When a child is beaten, his mother is a humble image in his heart.
At the age of five, my father couldn't afford to get sick, spent all his family savings, and finally failed to get better. After his father left, his mother became his only support.
During the day, his mother took him to work in the fields, and at night, the humble kang became a comfortable nest for their mother and son. He likes to lie in his mother's warm arms and listen to her stories that have been repeated many times. He thought that such a happy life would last forever.
But when he was seven years old, his mother sent him to a closed primary school in a township, and then he left despite his crying.
Since then, he can only be taken home by his uncle once every half month. But every time I go home, I never see my mother again. Whenever he cries to my uncle for his mother, he always tells him that your mother has gone to earn money and there is no money. How does she support you?
Gradually, he stopped crying, but he hated his mother from the bottom of his heart.
A year later, my mother finally came back. When his mother squatted in front of him with tears and selflessly opened her arms, he stubbornly turned away.
The next day, he was taken on a long-distance bus by his mother and drove into a strange city. It turned out that the 32-year-old illiterate mother studied hairdressing in the city for half a year and raised money everywhere to open a barber shop. After earning a little money, she pulled him to her side. Mom said that everything she did was because of him, and the temporary separation was to give him a better living environment and stay together for a long time.
Later, she was sent to a private primary school by her mother. Just when the relationship between him and his mother had just improved, an accidental bump into her completely disintegrated her image in his eyes.
As soon as he entered the shop after school that day, he saw his mother stand up from the sofa in a panic. A man was still sitting there, then gave him a very impatient look and left angrily. Later, many times, he met different men touching his mother in the shop, but her mother never resisted except instinctively dodging and pleasing her embarrassed smile, which made her look so humble and helpless. Every time I see his eyes burning and his fists clenched tightly, but every time, my mother will signal him to do his homework in the house with a nervous face. He is full of contempt and disgust for his mother's cowardice. I even shouted fiercely to my mother several times: "If you do this again in the future, I will leave home!" " My mother's eyes filled with tears in an instant, and it took a long time to say, "son, we want to live!" " "
At that time, he didn't understand what the mother's humbleness had to do with their having to live. Is it necessary to live without dignity? From then on, he began to fear and even hate going home. He made a determined effort in his heart. He must study hard and escape from this home early.
/kloc-at the age of 0/8, he was admitted to a university far from home as he wished, and left without looking back in the lonely and worried eyes of his mother. After graduating from college, he chose to develop in a city farther away from home, where he got married and had children. I only went home to see my mother symbolically a few times in a few years. And my mother smiles like a flower every time she sees him come back.
My mother in her sixties looks so old that her hair is white. He was very moved, but he couldn't make out with his mother. This long-term identity kept him away from his mother. In fact, since he became a father, his bad feelings towards his mother have gradually dissolved, especially with the growth of his son, his attitude towards his mother has gradually changed.
A few days ago, when he hesitated to take his mother to his hometown, he accidentally received a phone call from his cousin, who told him that his mother was terminally ill and was dying. I hope he can go back and see her one last time. When he hurried back to his hometown, his mother on his deathbed was so skinny that she had no strength to speak. His cousin told him that his mother was diagnosed with esophageal cancer six months ago, but she wouldn't let anyone tell him. She said she couldn't get her son into trouble.
Before he died, his mother gave him a passbook of 60 thousand yuan. She said it was all her savings. She knew that he was going to buy a house now, so she refused to go to the hospital for treatment. Later, his mother took his hand and said with all her strength, "son, I know you have been blaming your mother all these years, but do you know?" We must survive. What does it depend on? Isn't that mom's shop? If I offend my client, what can I do to support you? For you, my mother can endure anything, but she has never done anything out of line ... "With that, my mother closed her eyes forever.
Only then did he finally understand that his mother's humbleness was only to support him!
In an instant, he burst into tears and cried and said, "Mom, I'm sorry ..."
Just remember your goodness.
He met her online.
At that time, she had just finished a relationship and was at the lowest point of her mood. One rainy afternoon, a man named "Hero" sent a friend application. She, who rarely added people, looked at the masculine screen name and couldn't help but accept it. So they met. However, to her surprise, it is this gentle touch that points out an unforgettable online love.
