Last night, I went to dinner with my daughter. Recently, I seldom eat dinner because I want to lose weight, but my daughter asked for a bowl full of chicken noodles and put down her chopsticks without eating a few mouthfuls. If this were normal, I would be the one to clean up the mess, but this time, I won't. Because dinner is the biggest killer of slimming, many mothers can't slim down because they eat with their children.
I told myself that if I didn't eat it, it would be a waste. If I had, I would definitely not appreciate my behavior yesterday, because I was not satisfied with my weight. Be willing to give up, even if you want to do a small thing, you must know how to give up. It is wrong for a daughter to order food without evaluating her appetite in advance. Her mother can't eat it, let alone care. If everything follows her like this, she won't judge next time.
The biggest shortcoming of many women is that they like to insist and will not refuse, especially the demands of their families.
However, it is often easy for us to forget a truth: "Flowers are beautiful enough to bloom by themselves".
An important criterion to measure what I am doing now is to ask myself before I do it. Will I be happy if I do it? If you do it today, you won't be happy tomorrow, so I'm sorry, I have to say no? The most important thing for people is to "please" themselves.
0 1 "self-appreciation" is self-identification from the heart.
Look at the happy people around you. Many of them are very self-centered. Ego is not a derogatory term, let alone selfish. Kazuo inamori, the God of Japanese Business, talks about the altruism of "respecting heaven and loving people". But this altruism is the social contribution after the realization of self-worth-I pay, which is my active choice, but it is by no means passive acceptance.
People who live a miserable life often don't have the initiative to win life. The more entangled you are, the less you can win self-identity and live a trivial life. The biggest reason for this is that they don't understand my relationship with others. Those who bring light to themselves in life have self-confidence from the heart, and more importantly, follow their own hearts. No matter what they do, they seem to have their own aura, which attracts you to him.
People who are "clear" never struggle.
The earliest word "carry clear" became popular on the Internet, which originated from Qu Xiaoyu's Ode to Joy. Qu Yao is famous for being clear and white. Such people may be more direct, but if you have deep contact with them, you will find that such friendship is sincere. Some people seem to feel like a spring breeze at first. When they talk, they will follow you around and give you one seemingly warm smile after another. This kind of person feels particularly comfortable at first, but if you go deeper, you will find that it is too fake to make friends with such a person, because you will never get her real opinion. Friendship in your is like "taking part in accidental amusement". It is difficult to have a heart-to-heart relationship with such people, and naturally it is impossible to have a profound friendship.
The most impressive thing about the recent fire in Pi is that Deng was rejected because of his mother. Miaomiao's father David Lin advised her: The whole world looks down on your mother, but you can't. She really put up with a lot of pains to raise you. Family members are like this, so are friends. A friend is someone who betrays you all over the world, but he is still willing to face the world back to back with you. Such a person is by no means a person who lacks independent mind and unclear thinking.
Fear is the source of life's troubles.
In fact, all people's entanglements and self-confidence stem from fear of the future. Because I don't want to take responsibility and practice, I dare not promise. In this way, it may be easier to understand why some people would rather be "masked men" than tell the truth. Because the truth may need to be taken care of, and you don't have to think about it if you take part in accidental amusement. The source of all our anxiety is nothing more than uncertainty about the future, and the source of entanglement is because of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss. Human nature is to seek certainty, but the charm of "future" lies in its uncertainty. Learn to seek certainty in uncertainty, learn to live in peace with the future, and you will overcome the troubles caused by fear.
Self-appreciation represents self-identity.
If a person doesn't love himself, how can you expect him to have the ability to love others? People who can love will always know how to feel sorry for themselves. If you have pity and love for yourself, you are naturally a person with love in your heart. Only when your inner love overflows, do you know how to love others. I think a woman's greatest charm comes from self-appreciation. Only by doing what she thinks in her heart can she identify herself from her heart.
A woman who admires herself brings her own light, radiates light wherever she goes, and constantly transmits the positive energy of life. People who feel sorry for themselves are likely to become black holes with negative energy. Not only can it not illuminate others, but it may also become a black hole that everyone dares not approach.