More and more women refuse to be full-time nannies at home, and repeat the monotonous life day after day, not only to take care of their children's growth, but also to leave the original work and career track.
If you have the care and help of your husband, mother-in-law and other relatives, life is not bad, but without the support and understanding of your family, you will become a "lonely baby."
Xiaoling is a post-90s baby mom. Two years after graduating from college, she married her husband and soon had children. Her husband suggested that it is very hard to take care of the children, so it is enough to simply not go to work and clean up the house.
Xiaoling is also a mother for the first time. Without any experience, she listened to her husband's advice and took care of her children and her husband's daily food and drink. I thought that life at home would be based on three meals a day, and a family of three would live in warmth and harmony, but I didn't expect that great changes had taken place after having children.
My mother-in-law, who had promised to help with the children, only came once every three to five times. Her husband was busy with his work and did little to do things at home.
On this day, the mother-in-law took care of the children in the room. Xiaoling cooked a big table of rice for her husband to eat together after work. As a result, she was just about to move chopsticks when the child began to cry in the room. Xiaoling rushed to nurse.
Xiaoling returned to the dining table after feeding the children and found that there was only one table of vegetable soup, and all the meat and vegetables were eaten cleanly. My mother-in-law is lying on the sofa watching TV, and my husband is lying on the phone. Nobody cares about her, she is still nursing.
There is no food left on the table, and no one cleans the dishes after dinner. Is this treating yourself as a nanny? This scene made Xiaoling's mood collapse very much, and she couldn't help shouting at her husband:
As a result, the husband disagreed and retorted, "What are you yelling at? I also want to say, you fry me less! Don't do it anymore, and you're not allowed to go to work. What is so tired! "
After listening to her husband's words, Xiaoling was a little disheartened and regretted that she should not live such an irresponsible life for a child, let alone be a full-time mother at home.
Some people may think that a full-time nanny is just taking care of the children and cleaning up the housework at home. What are you tired of? In fact, people who have never experienced it have no right to speak, and full-time nanny is very hard!
A n experienced person listed several points:
1. Sleep less than 5 hours a day, and it is still intermittent.
2. Hold your horses, it is extravagant to have a meal safely, and one should always take good care of the children before eating.
I only wash my hair once a week, so I don't have time to tidy myself.
Looking at the sleeping baby at the end of the day, I found that I didn't drink a mouthful of water.
After my husband came home, he lay on the sofa and played with his mobile phone.
These experiences are just normal and common experiences for stay-at-home mothers. Of course, not all mothers live such a miserable life, but they also represent a part of the life of stay-at-home mothers that is not supported and understood by their families.
No matter how beautiful the love is, it will also be spent in the trivial matters of life, especially after having children, the pressure of life will become greater and greater.
I can understand Bao Da's hard work of making money to support his family, but Ma Bao's hard work of taking care of the baby at home also needs to be understood and respected. After a hard day at home, Ma Bao was cut off from the outside world and put himself in a narrow space, with no social, entertainment and private space. Plus, she's tired of taking care of the children and she's in a bad mood.
Even if Bao's father comes home with a simple compliment or two, Bao's bad mood will turn from cloudy to sunny all day. It is not only the responsibility of a husband, but also the responsibility of a precious dad to help take care of the children, let Ma Bao have a meal and play with them for a while.
Widowed Family hurts not only Ma Bao's heart, but also the lack of children's growth, which affects the parent-child relationship. Therefore, Bao dads should cheer up and do what they should do.
Xiaoxue's mother enjoined: The family needs the common maintenance of both husband and wife, especially the stay-at-home mother, and needs the understanding and support of the family. The lack of husband's responsibility will not only aggravate the contradiction between husband and wife, but also affect the growth of children and their future physical and mental health development.
The most important thing for a family is mutual understanding, mutual respect and mutual support. This will not only lead to a happier life, a more harmonious family atmosphere, a better environment for children's future growth and a more harmonious parent-child relationship.