(1) between husband and wife
The most solemn sense of ceremony for men and women to get married may be the wedding. Why do most people need a wedding ceremony? Because on the wedding day, relatives, friends and parents can witness your happiness and listen to your vows. Both husband and wife can take each other seriously and become the other half of life. No matter how big the trouble is, it is not easy to let go.
The long road to marriage, passion and love will eventually become dull with the years, and trivial bad thoughts will make each other look less pleasing to the eye. Therefore, many emotional experts keep expounding a point: the way to get along in marriage is to have a little sense of ceremony, and flowers and beauty will rekindle the spark of love between each other.
Take me for example. My husband and I have known each other for 1 1 year and have been married for 6 years. There are several days that we must celebrate every year: wedding anniversary, birthday, acquaintance anniversary, Valentine's Day and Qixi Festival. Every holiday, my husband will send me a bunch of flowers, which have not changed for so many years. I was very happy to receive the flowers, and my attitude towards him was a little more affectionate than usual, and the relationship between husband and wife instantly warmed up a lot.
Therefore, the sense of ceremony is particularly important for a harmonious relationship between husband and wife.
(2) between relatives
Perhaps you will wonder why there is still a sense of ceremony between relatives. Since work, every year on Mother's Day and Father's Day, I will specially call my parents and tell them frankly what day it is today. Wish you a happy holiday. In the first year, they were embarrassed: "Where are these accents?" . In the second and third years, I could clearly hear their joy and relief on the phone. Now, I basically send a red envelope of blessing.
In fact, regarding the sense of ceremony between relatives, I have also heard a story: my friend A's grandmother died, my friend A couldn't attend the funeral because of work, and my grandmother loved my friend A most since childhood. For many years, friend A couldn't forgive herself in her heart, and she couldn't hear any voice about death around her, otherwise she wouldn't cry. Once, I happened to meet a psychologist. After the doctor talked with him, he found someone to lie on the bed, covered his face with a white cloth, and asked his friend A to pretend to attend grandma's funeral. Friend a let go and finally said goodbye to grandma.
Therefore, between relatives, a certain sense of ceremony is necessary, whether it is cheerful or sad.
(3) Self-care
Everyone's road to growth can't be smooth sailing, and sometimes we will let ourselves drift and fall into the comfort zone; Sometimes we talk to ourselves and drive ourselves crazy. Actually, we should learn to get along with ourselves. In the process of self-management, you can set phased goals. Once completed, reward yourself with some unique rituals, such as shopping or traveling, to please yourself and enrich your mind.