Recently, Dong Qing, a sister of CCTV, knelt down to interview the elderly, but her behavior attracted praise from netizens. In fact, this is not the first time that Dong Qing has knelt down to interview guests. The last time was at a literary evening of CCTV. He got down on one knee and told a bloody policeman about his family life with feminine tenderness. This time, in the first class, facing the old man sitting in a chair, Dong Qing knelt down to talk to the old man, elegant and decent, showing respect. Some netizens commented that she knelt down with her body and stood up with her soul.
However, a host knelt down and drew a crusade. Some even called him a traitor, and he was Du Haitao. It happened on 20 13' s annual youth choice festival. As the host, Du Haitao was very excited when he presented the award to his idol G-Dragon. He knelt on one knee and handed the trophy to his idol with both hands. This move made netizens denounce him as idolized fanaticism, loss of personal dignity, brain damage, holding a Korean "stick" thigh, traitor and so on.
What is the reason, the same action, but let the two hosts get such a contrasting evaluation? In fact, it is mainly their role.
Dong Qing knelt down this time because of an old man with mobility problems. Out of respect for each other, it is inconvenient for her to wear a skirt, but she still carries out the fine tradition of China and gives her enough attention and respect. Du Haitao knelt down as a Korean star, but when the relationship between South Korea and China was tense at that time, it was really inappropriate for Du Haitao, as a host, to kneel down and express idolatry on the grounds that he was a fan, regardless of his role at this time.
10 years have passed, and the status of stars is getting higher and higher. Coupled with the younger fans, enthusiastic young fans put idols in a very high position and also created some stars who play big names. Kneeling is a very common move, and some crazy fans even write down the name of Aidou and write a bloody book to express their loyalty to his beloved bean. However, these behaviors are limited to loving your own beans. In the face of parents and others, they sometimes can't even show general respect.
The basic attribute of human beings is sociality. In the social environment, everyone plays various roles, and accordingly assumes the responsibilities entrusted to him by this role. As a host, his duty and primary task is to do a good job in hosting, and the rest of the actions need to be separated from the identity of the host before they can be implemented.
Talk about self-esteem and respect.
Self-respect is the premise of respecting others, which mainly means being cautious and respecting one's own personality. Self-respect also includes self-love, self-protection and self-discipline in order to achieve "if you are in full bloom, the breeze will come."
Some netizens summed up what details and behaviors can reflect your respect for each other:
In fact, the act of kneeling itself is not as serious as losing face, shame and dignity. The subsequent influence actually depends on your role and whether your object is worthwhile. However, apart from physical inconvenience and other reasons, I prefer to express my respect for each other in other ways. You can look at each other naturally in communication, indicating that you are listening carefully. You can nod and shake hands to express your admiration for each other. The highest position is that you are strong enough to know your idol equally. Isn't there a saying that the highest level of idolization is that you try to make yourself better, and one day you don't have to look up to him?
So is respect. Only when you deserve the respect of the other party can you gain the respect of the other party. You don't have to kneel down to show your admiration for each other.