Before writing a summary, I always worry that I have not done anything meaningful this year. I carefully spread out the timeline and recalled it paragraph by paragraph. I was surprised to find that I actually did many things this year.
If she used to be a girl who put down her time, squandered her time and took a little cleverness and pride. In fact, she is deeply inferior in her bones. When did this start to change?
After careful consideration, I put a "red five-pointed star" at the critical moment when my "mentality" changed.
(1), 2. 13 Set fitness and reading goals.
(2), 4.25 public examination, a month of hard study, I found that I was actually a girl who didn't want to live too dull, and liked to pursue little beauty and little fun.
3, 9. 19 Seriously think about "If time goes back, what will happen if everything comes back?" 」
④ June 165438+ 10, and make an accurate time record form.
⑤ Contact with "Time Management" through kyle system &; Li Xiaolai regards time as a friend.
"If time goes back, what will happen if everything comes back? 」
For a long time, I was in a negative energy mood of self-blame, inferiority and depression. I am very sensitive and melodramatic, and a little thing can break my blx. I once wondered if I had depression.
I can't handle the relationship with my mother well, I can't control my emotions, I don't want to understand each other, I don't want to tolerate each other, and I hurt each other. No matter what little things, I can quarrel to the point of breaking up, which leads to my extreme self-confidence in dealing with various relationships. I used to shut myself off and resist all strangers, and it was easy to become silent among a large group of people.
I regret playing games and reading novels unscrupulously after graduating from the college entrance examination, even without asking about the major I want to study;
I regret that I have been idle for four years in college, and I have never thought about what kind of life I want.
Regret that I didn't cherish a lot of fresh youth and wasted it on beautiful things;
I regret that I am shallow and ignorant, and I don't have the same skill; I am annoyed that my logic is chaotic and I can't express myself clearly;
I even regret that I have been working for three years, and I am still not proficient in word, excel and ppt.
I keep asking myself, why?
Why did you throw the right to choose your major to your parents? You gave up your choice of life.
Why don't you make some efforts to change your major even if you know that you don't like computers? You wasted your second choice.
Why don't you study hard, or accumulate knowledge or develop a skill to improve your core competitiveness?
I wish I could have a second chance.
I will choose my major and master my life choices, so that I won't regret even if I make a mistake;
I will cherish the free and beautiful youth of the university, study professional courses seriously and improve my professional quality; Actively participate in my favorite club activities to cultivate interpersonal communication and organizational planning skills; Love sports and run around the campus plastic track every morning when it doesn't rain; Learn search engines and read with a systematic book list every warm afternoon; Seriously write down the feelings of life in words, engrave the traces of life and the experience of life;
I will seriously fall in love, seriously toss and turn, and seriously think about what kind of life I want.
However, there has never been a time machine in this world.
So it doesn't seem too late to do all these things I want to do from now on?
I can run and study from now on, and I can keep trying to find my little dreams from now on.
All the confusion, regret and self-distrust I have experienced belong to me and are indispensable in my growth. Coupled with the beauty, emotion and tenacity of my youth, I am now, and I am willing to accept myself like this.
I added the suffix "effort" to myself after the adjective "quiet and sensitive".
I no longer compare with others, but try my best clumsily, hoping to be better than myself yesterday;
I no longer spend time worrying. When I think of something, I judge it and start to do it seriously.
I am no longer worried about the meaning of doing something. If I don't know what it is, I will do it first, and maybe I will have unexpected luck.
I no longer use self-deprecating and masochistic incentives, but learn to lower my expectations and adopt positive incentives to add luster to my life.
Just like in "Don't let the future you hate yourself now".
We don't have to die with our former selves, and we don't have to rush to predict the future. Life is a marathon with no set distance, not how fast we run at first, but how to finish it step by step, continuously and persistently.
1. Movement
{Running}
Released from the extreme state of being obsessed with losing weight and going abroad to eat all over the world, I simply fell in love with the pleasure of sweating. I am addicted to the positive energy atmosphere of the gym every day from June to August. I practiced many courses in App〖keep〗] from June to August. I insisted on enjoying the night view of Rainbow Bridge by the river in summer in fun run from July to September, and I insisted on running on the treadmill in the gym from June to February.
