0 1? Enlarge the cost of his infidelity

1, how to make him dare not cheat again? Enlarge the cost of his infidelity

Emotion Think about how our parents treated us when we made serious mistakes when we were young, and then slap you for a few days.

Cheating is the same. You can't even tell the hurt and pain that cheating has caused you. The mistake he made was simply bigger than the sky. How can you look at him for days on end?

No matter how much he asks for forgiveness, he cries and swears. Don't talk or express his opinions yet. Can hysterical scolding him solve the pain he gave me?

Don't lose big because of small things. Let's treat him later. Even if you try to scold him now and tell him how sad you are, are you really happy?

You can travel for a few weeks when you have time and conditions. He didn't answer the phone, WeChat didn't return, and his world disappeared.

Don't make any noise or comment, so that he doesn't know what you are thinking. Doesn't he panic at this time? Isn't this stronger than the field force you threw?

02? Make good use of sunk cost effect

He cheated this time. He did something wrong, so he can't simply get away with it. You sent him home without doing anything. Isn't it like he's traveling?

I had a good time outside. When I got home, you were still working hard for him. If you felt that he was tired, you gave him food and drink. Why doesn't he cheat next time? He wants to go home, good!

Pay the price, collect all the assets in the family first, and sign the marriage agreement first while he is guilty of cheating. Get most of the benefits first, don't be soft-hearted Can you decide the direction behind marriage? Are you sure he'll grow old when he comes back this time?

We should make full use of the sunk cost effect. Sunk cost means that the more people pay in a relationship, the less they give up.

How can a man live without a woman? It's just how much money, time and energy he spends on this man. The more he spends, the more he cannot live without it.

These interests are the guarantee of your future life, not only for you, but also for your children and your biological parents!

03? How to keep him from cheating?

2. How can he not cheat? Make rules and strictly enforce them.

(1) make rules.

From now on, you should be the maker of family rules. Without rules, you can't be Fiona Fang, and the whole society works well under the constraints of rules.

Do you want to see the traffic lights when crossing the road or drink porridge when committing crimes? Similarly, in marriage, rules are needed to let him know what he can and can't do, what he can do is rewarded and what he can do is punished!

Use rules to reduce the probability that he will do something wrong. After all, it takes almost five good things to make up for one wrong thing that hurts feelings. The important thing is that the rule is loyalty, which is also the basic rule in emotional life, and the other is the safety rule.

In order to keep the marriage working well, you need to establish rules according to your needs and the actual situation of your marriage. Some men have poor sense of rules and need your guidance.

You don't own this house alone, but half of it belongs to him. He went home, like an uncle. Let him do more work and integrate into this family.

04? If you want to be free, why get married?

(2) strictly enforced.

You worked hard to make Barra's rules, and he nodded in agreement. A few days later, he went back to the past.

He didn't come home on time today, and he didn't call ahead to explain the situation, so that you can rest assured. Did it ever occur to you that he was looking for another woman? You are sad again.

Now that the rules have been made, we must strictly abide by them. Strictly abide by the rules for a better married life. If we have no sense of rules and want to be free, why should we get married?

Do whatever you want! Don't hurt people in marriage! He doesn't obey the rules, so we should try to cure him.

Today I said I wouldn't let you sleep. Today, I just slapped you in the face. It's no use buying lv bags. I just won't forgive you.

Let the other party feel that you are a person who keeps your word, has principles and a bottom line, and the other party will be willing to abide by more rules. Don't be soft all day, be a little harder, so as not to be bullied every day. You are here to find a good husband, not to suffer indignities.

05? Marriage serves us.

3. How to make him not want to cheat? Become a better person.

The woman a man can't let go of is diamond cut diamond, instead of admiring each other. A man found the feeling of soul collision in this woman. Do you think he will leave her? Don't!

Many women have sacrificed everything for their families, as if in their eyes, with family, they have everything, and with marriage, life is meaningful.

It is precisely this causal relationship that has been reversed. Marriage is for us, to make us live better, not to say that we are for marriage.

It is true that we can sacrifice something for marriage. That's our home! But you really don't have to jump on it wholeheartedly.

The value of your life is only to take care of your family. People are snobbish creatures and don't like people who are worthless or of little value. This is human nature!

Don't challenge humanity. A woman who takes care of children at home all day or a woman who can support him in his career, which do you think he chooses?

06? A guide is not a dependent person.

Women who have the initiative guide men, not cling to them. Only emotional independence, economic independence and ideological independence can attract men's attention.

Of course, I hope these three independences are for you to do better and better, and attracting men is only a side effect. Spend less time at home, see the world more, and earn more money by your own ability. Even if the marriage can't go on, you can rely on yourself. No one can guarantee that marriage will never be a problem.

Read more books and absorb more information from the outside world. People with independent thoughts are really easy to be brainwashed. Without your own ideas, you don't know if it's right for a cheating man to suppress you.

Be confident and don't lose yourself in the relationship. Many women, whether before or after marriage, feel that as long as it is intimate, I can't lose a man and rely too much on him emotionally. Whenever there is an emotional crisis, their anxiety will erupt.

You came to this world, you are not a vassal of anyone, you are yourself! It's amazing to be able to do these three independent women. They have the ability to solve life and marriage problems, and can live an enviable self in this world. It's really just a convenience for men not to cheat.