When your boyfriend clearly broke up with you, it is very likely that you are eager to stay, so you will continue to contact each other, express to each other and beg for their understanding, which is also a common mistake in the whole process of staying. Because the other party has already denied you when you broke up, and the stubborn retention of personal behavior can only create a condescending brand image for yourself. The other party will rationally split your personal behavior and feel that it is reasonable to give up on you. How to negotiate with your boyfriend to make him change his mind? Therefore, in the process of boyfriend's gradual recovery, the proper process is to refrigerate feelings.

What is refrigeration?

style = " white-space:normal；" & gt Freezing is freezing feelings, not giving each other work pressure, freezing the sense of demand, and retaining the dominant position. Connor, a famous emotional counselor, said, "The party with low demand usually dominates." Refrigeration is not breaking up, not letting you cut off any contact with him and abandon this relationship. Refrigeration is a sense of need that can keep in touch, but can't be revealed, which makes the relationship between them enter the refrigeration period.

What should I do during refrigeration?

While freezing your feelings, you should also change yourself instead of doing nothing. During cold storage, we should think rationally about the basic contradictions and correct the problems purposefully. Moreover, we should update ourselves in terms of design and self-level, such as changing our previous clothes, changing our hair style, slimming down and so on. And decorate your own design to make yourself look more elegant; You can try to communicate with friends of the opposite sex, learn how to exercise men and women, expand your social circle, make good friends and improve your attitude towards others.

In fact, renewing and transforming yourself with the cold storage feelings is to pave the way for better secondary attraction.

What is secondary attraction?

The second attraction refers to improving your attraction and love level according to self-improvement and attracting each other again.

The contribution of secondary attraction to reservation

If you constantly improve your allure, your own meaning will continue to improve. If one's use value increases, the psychological state of negation and aversion to the other party will gradually be replaced by interest and affection, and the vigilance of the other party will gradually decrease. Because your latest appearance after upgrading is obviously compared with the brand image of the previous separation period, it is very easy for the other party to arouse your curiosity and mystery, get to know you again, and then improve the probability of the other party being attracted to you again, which plays an important and reasonable role in successfully retaining. What should I do if I break up with my boyfriend?

Saving love is just doing the right thing. How to negotiate with your boyfriend to make him change his mind? If there is a mistake in the actual operation, it is even more difficult to retain it. Therefore, in the process of saving love, we should maintain an optimistic attitude, carry out appropriate cold violence on emotions, and diligently make the transformation of secondary attraction to make ourselves look better, then saving boyfriends will become more successful.