Many friends have asked this question, and I once felt the same way. I am also a lucky one who has climbed out of the misery of life. So I deeply understand and sympathize with your situation. I'll give you ways to eliminate depression and control your mind. I hope you can harvest the joy, happiness and wonderful life one day earlier!

How to adjust your mentality? People suffer because they don't understand reason; Don't know the truth of the universe and the laws of things; Don't know the relationship between people; Do not understand human nature; No empathy; Closed and stubborn ideas, opposing ways of thinking and self-centered values. Always in a state of opposition or even confrontation with the public, but I don't know that opposing one person is opposing the public; Is the opposite of the universe; Is to be against your heart. In this way, we can only get farther and farther away from our own happiness. The reason is that there is something wrong with our mentality: dissatisfaction, melancholy, impetuousness, sadness, complaining, resentment, injury, hatred, anger ... and even the heart of killing. In a deeper sense, it is because we are too obsessed with ourselves, too selfish, too famous and famous, and the rigid methods and habits that have been formed over the years to think from one angle, one direction and one position. Even ten cows can't be pulled back, and there is a great danger of a larger foe. It seems that someone is holding our hearts and leading our noses to the abyss of pain. We can't be masters of ourselves! So I regret it when I reflect afterwards. At that time, my heart was like a wild horse without reins, and I couldn't stop getting off. When a person walks, there is a sea of fire, a mountain or a deep well in front of him. Excuse me, will he go forward? Definitely not. However, in real life, we often fall into a dead end, and the result is still bitter, planting our own bitter causes; Taste the bitter fruit yourself. In addition to selfishness, it is caused by rigid, rigid and fixed thinking patterns and methods for many years. At this moment, being able to change your mind-change your heart is "enlightenment"! China people are very clever. Look at the spelling of the word Wu. Isn't it my heart? He who can control his heart is an enlightened person! The faster and more timely the change, the higher the understanding. Being able to change yourself voluntarily is conscious. Of course, at the prompt of others, it is good to realize it! I'm afraid I'm stubborn By the time I left this world, my mind was still in the dark, still struggling with the public, still struggling with the world, still struggling with my own heart, and my body and mind were still not harmonious and could not be integrated with the public. What a painful life! Every year, 287,000 people commit suicide in China, and there are countless minor psychological disorders. And with the passage of time, there is a tendency to spread and expand. Aren't there many people in the world who leave this world with lifelong regrets? One of these suicides didn't expect that the white-haired man would be heartbroken when he sent the black-haired man. Your parents' heart died with you as soon as you left. You forget that it's mother's milk of 3 or 400 Jin-that's the kindness that mother's plasma has not repaid! Secondly, have you considered the feelings of your lover, children, (or lover,) friends …? Your relatives cry, your friends cry, and your relatives will be taken care of all their lives. Third, you are sorry for yourself! You haven't really seen the beauty and happiness of life! You just see the negativity and negativity in life. I have seen children as young as 8 years old and as old as 10 trying to commit suicide on the Internet. There is a boy 16 years old. His father has left, and his mother has been with him for more than ten years. The little boy said: I will take one last look at my mother and grandmother and leave forever every day. It's really hard to wake up without being confused. It was like an arrow through the heart, and I was very sad. Tears rolled down like broken pearls. Really feel sorry for these premature flowers! What I said today is from the bottom of my heart, and it is a deep communication. In my opinion, there is no better way to save the confusion and darkness of the mind. We should cherish it very much, life is rare, don't come to earth in vain and return empty-handed! The so-called transcendence is not the work of our brains, but the sublimation of the mind and the promotion of the spiritual realm, which can be completed in seven seconds. But some people have not improved their mentality for 70 years!

