Great sharing of psychological beauty methods
1, Humor: Physicians believe that humor is a healthy function of people and a good prescription for psychological beauty. Humorous words and deeds can not only bring people happy emotions, but also alleviate contradictions and conflicts in life, which is the condiment and lubricant of life. It can make a heavy state of mind open-minded, cheerful and relaxed, and has the function of maintaining psychological balance. Humor can not only shorten the distance between relatives and colleagues, maintain good interpersonal relationships, but also make people forget their troubles and have fun in laughter.
2. Optimism: This is a good psychological characteristic. It can dispel and frustrate people's pains and troubles, and add courage, confidence and strength to our lives. Psychologists believe that happy mood can make people feel comfortable, which is conducive to the normal secretion of various hormones and the regulation of brain function and blood circulation.
3. Talk: This is not only a way of emotional relief, but also a method of self-psychological adjustment. Life is never "perfect". "Everyone has a difficult song to sing and every family has a difficult lesson to read." When people are depressed and anxious, especially when they are in "psychological infarction", if they can talk to their relatives, colleagues and psychologists in time, they can relieve stagnation, soothe frustrated hearts and heal emotional wounds. Learn to talk, you can gain the understanding and persuasion of others, sweep away the haze in your heart, and regain the psychological balance and the fulcrum of life.
4. Learn to be tolerant: A tolerant attitude can brew the wine of life, eliminate the barriers between people, and is a magic weapon to communicate feelings. When people live in society, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions and troubles, such as disharmony between husband and wife, neighbors and colleagues, which will make people fall into the swamp of feelings, appear negative emotions and even form hatred. Especially when being misinterpreted and hurt, some people's instinctive reaction is revenge. However, although revenge can vent anger, relieve inner burden and get temporary pleasure, it will intensify contradictions and even cause terrible consequences. Take a step back and broaden the horizon. At this time, the wisest choice for people is tolerance.
However, in modern life, without efforts of self-cultivation, it is difficult for most people to maintain a peaceful, calm and serene mind. You can try the idea beauty method, and the effect will be very good. Specific practices are as follows:
Sit cross-legged on the bed before going to bed every night, take three deep breaths, then relax and breathe naturally. Imagine yourself in a clear lake, with green grass above your head and a bright moon in the sky. In a trance, I imagined that my skin was as bright as the moon, and the clear lake nourished my skin. If you have freckles on your face, you can imagine that the freckles will fade a little and your skin will become smooth and delicate. It takes about 15 minutes each time, and it takes about two weeks to take effect.
Health comes from a good attitude.
The definition of health by the World Health Organization (WHO) includes three levels: physiological, psychological and social relations. Only when these three levels are balanced can we reach the standard of "health". In fact, health is not only a problem of physical illness, but also a problem of mental health.
When I was in medical college, I began to explore the relationship between disease and human mind, and I was exposed to a lot of information about physical and mental research. I deeply realize that if the doctor only helps the patient's body and can't relieve his pain from the root of his heart, it is not a real cure.
When I was an intern, I once gave first aid to a man who was hit in the abdomen by a thick steel plate. The situation was very critical. After cutting his chest, I had to put my whole hand in and massage his heart to save his life. The experience of this emergency patient greatly shocked me, prompting me to further think about the existence, value, essence and significance of life.
People's physical pain is often a manifestation of mental pain. If we only regard human organs as a part of the machine and think that with the help of modern medical instruments or high technology, we can solve health problems by replacing the old with the new, it is only superficial treatment. In fact, even the best heart-changing surgery can't save a person who has no will to live. Because the human body is not a simple machine, but an intelligent body that interacts with thinking. When treating any disease, if we don't perceive and understand the changes of inner emotions at the psychological level and only think from the material point of view, there will be a big blind spot in treatment.
Looking back at the history of human diseases, we find that the types of diseases have changed greatly. People seldom get sick because of malnutrition or virus infection, but they will suffer from chronic diseases such as hypertension, gout, diabetes, cancer or heart disease. According to the theory of "energy forms matter", the heart is the key role leading the energy change, and the body is the presentation of thinking. Therefore, I hope everyone can understand the view of the integration of body and mind from a completely different angle, that is, the body is the heart and the heart is the body, and the relationship between them is inseparable.
