months before the wedding.

Of course, the earlier you book, the better. We booked a hotel six months in advance, but we couldn't book any of our three favorite hotels, so we had to choose another hotel. So share your personal experience and lessons with everyone, and be sure to book as soon as possible.

Recommended booking time: 6-9 months before the wedding.

Similarly, the earlier you book, the better. Excellent etiquette companies are as popular as hotels. Because after determining the etiquette company, many follow-up matters need to be docked with the etiquette company.

Etiquette companies need to communicate as follows:

1) Determination of the wedding plan

Suggested confirmation time: 3-5 months before the wedding.

According to your idea, the etiquette company will give corresponding suggestions and plans. The earlier you communicate, the more prepared you will be, so as to make a wonderful wedding plan.

2) Determination of 2)MC

Suggested confirmation time: 2-3 months before the wedding

It would be nice to have your own friends as emcees. I believe that most couples still need etiquette companies to recommend emcees. So make an appointment in advance, and the emcee's schedule is full.

3) Determination of motorcade

Suggested confirmation time: 2-3 months before the wedding

Determine the motorcade according to the wedding plan, including model, brand and quantity. Book in advance to prevent the favorite team from being unable to book.

4) Production of live video and materials

Recommended confirmation time: before the wedding 15 days-1 month.

To combine the wedding process, we must make clear the plan in advance and give enough time to modify and optimize it.

5) photography

Recommended confirmation time: 65438+ 0-2 months before the wedding.

You can recommend it by the etiquette company, or you can find it yourself. We should also make full preparations in advance.

6) Makeup artist

Recommended confirmation time: 65438+ 0-2 months before the wedding.

You can recommend it by the etiquette company, or you can find it yourself. Makeup artists also have appointments, so it's better to make an appointment in advance.

All the above matters are completed by etiquette company. It is more troublesome to find it yourself, and it is relatively convenient to hand it over to the etiquette company. But you must keep up with their progress.

Recommended confirmation time: 65438+ 0-6 months before the wedding (as the case may be)

Many couples attach great importance to wedding dresses. If they have better economic conditions, they may need to make wedding dresses six months in advance. If you rent a wedding dress, you need to make an appointment 1-2 months in advance to prevent your wedding dress from colliding with others.

Suggested confirmation time: 3 months before the wedding (as the case may be)

When I got married, I formed a bridesmaid group of three men and three women. Everyone depends on the situation. Make an appointment with your best man and maid of honor in advance. They will be an important sight at your wedding.

For the best man and bridesmaid, there are other things to pay attention to:

1) makeup artist: The makeup artist you booked must communicate with him, including the makeup of the best man and bridesmaid.

2) Dresses: When booking dresses, help the best man and the bridesmaid to book dresses at the same time. You'd better let them try on clothes with you, so that they can match better.

3) Division of labor: Best man and bridesmaid don't make vases. They are important people to help complete the wedding. Give them an accurate division of labor according to the wedding process. Some hold wedding dresses, some accompany toasts, some receive guests, some receive gifts, and so on.

4) Wedding location: Generally, there will be wedding location shooting after the wedding. After the wedding, we will go directly to the nearby park for outdoor shooting, and the best man and bridesmaid group will help you shoot together.

In fact, the best man and bridesmaid are also very hard, although they are all their best friends and relatives. After the wedding, don't forget to thank them and treat them to a big meal.

Recommended confirmation time: 65438+ 0-3 months before the wedding.

The list of relatives and friends present at both parties should be confirmed at least one month in advance. Because after confirmation, it is necessary to communicate with the hotel about the final confirmed number of tables and the wedding banquet menu.

At the same time, it is best to send wedding invitations 1 month in advance, so that relatives and friends attending the wedding can arrange the adjustment time in advance.

Recommended confirmation time: 65438+ 0-3 months before the wedding.

Confirm the number of tables according to the actual relatives and friends who can be present. Remember to reserve a table (if there are many people, you can reserve two tables for more than 30 tables). Some hotels may confirm the menu for you at the time of booking. In most cases, the menu is determined 1 to 3 months before the wedding.

We decided on the menu 1 month before the wedding.

Recommended confirmation time: 10- 20 days before the wedding.

In general, the etiquette company will provide you with a detailed purchase list according to the way and process of your wedding. You don't have to go to Baidu to check the information. But you need your relatives, friends or parents to help you purchase and carry out subsequent packaging.

Suggested confirmation time: 2-5 days before the wedding.

The etiquette company will rehearse according to the final confirmed wedding process, and confirm all the processes and docking people (the role of bridesmaid and best man is coming). You don't need Baidu either, just follow the process provided by etiquette company. On the wedding day, the etiquette company will arrange designated personnel to provide full service and follow up all processes. (So it is important to find a reliable etiquette company. )

Some couples may ask, why not rehearse 1 day in advance? Because when we got married at that time, it was required that husband and wife could not meet each other 1 day before marriage. As for the reason, I don't remember clearly.

Recommended confirmation time: 65438+ 0-3 days before the wedding.

Again, we will leave on the day after the wedding. We must prepare our luggage in advance, so don't forget.

When you are ready for these things, tomorrow should be your wedding. Are you full of excitement? The eve of the wedding is actually a very happy and difficult night.

Because after this night, you will say goodbye to your parents and start living independently with your lover. Just have a good talk with your parents and don't get tired of their advice.

Writing here, my eyes suddenly burst into tears, and I remembered the scene of ending the night before marriage. You can only feel it if you have experienced it. Enjoy the most special night of your life, which you will never forget.

This is what I share with you about getting married as an experienced person.

Finally, once again, the above content is the process content combed out through my personal experience, for reference only.

Marriage is sacred. If you have decided to get married, you must cherish it. I wish all lovers will be well.

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