Recently, everyone is talking about Olivia's new play The Second Time is Beautiful.

The topic triggered by the plot-"Should women be full-time wives?" , but also on the Weibo hot search.

Olivia plays Ann, a 28-year-old woman who got married after graduating from college.

Later, I took care of my children at home and didn't go out to work.

When Ann and I fell in love and got married, my beloved married life was still happy.

Unexpectedly, in these six years, my husband unilaterally announced his divorce.

The reasons for divorce are:

"She regards me as her world, but I don't want to be her world anymore. I am tired. "

Everyone thinks it's easy to be a full-time wife, let alone a full-time wife of a rich family.

Even Ann's husband took it for granted.

We all know that women have sacrificed their ideals and their original bright future in order to love you.

Originally, she received a good education, but after the divorce, Ann was reduced to being unable to find a suitable job.

Because there is no "work experience", employment is not competitive.

Therefore, without a job, she lost the custody of her children.

This makes people feel sad. Being a full-time mother is really a "high-risk" occupation.

If the husband cheats, he may lose everything and get no custody of the children.

Even ruined youth, out of touch with society, and lost competitiveness in the workplace.

What's more, when you return to the workplace, you will find that people of the same age have already worked as managers and directors, while your competitors are energetic graduates, freed from family chores.

As Ann said to her best friend in the play, "Six years ago, you were 22 years old, and so were your competitors. The whole world belongs to you. Now, your competitor is still 22. "

This is probably the anxiety of many stay-at-home mothers.

It's not easy for working mothers. "Do you look like a woman if you don't take good care of your children?"

Many stay-at-home mothers feel very nervous and envy working mothers.

Although everyone is very tired, at least they can run against the wind and have their own career and self-confidence.

But what is there to relax about working mothers?

I remember that Sun Li once sent a message to Weibo saying that his agent Guo Si had worked hard.

As everyone knows, behind the dedication, there are many fears of unemployment!

In order not to lose their jobs and go home to see their children, they can even insist on commuting for six hours every day.

Once I saw a piece of news,

Have a working mother, in order to balance work and family.

She spends six hours commuting every day, traveling 70,000 kilometers a year and using more than 500 train tickets.

Only in this way can she continue her favorite job and go home from work to look after the children.

It is said that being a mother is hard, and that hardship and perseverance are beyond the reach of ordinary people.

The saddest thing is,

These working mothers are busy with family affairs and may not be understood.

I watched the TV series "Finding You" starring Sabrina before, and I was very emotional.

In Sabrina's play, she plays a working mother, Li Jie, who is also an excellent lawyer.

She despised Zhu Min who turned to her for help, a woman who sacrificed her career for her family and worked as a full-time mother for several years but was cheated by her husband.

However, as a working mother, Li Jie, can marriage and family really flourish on both sides?

At work, she is so busy that she can only take time to look after the children when she works overtime, and even accompany her male clients to drink and socialize, which leads to sexual harassment in the workplace.

At home, her husband, who is a doctor, is equally busy. She works hard to make money and find a nanny for her children.

But accused by her husband and mother-in-law: do you think you are still like a woman?

Even the nanny said: you don't deserve to be a mother.

As a result, the husband vowed to cheat, and the two completely torn their faces in the divorce lawsuit.

How hard is it for women in the workplace?

Everything you pay is taken for granted, and everything you do wrong is "unforgivable".

Even when women work hard in the workplace like men, men have no sense of sharing family responsibilities, have no understanding of their wives, and will only belittle and criticize them.

How many families look beautiful,

After tearing it open, you can find that it is also full of marital chores.

As long as you are pregnant, a woman's fate will be reshuffled.

I watched a Japanese documentary recently.

Let's talk about the late-night kindergarten near the red light district, which opens from 7 am to 2 am.

Many people are curious, will someone send their children to such a place?

In fact, there are nearly 100 kindergartens in Japan. There are more than 150 children in the kindergarten in the documentary, and the youngest is only one year old.

Many mothers who work nearby choose to send their children here because they are often busy late at night. Only in this way can we find time to see the children while working.

There are not only restaurant owners, but also journalists, beauticians and restaurant waiters.

But they have the same identity, working mothers.

One of the most impressive is a 32-year-old female reporter.

Although there is a 3-year-old daughter to take care of, she has just been admitted to the reporter. She worked so hard that she couldn't bear to give up. And her husband happened to be transferred to other places by the company.

The first thing she did after work was to go directly to the kindergarten to pick up her daughter. Every time the mother and daughter play, it is already early in the morning.

The time left for myself is the moment after my daughter falls asleep, so short that I can only catch my breath.

"It's difficult for me to take care of the children alone," she said, but she gritted her teeth and persisted.

This is the woman who becomes a mother. No matter how difficult it is, as long as she thinks of having a child behind her, she will rise to the challenge.

There is a line in the Japanese TV series "I want to get off work on time" that impressed me deeply: I will know when I get married and have children, and I will reshuffle as long as I am pregnant.

I think this is the most appropriate explanation about the fate of women in this life.

Among them, how many people missed the promotion and salary increase because of having children during the golden period of their career development?

How many people give up their careers and dreams because of their children and families.

Even, hear the complaints of your closest people:

You rely on the man to eat and drink, and you have no ability to make money. It's no use.

Even if you can't take care of children, you are not qualified. What classes are you going to take?

In the family atmosphere of mutual incomprehension, all that remains is endless quarrels and cold wars.

This must be very confusing:

Where is the way out for women after becoming mothers?

Our family, how to operate, will be happy?

When women become mothers, where is the way out?

I saw a topic on Zhihu: Where is the way out for women who become mothers?

One of the answers is praised by many people: economic freedom and independent thinking.

For a mother, economic freedom can not only give herself and her children better living conditions and horizons. I can also cope with life freely, such as sudden "accidents" such as illness and divorce.

Independent thinking will make a woman have a vast sky of her own outside the family and realize her personal value. Don't be too lazy and indecisive. You can know more about how to love yourself and how to manage relationships.

Some people say that the truth is known, but it is difficult to do it.

So, is there any way to become an economically free and independent woman?

February, 2020 14- 16 The 15th Congress of Practical Psychology in 2020 is not only a grand meeting of psychology, but also covers the sharing of family, wealth, business and philosophy.

Among them, three big coffees were invited to teach us how to run a happy marriage and family from a psychological point of view.

In addition, there are well-known media person Zhang Chunwei, well-known psychologist Wu Zhihong, well-known practical psychologist Dr. Zhang Guowei and other nearly ten domestic and foreign big coffees who have brought us wonderful keynote speeches.