In fact, the body carries people's past, present and future experiences, and also experiences all emotional changes, so physical diseases are often accompanied by obvious or subtle psychological changes. Before people get sick, they actually give a warning in their hearts. If we follow the traditional medical concept of drug treatment, at best, we will follow the old model of "treating the headache and treating the foot pain", which can only temporarily relieve the patient's physical pain and can't really find the root cause.
Many cancer patients have so-called "prodromal symptoms" before diagnosis. This does not refer to the physical symptoms such as sudden weight loss mentioned in the medical diagnosis manual, but refers to the patient's psychological irritability or depression.
According to the theory of the new era, what really degrades people's physiological function is the old way of thinking, social customs, rigid age view and people's obsession. Therefore, today, when modern medicine encounters a huge bottleneck, it is bound to be a new trend of medical research in the future to help mankind find a healthy medical concept in the new era through the combination of physical and mental therapy. It will help people know themselves, adjust their emotions, strengthen their beliefs in life, and rejuvenate their lives with new thinking.
Paying too much attention to appearance is harmful to mental health.
According to a recent report in Reuters, Dr. Lola Parker of the University of Buffalo in new york established the ARS Scale to judge people's sensitivity and anxiety about being rejected by others because of their appearance.
She tested 242 college students and found that students with high ARS scores are likely to judge their value according to their appearance. They often lack self-esteem, nervousness, depression, insecurity and unhealthy eating habits.
Parker said in a statement issued by the University of Buffalo: "Those who are sensitive to rejection because of their appearance, both men and women, are very concerned about their figure and weight, even to an unhealthy level. They don't eat when they are hungry, often exercise compulsively, and then eat to lose weight. Whether it is weight, height, acne on the face or other physical characteristics, it is enough to make people with high ARS scores feel lonely, unwelcome, rejected and isolated. "
On the contrary, people with low ARS scores will not be negatively affected when thinking about their shortcomings in appearance.
Another study shows that there are ways to reduce the impact of this appearance anxiety. When Parker asked subjects with high ARS scores to pay attention to their own strengths or close relationships with others, they felt much better about themselves.
Photo cheats: the left face looks better.
Artists love the left face.
What is the "left face principle"? Is to show your left face as much as possible in principle. Mona Lisa showed us the standard model of the left face principle.
Psychologists have long observed that Mona Lisa is not the only one who likes to present her left face to us. Most portraits in western Europe are like this. Psychologists McManus and Humphrey of Cambridge University published an article in the journal Nature of 1973, examined 1474 portraits of Western Europe from the 4th century to the 20th century, and found 8965438+. In other words, artists tend to show us the left face of the portrait. More interestingly, they also found that women show their left faces more than men. Among the portraits with left faces, 68% of women show their left faces, while only 56% of men show their left faces.
Why do artists love the left face?
What's so special about the left face that artists love it so much?
There are three conjectures:
The first conjecture attributes the reason to the painter, who thinks that right-handed painters are more likely to draw the left face.
Right-handed painters always hold a brush in their right hand, so it is easy to draw the left face of a portrait. However, in 1999, psychologists such as Nichols of the University of Melbourne in Australia found that left-handed painters such as Raphael also like to draw left faces. On the other hand, some studies have found that women like to show their left face more than men, but women are not more left-handed than men.
The second conjecture attributes the reason to the viewer, and thinks that the viewer's perception has a preference for the left field of vision.
People prefer to see things in the left field of vision, so painters like to show the left face of portraits in the left field of vision. However, why do we prefer to look at things from the left? Because people's right hemisphere brain has an advantage in the perception of emotional information, and according to the principle of left-right intersection, the right hemisphere brain is in charge of the left field of vision, so we can more easily perceive the emotional information of the left face. But this explanation can't explain the gender difference either.
The third conjecture attributed the reason to the people in the portrait, who prefer to show their left face.