{Yoga}
I began to study yoga consciously and systematically in June. I have to say that my flexibility has jumped several grades, but I am not professional enough to be a "primary yoga coffee"
{The average number of steps in 2015 is 10000}
Weakly speaking, for MM who is easy to get fat, winter is June taboo, April 38+February, and once she returns to liberation, sports is really an honest project that can only be rewarded by persistent persistence.
read
I set a reading goal from the first February. I didn't finish my first book until May, and I didn't get on the right track until September. For patients with advanced lazy cancer, writing reading notes is still an arduous task. At this stage, we can only extract and make small comments and draw pictures on paper notebooks. I hope I can keep reading notes systematically next year.
life
{diet}
Usually, I consciously control my diet, try to be light, eat less salt and sugar, and don't eat milk tea, dessert and ice cream for half a year (however, 1 1, 65438+ February fell short).
In my spare time, I make homemade sandwiches, stew rock sugar and Sydney, and accompany my mother to make cute buns and big dumplings.
{sort}
Try to "break free", tidy up the room and take care of yourself.
{Friendship}
20 15, friendship is my greatest comfort, giving me full positive energy and warmth. Because of your encouragement and support, life has gradually become positive and interesting, getting better and better. Thanks and gratitude.
travel
1, 4. 1 1 Xiamen 2-day tour "obsession &; Emotion and farewell
2.8.27-9. 1 Six-day trip to Japan "culture that doesn't bother others &; Inclusive but not extreme. "
3.10.1-10.3 Three-day trip to Qiandao Lake "The first time I went to road trip & I cycled around the lake &; The best trip is to have you. "
time management
Accurately speaking, it is "time record, self-control management"
From iHour, to tomato bell, and now to Then, I gradually explored my own way.
Most importantly, time management makes me really feel the passage of time and let me gradually know where I want to spend my time.
The key words of Ruoruo 20 16 are orientation, learning, health and openness.
All the important projects I want to do are marked with "red five-pointed star", which just fits my key words.
There are many things I want to do that I dare not add, for fear that I can't finish them; But according to my "60-point expectation" principle, as long as I complete 60%, I should give myself affirmation and encouragement. With small steps and continuous positive feedback, it may do very well.
PS: This is just my personal little plan. After all, there are many imperfections. Welcome like-minded people to discuss with me.
20 15 is a small step to encourage.
20 16, health exercise first; Take the initiative to seek knowledge and find the right position in small steps; Let go of yourself, open relationships, repair and maintain family ties;
20 16 I don't want to repeatedly question whether my demand is made, whether my taste is guided, and whether my pursuit is incited. I list the reasons why I want to do things seriously.
1. Why do you want to learn English?
I want to regain my English, and I hope to go abroad for free without being hit by my weak English. I hope I can communicate freely with people from different cultures. I can no longer refuse to read my favorite English original because I think Chinese translation is too blunt and unattractive. I hope that when the opportunity comes, I won't lose the opportunity because of English.
2. Why do you want to study psychology?
I want to open and repair the relationship, better understand and accept myself, no longer worry about the future of psychology, not be guided by the trend that everyone loves psychology and wants to be a psychological counselor, and put aside the bondage of utilitarianism, just for myself.
3. Why do you want to study?
Reading at this stage does have a strong purpose, but it is precisely because I discovered my shallowness that I want to learn more through extensive reading. The reading range of 20 16 is interpersonal communication, psychology, logical thinking and basic knowledge of finance. The first two are to open and repair the relationship, and logical thinking is to clear up the thinking, improve critical thinking ability and increase wisdom; The basic knowledge of finance is to improve professional competitiveness.
I won't set such a lofty goal of reading 200 books a year. I usually read books in fragmented time, closer to the kindle and farther away from the mobile phone. Continue to keep quiet at the bookstore on weekends and read patiently.
Moreover, the most important thing is that unconsciously, those habits of reading and running are carved into the bones and become a kind of love. I am grateful to meet them in such an open and free era.
After experiencing all the intermittent confusion, I finally understand that it is only because I am a person who is willing to learn and grow by myself. It doesn't matter if my talent can't support my dream now. It doesn't matter if you can't do it now. I can take my time. Learning itself should be a lifelong thing.
I am no longer obsessed with "I hope I can work hard for heaven."
I don't ask the years to be gentle, but I ask myself to be kind to myself.