Some people say that a sense of humor is innate and generally cannot be learned; However, I think a sense of humor can be cultivated. As long as the method is proper and the foundation is profound, everyone can become a master!
How to cultivate a sense of humor? To cultivate a sense of humor, it is best to start with jokes. Listen to other people's jokes first, and then collect them widely. Of course, the collected jokes must be those that once made you laugh. Wait until you have collected enough (at least more than 100 articles), then classify them, study them in detail, try to figure out the artistic conception, and be sure to find out the jokes and handling methods in each article (the so-called "sharp turn"). If possible, recite and try to repeat it to others in your own words, and then observe each other's reaction as a reference for self-correction.
There are four points to note about telling jokes:
First, you can't listen to a joke twice-no matter how good the joke is, it will be boring the second time.
Second, jokes cannot be explained-they can only be understood. Too much description will destroy it.
Don't expect too much from each other-the most taboo is the opening remarks: "Today I will tell you the most beautiful joke in the world …".
Fourth, don't laugh before others laugh-laugh after the whole world laughs.
If the paragraph is smooth, you can start "satire"; Compared with jokes, satire needs more refined language to express its characteristics of "fast", "accurate" and "ruthless". Of course, satire can also bring joy to everyone, except the satirized party. There are two sources of satire:
One is the experience of * * * ─ such as childhood memories, likes and dislikes of * * *, etc.
Second, challenge taboos-politics, sex, physical defects, personal image or characteristics, authoritarianism, etc. As for the way of irony, it can be said that there are various ways. As long as we fully master the handling method of "sharp turn" and use the simplest language with the characteristics of quick response, accuracy and cruelty, we can "break the demon and get rid of it". The commonly used methods are: straight to the point, homophonic, continuous pursuit, openly praising and belittling, and changing the subject. The yogi must try to climb a flight of stairs to get there.
After mastering all the skills of irony, the mastery of language will certainly reach a very concise and accurate level. For practitioners themselves, with their reaction, induction and ability to grasp the key points, they will certainly reach a realm that is difficult for ordinary people to reach. At this time, we can enter the realm of "silent telling is more than talking".
In the realm of "silence is better than sound", shrugging your shoulders, blinking your eyes and pouting your lips can resonate with people and let them enjoy it; The yogi at this time, to paraphrase a martial arts novel, is already a "peerless master"!
Practicing a sense of humor has reached the highest level, that is, it has divorced from the technical level and sublimated into a life attitude (or outlook on life). At this time, he (she) can see interest in everything, and can always be in a happy state, making good friends and spreading laughter wherever he (she) is. Jin Shengtan, a humorous genius in Qing Dynasty, was accused of being guilty and demanded beheading. Before the execution, he gave the executioner a red envelope. After the execution, the executioner opened the red envelope and found only a piece of paper with four big words written on it: "What a fast knife! 」
A person is humorous enough to see through life and death, which can be said to be a positive result!
Humor can be combined with different new knowledge through imagination, and it is easy to produce many humorous ideas, but the most important thing is to understand what humor is. As far as I know, the initial humor is actually an episode of life in which public figures have some accidents that are easy to make a mountain out of a molehill in public places, and at that time, they solved the predicament at that time with clever expression transformation methods, which makes people relish. I remember Winston Churchill, the former British Prime Minister, and Handel, a famous musician, both showed extraordinary humor. Humor can show personal generosity and on-the-spot wit.
We should understand that true humor is not only about telling jokes, but also about grasping the "feeling" between people and this feeling. The story of "entertaining relatives in colorful clothes" in "Twenty-four Filial Pieties" tells the story of an old man in his sixties. In order to be filial to his parents in his eighties, he dresses up as a child every day and tries his best to please his parents by singing and dancing, just to be able to put down his figure. And occasionally relaxed and humorous office bosses must perform better than those who teach their subordinates with a straight face every day, which is also a kind of modesty.
As long as you are willing to put down your attitude, people will feel happy to get along with you, whether between friends, parents or husband and wife, and then there will be a good interaction of "please others and please yourself", which is why I encourage everyone to be more humorous, so that life will not be so boring and it will be easier for people to get along with each other.
For example, when friends meet, we are used to asking, "Are you full? But a friend told me that this sentence is out of date, and modern people should ask, "Are you losing weight? "Because the topic of slimming is more popular now. This is the "feeling". By the way, in order to find out the similarities between each other, and then say what the other person likes to hear.
In other words, "please others" will lead to "please yourself". As long as we keep a humorous heart at all times and don't always get caught up in it, we will naturally find interesting inspiration everywhere in our lives, and our sense of humor will naturally continue.
Recommendation: 10 Tips for developing a sense of humor.
First, smile again. Smiling and laughing are different, but they are closely linked. Smile when you feel ordinary fun-see children playing, lovers or friends coming to you, successfully complete a task and witness something amazing or humorous. Smiling means that you are not overwhelmed by the pressure and burden of life. If you don't smile dozens of times a day, then you need to ask yourself whether you suffer from depression or stress.
Have some fun for yourself. Open some humorous entertainment programs or movies.
Think back to some of the most embarrassing moments in your life. And find humor in it. Then practice weaving stories and expressing them in a humorous way. It may need to be exaggerated or dramatic, but good stories are told like this. If you expose your shortcomings and laugh at yourself, you will be more involved in a humorous lifestyle.
Whenever something irritating and frustrating happens, face it calmly and look for humor. Of course, you will get angry when mud spills on your clothes, you step on shit, or you accidentally wash a red towel in a pile of white clothes. In fact, this is probably the most common reaction. But to no avail, it will only ruin the mood. It's better to find a way to tease the little troubles in life. You can do it. Imagine what it would be like if these things happened to others, people you like-or people you don't like. Keep flipping through your business cards in your mind until you find the person you think is the most suitable for your immediate predicament. Laugh at him and laugh at yourself!
When someone offends you or makes you angry, fight back with humor instead of hostility. For example, if someone is always late, say to him, "Well, I'm glad you didn't start an airline." Life is too short to care too much about personal grievances. However, if someone always offends you, it will be different. You should take it seriously and take appropriate measures to retaliate. But for occasional troubles, or nothing you can do can change that person or situation, respond with humor.
Make a good friend with humor.
Exaggerate and brag about trouble. Patty Walter, an award-winning humorist and author of Sympathetic Laughter, said that boasting about the actual situation can help us find a humorous perspective. She said that healthy jokes, cartoons, burlesque and humorous articles all use exaggeration. .
Establish a humorous environment. Allen Klein, an award-winning professional speaker and author of The Healing Power of Humor, said, make a haha bulletin board and post only interesting proverbs. His favorite sentence is: "Never wrestle with a pig. You both get dirty, but pigs like that. "
Tell jokes. Learn a simple joke every week and tell it to people around you.
Always making fun of yourself.