The hypothesis that the right hemisphere brain controls emotions is mentioned above, and the viewer is analyzed. This time, use this hypothesis to analyze the people in the portrait. The left face has more emotional information. Psychologists assume that people in portraits know this spontaneously, so they prefer to show their left face, so that they can express themselves better. This theory can explain why women show their left faces more than men. Social culture requires men to be more rational and forbearing, and can't show their emotions casually, so men don't want to show their left emotional side in portraits; Women are emotional animals and tend to express their emotions, so they show their emotional side on the left in portraits.
Why do people prefer the left face?
According to K. Blackburn and J. Schirillo, the results of this study support the hypothesis of emotional superiority in the right hemisphere of the brain. Because the left face controlled by the right hemisphere has stronger emotion, we are more likely to think that the left face is more beautiful. Because when you like a cold face, the left face will look colder than the right face; When you like a smiling face, the left face looks more smiling than the right face. It seems that the first three conjectures are all wrong.
Whatever the reason, you know now: when you take another photo, stick out your left face and face the camera like Mona Lisa, you will be more beautiful. (the same applies in front of ta! )
Negative thoughts may bring psychological magic to your life.
The myth of positive thinking
Do you have the same personality as me? You are too tired to breathe, but you can't get others' approval. You often feel trapped and depressed. Maybe this is a good time for you to review and adjust again. Recently, three inspiring foreign books put forward some ingenious and easy-to-use methods, which can be used to overcome the inevitable disappointment in life without feeling too much pressure.
As a mental health columnist in The Guardian, berkman can't help thinking about the long-term positive thinking trend, because he doubts the self-growth books on his desk. What enlightenment does it bring to people? Are most of the suggestions we get from the Happy Master to improve our lives just nonsense? So he began to study this wave of popular self-improvement plans.
Let's start with the most famous positive thinking method "the idea of keeping happy". After a period of time, many studies show that people who are asked to constantly affirm or indulge in their ideal future often feel worse after the experiment than at the beginning. Why is this? Because, in order to keep a happy thought, you must constantly scan the negative thoughts in your mind, berkman explained, but this scanning will inevitably "pay more attention to the existence of negative thoughts." This kind of exercise can't completely help us become "better", and even create pressure invisibly, making you feel that you can't do it no matter how hard you try, and happiness has become a distant dream.
After the experiment, berkman thought that besides being optimistic, it is more important for human beings to face their own negative thoughts such as pain and unhappiness: "Even if we deal with unpleasant experiences, no matter how irrational, as long as we can see the problems clearly without hurting others, we can find unprecedented benefits from them."
Paying attention to pain can also be a cure.
Psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky also suggested paying more attention to pain, observing pain in the framework of life, rather than paying too much attention to pain. She and many people have found that writing down their terrible thoughts and negative experiences clearly can reduce psychological harm: people who know how to record their deep thoughts usually have better immune function, lower depression and faster recovery than others. She said that this is because the writing process itself "can effectively help us understand, accept and rationalize our own trauma."
Although I was very excited, I was surprised to see that lyubomirsky suggested that many women could benefit from exchanging experiences on trivial issues in life. I always think this habit is very inappropriate. But according to lyubomirsky, social isolation will lead to rigid and unnecessary dark thoughts. She said, "One of the main reasons why we are troubled by trivial matters is that we don't seek social support-sometimes we feel stupid to complain, such as' Oh, I was forced to wait in line for a long time!'" "However, getting sympathy after complaining often reminds people that they have the resources and physical strength to deal with it"-this message alone can help solve small daily problems.
Lyubomirsky hopes that we can communicate more and be familiar with the nature of daily setbacks, because it is not so easy to get out of control if we are psychologically prepared to kick the iron plate. She provided this example: "When we are single, we will talk to our female friends about every detail of our relationship. When we feel that the relationship is not smooth, we will find friends to solve it together. But from the moment I got married, it was almost taboo to discuss private affairs in marriage, "lyubomirsky, who is married and has three children, told me with a sigh.
The happiness brought by marriage usually lasts only about two years. When the passion fades, many women will feel depressed and imagine that they or their marriage have special problems. Knowing that most marriages will go through this stage can prevent women from overreacting, impulsively proposing divorce, or doing "plastic surgery that they don't really need", and can also provide various models that others can use to deal with problems.
There is no harm in a little magic in life.