A 90-year-old man said, "No matter what happens, check yourself first!" So, when you are in pain, don't find fault with each other, no matter what their mentality and purpose are, even if they are right. This is a question that God tests my mentality. How should I answer this question correctly? We understand the truth of doing things and being human. We will never make the mistakes we made before. Not only has it not reached the point of confrontation with everyone, but it has also opened the door to happiness from now on. How nice it would be to be clean, happy and lucky every day! This is a great leap from hell to heaven, from selfishness to fraternity, from egoism to altruism, from ordinary people to saints! All the troubles, pains and tribulations in the world are life problems for God to improve, temper my mind and shape my personality. The so-called "character" is to pass the exam. Only through pain can I expand my great love, open my heart, hone my will, polish my eyes, achieve my life and cast my brilliant future. We should learn to be content and grateful. I can love everyone in the world widely and selflessly, including all my opposites; My heart is like the sea, wider than the sea. My heart is like the universe, integrated with the universe and the world. It can hold everything in the world, everyone in the world, the sun, the moon and the stars! In this world, the biggest thing is our heart; The smallest is our heart. We immediately realized this; No longer stubborn mistakes is enlightenment; Seeing through life is wisdom; Being able to tolerate everyone is happiness. Everything depends on our mentality. Before we know the truth, our hearts are like a wild horse that has not been tamed, kicking and jumping around, completely disobedient; After being tamed slowly, people can ride slowly, and after being tamed, they can pull the hood of the car, but they often kick people. After repeated taming for a long time, I finally took the initiative to pull the cart without kicking people, tamed my clothes and obeyed. This is a long and painful process of taming. We must tame our hearts like tigers. In fact, the tempering of our hearts is also such a long and painful process. According to Who's Who, adults are uncomfortable and comfortable but not adults. "China's View on Ancient Literature" said, "Heaven will do great things to Sri Lanka, and it will strain its bones and muscles, starve its body, empty its body, and mess with its actions, so that it can't do anything." "Yesterday Xibo (Zhou Wenwang) was arrested (you) and played Zhouyi; Confucius (Hungry) Cai Chen wrote Spring and Autumn Annals; Qu Yuan exiled Li Sao; The blind (jve) in Zuo Qiu have Mandarin; The foot of Sun Tzu's Art of War is in the art of war; It's not Shu, but Lu Lan. Han Fei was imprisoned in Qin, "talking about difficulties, grief and indignation"; Three hundred poems, probably written by sages when they were angry. " Real family life and real social life are the melting pot of our hearts, and everyone can't escape. Heaven never shuts one door but he opens another, and the earth never shuts one door but he opens another, whether it is a king or a civilian; Whether rich or beggars; Male or female, unless you don't live on the earth, go to another planet and live alone. Phoenix nirvana in the fire, bright mind in the furnace. If you don't start from adjusting your mentality, I'm afraid your life will end with nothing-nothing! For the sake that we are not strangers, but real relatives, show your sincerity for everyone! Even if you can understand a little, you can benefit for life!

There are two yin-yang fish in the Taiji diagram, head to tail and tail to head. What did it give us? One is that everything has two aspects: yin and yang; The sun is yang and the moon is yin: it is yang during the day and yin at night; Yang is in the body and Yin is in the spirit; The idea is yang, and the result is yin; The ideal is yang, and the harvest is yin; What you see is Yang, but what you can't see is Yin ... Tracing back to the source, Yin and Yang are the basic elements of this colorful world. Secondly, it means that the two aspects of a thing are not opposite, but relative; They are both relatively independent and interdependent, and this truth is that yin and yang are mutually rooted in the words of experts. The mutual root of yin and yang is a complex contradictory but not contradictory relationship, which emphasizes the interdependence and interconnection of yin and yang. Once again, the yin and yang fish are connected end to end and constantly swim. The whole universe, the world, everything around us, our mentality … are constantly changing.

What life lessons have we got from the above aspects?

First of all, there are two ways to help us understand the world and ourselves. Qian Qian shouldn't talk about anything. In other words, everything has two or more interests, success or failure, gain or loss, and choice. In real life, people are often obsessed with dead ends and run all the way to the dark. Let's imagine the result. Therefore, people are not only material, but also full of energy, happy mood and healthy mood.

The second is to deal with the relationship between good people. Obviously, people are interdependent and interrelated, which will change our mentality of opposition, confrontation and even hostility. If you are happy and I am happy, that would be great. Hurt others and hurt yourself; If you want to be happy, let others be happy first.

Third, we know that the world is changing, which means that our thinking should also change with it; It is by no means to go with the flow and change our basic ideas and principles of being a man. Qian Qian must not misunderstand this. For example, your car is driving very fast on the expressway, and suddenly the road conditions change, and there is an insurmountable obstacle ahead. What would you do? Be sure to slow down and brake, or turn around and come back, or take a detour. However, in real life, when we encounter problems, our thinking and psychology often can't turn this corner. People are upset because they have not seen through the world and fully understood themselves! Combining unswerving philosophy and principles of life with flexibility in dealing with specific details will alleviate a lot of troubles and unnecessary pain. In fact, everyone will encounter troubles and pains in his life. The key is that we should have a good attitude, a scientific way of thinking and an appropriate way of handling it. As the saying goes, there are troubles every day, and if you don't pick them up, there will be nothing. "Being good as water" means that the highest and best way to treat everything in the world is water: it is in a tangible and intangible state. What is the shape of water, where is the way of water, and what is the attitude and psychology of water? There is no straight road, and there are twists and turns. All roads lead to the same goal, why focus on a dead end?

