The self-report of the derailed man, under what circumstances will take the initiative to end the extramarital affair.

For ending the derailment, some people actively choose to end the derailment, while others passively choose to end the derailment. Let's take a look at the cheating stories of these three men first:

1, Mr. Chen, there is something wrong with the distance. I cheated on a woman for two years. At first, I felt that I was the most comfortable man in the world. A wife at home helps to take care of my parents and children, and a lover outside helps to take care of my life. In June last year, the woman was transferred to another city by the unit, and the two inseparable people became strangers because of the distance. Only then did I know that I didn't really like her, I just enjoyed the care my lover gave me. Last year, June+February, 5438, I decided to end this extramarital affair and long-distance love. I really want to cry when I go home to see my wife. Her hair has become longer and she has lost a lot of weight. She is preoccupied with her family, while I am fooling around outside. I really feel sorry for her. Now I just want to make up for my wife and think nothing.

Mr. Xia, the choice between the two is that one of my new colleagues and I drank too much after dinner and they had sex. Originally, I thought this one-night stand would end soon, just a drunken deviant behavior, and it would be good to return to my family after dawn. I really love my wife, but sometimes she has a big temper. I am afraid that she will quarrel with me, and I am afraid that something will make her unhappy. When we get along, I am always afraid. A lover is a gentle and understanding woman. I was under little pressure when I got along with her, so we began to hide things again and again. I know that my relationship with my lover can't last long, and there is no future for two people together. After a long time, it is harmful to your family, even to your children, and even to the outcome of divorce.

I am an indecisive person. I want to end this unhealthy relationship in my heart, but I can't make up my mind. As long as my lover takes the initiative to find me, I can't help wanting to be with her, and the two of them are so entangled. But what I never expected was that she went straight to the door and told my wife about the affair. My wife forced me to choose between them. I chose to return to my family, and this relationship ended.

3. xu teacher, the collapse of inner contradictions Three years ago, I met a lady on a business trip. From hobbies to work, we found that the more we talked, the more speculative we became, so we started such feelings. But with the passage of time, after the novelty passed, I found that everything was just fantasy, not so perfect. I want to go back to my family and end this relationship. It's too painful for me, but she won't separate me or even force me to divorce, threatening to cheat me with extramarital affairs and forbidding me to go back to my family.

Then I encouraged San Xiao to go abroad for further study, so that she could learn more about the opposite sex. In less than half a year on earth, she met a new opposite sex and her interest in herself slowly faded. I don't want to be entangled in this anymore. After all, I never thought about divorce. Then let's talk about today under what circumstances men will take the initiative to end their relationship. What determines the length of a man's extramarital affairs?

First, the wife's motivation Once a visitor, Mr. Zhao, had a great motivation for his wife to end this extramarital affair.

Mr. Zhao said: That was the second year of my infidelity. Before that, my wife always focused on her career and didn't care about me. When she found out I was cheating, she filed for divorce. But I cheated just for fun, and I can't bear to divorce at all! At first, I thought my wife was just scaring me. On the surface, I told my wife that I broke up with my lover, but in fact I was still in secret contact. Later, my wife threw the divorce papers in my face, and I realized that what she said was true. I began to apologize and beg for mercy, but my wife didn't buy it at all, and even went directly to a private detective to investigate some of my lover's previous experiences, which turned things upside down.

After knowing my lover's past, I was completely confused. It turns out that everything in this marriage is my lover's disguise. Looking at my wife's dismissive expression, my face burned. Cheating not only hurt my wife, but also proved my stupidity. After waking up, I really can't figure out why I have a good life, but why should I cheat? ..... After discovering that their husbands are cheating, most wives will be dominated by negative emotions such as fear and sadness, and few wives have a strong driving force to urge their husbands to end their extramarital affairs. At this time, we must seek the help of professionals in time to persuade a third party to save the derailed husband and save the marriage.

Second, the reasons for extramarital affairs There are many reasons for the end of extramarital affairs. What is the reason for the extramarital affair of the derailed man determines the ending method of this extramarital affair. Mr. Zhang, a former visitor, took the initiative to end the extramarital affair. Mr. Zhang said: My wife and I met on a blind date, and we lost our feelings when we got married. In the fifth year of marriage, my first love returned to my hometown to do business. In order to meet her, I gathered some friends who had a good time and had a meal together, which was called a class reunion. The moment I saw her, I felt as if I had fallen madly in love with her again. The first love in my eyes is simple, beautiful and kind. Regardless of my marital status, I had sex with her.

But the more we get along, the more we find that the first love has changed. She is no longer simply beautiful. I asked her why she changed, and she said, "Simple? Can we just eat it as a meal? If I didn't make money with you, would I be confused with a married man? You don't think I came back for you, do you? You are so ordinary and confident. " Later, after spending some time with her, I found that I didn't really love her. At that time, I only loved myself and the woman I imagined in my mind. Since then, I have taken the initiative to reduce contact with her and returned to my family. ...

The active or passive role of the third party in the extramarital affair, the derailed man's view on the extramarital affair and the reason why the extramarital affair began all determine when the extramarital affair will end.

Third, the value of marriage When marriage is more valuable, men will end their extramarital affairs and return to their families sooner. The value of marriage is reflected in the support of parents-in-law, men's attention to children, marital property and other family resources. In addition to the value of marriage, the pressure of public opinion is also a reason to end extramarital affairs. Some people cherish their feathers, fearing that the exposure of cheating will affect their reputation, and naturally they will take the initiative to end their extramarital affairs.