The more you think about it, the more it hovers in your mind. Every time you think of "how can I let go", you will receive a potential hint of "I haven't let go".
In the end, I can only get more and more anxious.
Since pain is inevitable, why not give yourself another chance to try to save it?
When she chooses you, it shows that you have something to attract her, and this attraction will not disappear, but it will be covered up by some problems and contradictions later;
This doesn't mean that you don't have the ability and capital to attract her back now. You still have a lot to do, and you still have a chance to get these scenic spots back.
There are no couples in this world who don't break up, and there are no couples who haven't thought about divorce.
Breaking up once, in a sense, is actually a good thing.
Let you see each other's problems clearly and see how much you care about each other, don't you?
So, don't be too pessimistic and don't get into emotions. There are many things about feelings.
As long as you are willing to spend time and thought, the other party will definitely feel your sincerity, waver and change your mind.
"Then how can we make the other party change their minds and get back together with themselves?"
Here, I give some suggestions from several angles, hoping that they can get some benefits from your feelings.
Maintain one's own state
Many people will fall into a misunderstanding after breaking up: I should always tell each other that I care about her, I can change, and I will always appear in front of her.
It's been three days since we broke up. I can't hold on any longer. I'm about to collapse. What should I do?
This is why I always say, "Leave some quiet space for each other after breaking up": the result of anxious verification is that the other party thinks that you are entangled, you are hopeless and want to escape from you.
It is indeed necessary to seize the opportunity to save, but before seizing the opportunity, it is also very important to "keep yourself in shape."
You have just come out of the dilemma of "breaking up" and seem to be full of motivation to save it. You think you have decided to save it, but there are still many security risks in your state.
1, forbearance to reduce the pain of breaking up will leave a lot of shadows in my heart. If the other party is determined in the early stage of recovery and says something hurtful, you will easily fall into pessimism after a long time:
"Oh, it's too hard to recover. Forget it."
"It seems that I am really bad and really don't deserve to be loved"/"People like me should probably be single all their lives."
2. After all, the blame mentality has broken up, and your mood and life have also been negatively affected. If in the process of your recovery, the other party has been asking you for something, and you have been paying, and the other party has not given you any feedback, you will easily fall into the mood of blame:
"What do you want from me after all I've done?"
"How could you do this to me? You are a little too much. "
These emotional hidden dangers are fatal in your "recovery" process.
Why do you say that? Maybe the other person is inspecting you, maybe the inspection will pass soon, and you are almost there. Your emotional state suddenly collapses, and the other person will feel:
"Oh, it turned out that everything he showed in front of him was fake."
"He hasn't changed at all, just trying to save it."
Trust collapses once and can be remedied. Trust collapses two or three times, and it is really difficult to rebuild.
Here, you can adjust your emotional hidden danger through "psychological suggestion" and "predicting gains and losses".
It's been three days since we broke up. I can't hold on any longer. I'm about to collapse. What should I do?
"Psychological suggestion" as the name implies, you should constantly give yourself a shot in the arm to relieve your emotional impulse, for example, "She must be very insecure because she is so cold to me now." To put it bluntly, try to understand each other's reaction as comfortably as possible, and don't be too hard on yourself.
As for "predicting gains and losses", let me give you an example to understand: "The process of recovery is really too difficult, and she has never made her attitude clear. After recovery, I have to find an opportunity to complain and condemn her, which is more difficult than falling in love. "
Reduce today's blame and dissatisfaction with the satisfaction that can be expected in the future. Why did you keep it? Isn't it just to be together for a long time? Think more about what happened later, and don't be blinded by emotions. The original intention is the right solution.
If you feel your state, you can remain stable and you can control it, then we can start to save it.
To recover, we must first find out what broke your previous intimate relationship and why the other party refused to break up.