When it comes to pregnancy, everyone thinks it is a happy event, because for couples, having a child at home can enhance their sense of responsibility for the family and add a lot of joy to the family.

Usually, everyone wants to live a life that both children have. In order to make good words, they will try to have a second child.

But the sex of the child is out of control. Many families want a son and a daughter, but the result may be two sons or two daughters.

Old people often say: "The first child is a son, but the second child is born." However, for families in modern society, with the increasing pressure of life, the expenditure of raising children is huge. If the first child is a son, people are increasingly afraid to have a second child at will.

Even now that the country has liberalized the second child policy, many young couples are still reluctant to continue to have children. A closer look reveals that most couples who want to have a second child are in their forties.

Because many couples are considering that the first child is a son, if the second child is still a son, it will bring considerable pressure to the family.

Many people are afraid to have children because they have to prepare a house, a car and other things for their son from an early age and prepare for his marriage.

For this reason, some people discuss the second child on the Internet, and everyone is discussing whether the first child is a son or not, and whether the second child dares to have children.

Lovely fish: I just got married and have no children, but now I look at the people around me and I dare not have children.

Because I think the family life of one child is hard, and the pressure of having two children is even greater.

Especially looking at the boys at home, I am even more worried. We feel that we are basically saving money for our children to get married every day.

Happy every day: my family is a boy. Since his birth, my husband and I have been thinking about his future marriage, and we are very worried.

In fact, my husband and I still want a girl, just afraid of getting pregnant again. We are worried about what we would do if we were boys again. At that time, we wouldn't worry about dying, so we finally decided not to do so.

Goddess Hepburn: I am an only child myself. Although everyone spoiled me since I was a child, I was lonely.

I often envy people who have brothers and sisters around me, so I think I must not let my child be so lonely in the future, and let him enjoy the life with his brothers and sisters.

My first child was also a son, but I am pregnant now, and I am very happy whether the second child is a boy or a girl.

Sunday: Some people always say that there is a lot of pressure now, but in fact, it can make children grow up healthily, and it is the responsibility to give them the best care within their own power.

Because now, unlike in the past, children may be too hungry to eat. And now the society is developing faster and faster, and the economy is getting better and better, so there is no need to worry about the future of children.

Anny is as thin as lightning: on the surface, it is a question of whether to have a second child, but in fact, it is a question of whether to have money to have a second child.

Rich people can afford three or four children, let alone a second child. People who have no money are too tired to support a child. Of course, they don't want a second child.

Tianshui side: My family is a very ordinary rural family, but I still want two children. Fortunately, my family is a son and a daughter.

My daughter is really worry-free, sensible and considerate of her family since she was a child. Although the two children are very hard, it is worthwhile to go home and see their happy smiles.

Children are not alone.

Only children are lonely, but if they have brothers and sisters, they will be much less lonely.

If children have many topics that are inconvenient to communicate with their parents, they can talk to their brothers and sisters.

Because no matter how close the relationship between parents and children is, there will be a generation gap, and the society is developing rapidly, many things can only be understood by young people.

② The pressure of providing for the aged is small.

For the only child, the pressure of raising his own child and four old people should not be underestimated.

If the economic situation is better, it can be said that the only child with average economic situation has a heavy burden.

However, if there are brothers and sisters, it is relatively easy for several people to support their parents together, and there is less pressure to support the elderly.

Because for parents themselves, the only child may not be able to go home to visit his parents for a long time because of work or getting married in other places.

However, if there is one more child, several children can take turns to take care of and visit their parents, and their parents will not be lonely when they are old, which is more secure for their parents when they are old.

(1) Parents have a heavy financial burden.

Although children will be happier with brothers and sisters, the financial burden of parents is heavier.

In particular, parents want to give their children a better life and education, and their daily expenses are very high. Moreover, the competition in modern society is relatively large, and the pressure on everyone's shoulders will become heavier and heavier.

Moreover, it takes time and energy to raise children, so parents will leave much less time for their children, and it is almost impossible to consider their hobbies and have independent space time.

Especially when no one takes care of the children, one of them may have to give up his job to take care of the children full-time, and there will be more uncertainty in the future.

There are many problems in educating children.

The situation of each family is different, and the impact on children is different. Faced with different children's personalities, parents need to adopt different educational methods.

And if the first child is a boy and the second child is a boy, the boy is relatively naughty, so parents should worry more.

Even if the second child is a girl, parents should worry, because girls are weaker than boys and have greater personality differences with boys, so parents can't educate children of different sexes in exactly the same way.

The first child is a son, and whether the second child is necessary or not cannot be generalized.

Couples can live happily if they think they have the ability to raise two children and let them grow up healthily and happily.

Because children are not only material needs, but also spiritual needs.

The most important thing is to let children establish healthy personality and values, parents should cultivate and edify them, and let them be responsible for themselves and their children.

If you feel that you can't afford to have a second child, or don't want to spend all your time with children, there is no need to have a second child.

Only when husband and wife think carefully and make a good decision can they be truly responsible for their children.