Flexible thinking is very important for psychological resilience, which is usually defined as the ability to "rebound" from adversity. However, according to Marc Schoen, many people are now operating under some kind of stress reaction which is always "over-elastic", which he calls "excitable resistance". In other words, when there is pressure, the body will instinctively rebound and explode. The main reason for this phenomenon is not a single traumatic event, but the constant stimulation of daily life and our inner impatience with things that cannot be handled smoothly.
In the book Your Survival Instinct May Kill You, Schon believes that gluttony, drug abuse, sexual addiction and various medical problems (heart disease, depression, cancer, etc. ) are all related to the phenomenon of "emotional resistance". He explained that because in a crisis, terrible thoughts alone may cause great pressure and serious brain reactions, just like the result when a lion approaches its surroundings. Under chronic stress, our judgment is weakened, which gives the "emotional" brain more dominance. Once the pattern of dopamine secretion and decompression takes root in the lower brain region through food, drugs, sex and text messages, it is difficult to restore calm.
God, the phenomenon of "emotional resistance" is talking about me. I'm too sensitive about manners. I lose my temper because of pants and toy trucks. And I found that these things may become their own pressure because of the disappointment of 10 second.
In order to educate himself to endure pain instead of instinctively rebounding it, Schon proposed an exercise to show how to experience some discomfort and feel relatively relaxed. According to Schon's instructions, I recalled an experience for which I was grateful (I was on a business trip in San Francisco recently, and met a lot of people who chatted easily and happily). Then I deliberately took a deep breath to relax and recalled my particularly uncomfortable time (it deteriorated rapidly after quarreling with my husband recently because of a small matter).
I deliberately cultivate calmness, which seems to ease the pain of quarreling and make me think calmly. I no longer think my anxiety is a serious chronic problem. I believe that I can always find the charm of my friendly attitude and solve problems generously. This is Schon's goal: "It is very important not to regard this kind of exercise as a new trend therapy to bleach reality"; On the contrary, it helps to think of it as "exercising the muscles of the brain". I know what he means. But I still feel like magic. Some magic in life is always harmless.
Silkworms are wrapped in their own silk.
When we talk about tragedy, we have to take a wait-and-see attitude. Perhaps the word "drama" led us astray. Thinking that others are actors, we are just distant and safe spectators in the box. In fact, the situation of self-discipline is by no means as rare as imagined. They are widely around us, and the air is full of flying silk.
At this time, we often show helplessness and even a little sophistry. I often hear people say that I know my own problems and I don't want to change them, but I just can't. I am such a person ... when he said these words, he seemed to have a confession to himself and everyone, and then Antan's innocent face appeared, as if he had closed the file with a brown paper cover.
Whenever this happens, I feel sad and angry at the same time. You know your cocoon is formed by spinning your own silk. You are struggling in the cocoon, and you want to break through. It is inevitable that you will get into trouble. But you made all kinds of excuses for yourself, and you retreated to your diaosi. While you are trying to bite off the silk that surrounds you, you spit out your silk more violently. You are a master of self-restraint, worse than Sisyphus who pushes stones. His stone just rolled lower and lower, at least it didn't get bigger and heavier However, in this alternation of breakthrough and secretion, your silk absorbs your strength, erodes your self-confidence, makes you dislike yourself more and more, shrinks back, and hides deeper, tighter, more locked and more shriveled in the cocoon.
Each of us has some cocoons. These cocoons are carried on us, absorbing our heat, making us cold and limiting the speed of progress. Tearing this cocoon, there is no external force and mechanical support, only by your own heart and claws.
When you break a cocoon, it is painful. Cocoon is a small world created by ourselves. Although the cocoon space is small, it is relatively safe. Even some bad hobbies, when we are immersed in them, we feel that habits become natural. Cocoon-breaking silkworms are stimulated, disturbed and challenged by fresh and cold air, dazzling sunshine, cutting-edge sounds and strange scenes. Anxiety at this moment can easily induce withdrawal. But this is normal, inevitable, beneficial and constructive. In this change, you will feel that life is full of explosive tension, and you know that you are alive, suffering and growing.
Many people are trapped in their cocoons all their lives. This is their own choice. When their life ends, they may suddenly realize that the world is just a cocoon, and they have never really lived.