Case:

Yang Yang's mother is preparing dinner. "Yang Yang, outdoor activities organized by the school, I heard the teacher say that you refused to attend. What's wrong? " Yang Yang came out of the room, shaking his head and waving his hand as he walked. "No, I'm not ready recently."

"The older you get, the less sensible you are. There used to be activities at school, so you rushed to participate. Ok, you can eat, go to the room and call your dad. " Mother cleared the table and served the food.

"Dad, come out for dinner! Mom, peel an apple for me. I don't eat dinner. My cousin said that I want to lose weight and I can't eat at night. " As he spoke, he stood in front of the mirror and looked at his whole body.

"How can a growing child not eat? Don't listen to your cousin's nonsense. Wash your hands quickly! " Dad came out of the room and ordered ...

Yang Yang is 1 1 years old. I used to be a cheerful little warm man, but recently I always pay great attention to my external image. I like to stagger when I walk, and it is cool to learn hip hop. The physiological phenomenon of children's adolescence is becoming more and more obvious. Yang Yang also asked her mother, but Yang Yang's mother found it difficult to answer. She only said that she had grown up and didn't know how to guide and educate her children.

Case study:

First of all, let's look at the phenomenon of children:

1. The growth of children's youth cannot be stopped.

Children are growing physically and physiologically. As parents, we can't stop them. His body will constantly secrete hormones, and his energy will not increase. Children in this period are full of strength and have a new understanding of things and people around them. They will be curious or explore these things again, especially the persistent pursuit of the opposite sex.

2. Showing individuality is only a manifestation of attracting the opposite sex.

In order to make the opposite sex pay attention to himself and find a sense of existence in front of the opposite sex, he constantly wants to have more personality and unique personality charm, so he began to pay attention to his image, his clothes, and even play cool and walk in a relatively handsome posture. In fact, these are all normal manifestations. The body has accumulated so much energy that it must be discharged from the body, otherwise it will suffocate. But these can't form a pattern in the child's logical thinking, and he is not sure whether it is useful.

For parents:

1. The growth of the child once again brings anxiety to the mother's separation.

Seeing that the child is about to grow into a little man, he has his own consciousness to shape his personality charm (of course, maybe the method is not correct, but at least he is doing it. ) to attract the opposite sex. Mothers will lose their sense of security and crisis. She hopes that the child will always be the innocent little boy, and then only revolve around his parents every day. In the eyes of children, only parents are the biggest. In fact, this is unrealistic.

As parents, our love is the love of separation, and it is the process that children are separated from our bodies. It is also the process of children struggling out of our arms and walking by themselves; Now that children have reached puberty, they see more worlds and more people in their eyes. He needs independence, recognition from the opposite sex, and recognition from people other than his parents and teachers. That is to say, the child is preparing for his adulthood and independence to go to society. Don't worry, this is our task!

2. Affirm the child's physiological characteristics and successfully spend adolescence.

When we understand that children should grow up to be independent and go out to the society to become truly independent individuals in the future, please put down your anxiety, put down your unsafe factors, face children correctly, and help them get through adolescence smoothly.

Therefore, our parents must first have a correct attitude, be calm, and affirm and praise the symbolic characteristics of children's growth. Don't let children have psychological pressure on their physical characteristics.

3. Correctly understand all the behaviors and thoughts of the opposite sex in adolescence, and don't kidnap morally.

Let the child talk to his mother about his physiological reaction because his mother is the most trustworthy and safest individual of the opposite sex, and will not laugh at him or despise him. This shows how important our opinions are to children, so we should be frank and calm, and we should not be secretive and vague.

We should respect the normal physiological function, which is the most sacred thing for human beings to reproduce, respect it, respect life and respect nature. Many parents laugh at their children because of their affection for girls, and their language is ironic and contemptuous. Children will also feel ashamed and gradually suppress their emotions. Over time, they will become quiet, eccentric and surly.

We should guide our children. This is the same as the turning point in life. Its arrival will bring you a lot of depression. It doesn't matter. We will keep a sunny and confident heart and shape our youth dream!

I don't know what netizens think, guide adolescent children, please speak enthusiastically, thank you, I am Sister Xiang!