So no matter what happens, first of all, we should accept him with joy. Secondly, we should understand it in essence, from both yin and yang, and see through it; Don't be fooled by its illusion. What plays a decisive role is the change of our mentality, to put it more deeply, it is the grasp of our mind! What do you mean, seize the moment? He who grasps his "heart" all the time is a saint. Third, transform it. Transformation is to transform one's "heart", not another. For myself, my own egoism, this idea is to open the door of hell; For others, for the benefit of others, the idea is to open the door of heaven. This transformation is both hell and heaven! The change of this concept is the happiness, freedom and sublimation from ordinary people to saints. My heart has changed. Looking at each other, I am not angry, but grateful, grateful, grateful. Contentment and gratitude are the golden keys to happiness. It is everyone who has given us living conditions and space, given us the necessary food, clothing, housing and transportation, and the people are our true relatives. Without them, we can't live in this world. If everyone can be grateful, grateful for everything and always grateful, then happiness, happiness, auspiciousness and freedom will always be around us. Everything is pleasing to the eye and happy, then we are happy people. I sincerely hope that everyone in the world will be happy, safe and auspicious!

In the journey of life, you are bound to experience a lot of pain and suffering. Tang Priest went through 8 1 and learned from the scriptures, but it was difficult to kill. Experienced cold, not afraid of cold, experienced pain, not feeling bitter. Only great love can relieve pain; Only understanding can eliminate troubles; Only tolerance can dissolve hatred. Life is a spiral process from confusion to awakening. Never know yourself just to know yourself; From not knowing life to knowing life; From understanding life to thoroughly understanding life, we should constantly improve the level and realm of life. Everything in the universe is a combination of yin and yang, and the combination of yin and yang is harmony. In real life, we often put the two aspects of Yin and Yang in opposition, which is contrary to the law of development of things and artificially creates contradictions and opposites. Can our hearts be calm? Can the world be harmonious? So never talk about a problem from one point, but from two points, and then look at the same thing from multiple angles. We should put ourselves in others' shoes, and put ourselves in others' shoes, so as not to be too persistent and stubborn.

If we regard our heart as a water cup and the pain of life as ten tons of salt, can a small water cup hold ten tons of salt? Obviously not. If we enlarge our heart to a swimming pool of 100 cubic meter, we can hold ten tons of salt. Although the concentration is weak, it is still very salty. What if we enlarge our hearts to the Pacific Ocean again? Then no matter how much salt you put, it won't feel a little salty. Our hearts are enlarged, even in the vast ocean, not to mention the little troubles and pains in life. Our hearts are like the sea, and every pain is like a fleeting spray, which will leave us the brightest smile and the most beautiful brilliance! Only the combination of bitterness and sweetness is the real life, and life is to taste all the flavors in the world. This is my heartfelt words to everyone! I sincerely hope that everyone in the world will stay away from pain, get happiness and move towards glory!

Bits and sorrows in life are a seed in people's hearts, a harvest in life journey, a maturity of life experience and the inevitable result of the whole life! It is the real enjoyment of life to taste the dribs and drabs of bitterness and joy in life experience. I am willing to bear every pain for anyone, and I am more willing to share every happiness and joy with anyone! -This is our outlook on life, values and world outlook.

The boundless sea is my heart, fraternity is my eternal heart, and I am one with the earth; I embrace the blue sky. The sun, the moon and the stars are my brightest boundless cells. I am the blue sky, I am the white clouds, I am the spring breeze, I have no obstacles, I fly freely in the universe, and I am integrated with the blue sky. I found myself in the space-time coordinates-this is my real root, my real home! For better or worse; Whether it is pain or happiness; Whether it's thorns or flowers ... these are indispensable elements of our beautiful life and home. I will never waste my life. The whole value of our life is to help everyone get rid of all the pain as much as possible. Give everyone a spiritual fast food! Worry about the world first, and enjoy it later!

The effective way to eliminate troubles and pains is to use the famous sayings in life to remind yourself, explain yourself, hint at yourself, remind yourself and unlock yourself-that is, the process of awakening. Gradually cultivate your great love, understanding, contentment, gratitude and humility-this is the golden key to open the door to happiness! In fact, life is not lack of happiness and happiness, but lack of insight and love to find happiness and happiness! Who will open it? It can only be myself, I can't replace it. I'm just telling you the truth and giving you a way to unlock it. The concrete actions must be our own. He who tied the bell must untie the bell; The lock must be locked. When greed, hatred, arrogance, doubt, fame and fortune, jealousy, hatred, injury, revenge and murder arise, it is time to open the door of worry and pain, the door of mental death and the door of hell! The opening and closing mentioned above are all between our own minds. The environment is created by the heart, and the environment is changed by the heart. What a hell! My heart is in heaven! Confucius said, "Listen in the morning and die at night." This shows how important it is to understand the truth of being a man.

Carefully handle the relationship with family, relatives, friends, neighbors and colleagues. Try to be more modest, more tolerant and more considerate of each other, and everything will be solved. If you persist in doing it for a long time, happiness and auspiciousness are just around the corner. I think in the near future, everyone will get this magic weapon of happiness and auspiciousness. All evil should be done, and all good should be pursued. Trouble disappears in gangs, and happiness is born in dedication. In this way, I found the true value of life, the origin of life and the foundation of my happiness!