She seldom chats online, but she has endless words with him. He is not only humorous and wise, but also considerate, and always gives her the warmth and understanding she needs just right. His concern has become her special dependence. As a result, he naturally became the most beautiful expectation in her network, and even the bullying he inadvertently revealed in his chat was a unique charm in her eyes. I remember once, when chatting with him, she was chatting with another person on the Internet. When he knew this, he said angrily, "You must talk to me alone when I am online in the future. You can talk to others for a while when I am away, but only for a while!" His bullying actually made her feel happy instantly, because in her view, such bullying is obviously a kind of care. Later, they naturally fell in love online.
She is a woman who likes words. Since online dating, she will write some happy mood words in the space, and the first thing he does when he goes online every morning is to go to her space to read the log. He said that her diary can make him feel the happiness of being loved. If she doesn't update every day, he will ask her why she doesn't write. It is because of his urging that she insists on keeping a diary every day.
They are so happy in online dating that he wakes her up with QQ every morning: "Lazy girl, it's time to get up." "He will surf the Internet at work and tell her," I just want to come up and see you! "He sends her a good night message every night ... Love makes her shine again, and he also enjoys this feeling. He said she gave him the feeling of first love, but it was better than first love.
However, such happiness only lasted for three months. Later, she found that he was surfing the Internet less and less, and the time was getting shorter and shorter. Sometimes he didn't surf the Internet for several days. His change made her fidgety. His explanation was that the company had been adjusted recently, the system was strict, and he was not as free as before, so he seldom went online. She really wants to believe everything he says, but she can't control her emotions and her grievances, and she always finds fault with him. She said that her request is not high, but she just hopes to see his head light up every day. Why can't he be satisfied? But he said that such a request is too high for him now, because he has a career and a circle of friends, and he can't satisfy her. His answer made her feel extremely wronged, and the number of quarrels with him naturally increased.
Finally one day, he left her a message saying, "I'm tired." "After that, no matter how she apologized and made peace, the head over there never lit up again. She panicked and called him, but the mobile phone reminded him that the phone was out of service. Since then, he has completely disappeared from her world. However, I don't know why, since he left, she never hated him again. On the contrary, every time I think about the little things that two people love each other, she will have a kind of sweetness to relive happiness. She still kept a diary every day, but she changed from happy words to sad words. Later, she found that her diary was reprinted by many space friends, and the recognition of netizens made her literary dream begin to recover when she was young. So she started posting it on the website. After being recognized by many stations, she boldly tried to take the paper media. Finally, with her persistence, she turned the article into type. She didn't expect that his departure shattered her love dream, but turned a corner and made her writing dream come true.
Now whenever I think of him again, I think of the online love that once impressed her, and her heart is only warm and grateful. She thought, if it weren't for him, she really didn't know how to spend that difficult gray time. If it weren't for him, she wouldn't have such warm and happy memories. If it weren't for him, she wouldn't be where she is today. In short, he changed himself and made himself, so whenever she thinks of him, there will be a warm touch in her heart.
Yes, when love is a thing of the past, let's forget all the unhappiness and bitterness and only remember each other's goodness. Then, no matter when this relationship comes, it will bring you a unique warmth and beauty!
Interpretation of love
His marriage with her is the product of a typical matchmaker's words, which is still very common in rural areas in the 1990s.
Life after marriage is dull and happy. He earns money to support his family, and she educates her husband and children. This kind of marriage is also what she wants. The only fly in the ointment is that he never coaxes her or praises her. At the dinner table, she likes to ask him: Is the food delicious today? Every time he doesn't look up, either this dish is tasteless or that dish is not tender enough, as if her cooking is hard to his liking. Every time she listens to it, she will be very angry and even say a few words to him in anger. Why can't he understand her heart? She just wants to hear him praise himself, so that all the hard work will become a kind of happiness for her, and satisfying him is her happiness! However, for more than ten years, he has never said that her cooking is delicious, and a "not bad" is the highest praise for her! She doesn't know whether her cooking is really bad or his demands are too high.
What bothers her more is that he doesn't understand romance at all. Every time I see her friends and husband and wife show their love together, she has an indescribable envy and loss. They never celebrate their wedding anniversary, let alone foreign solar terms such as Valentine's Day. Sometimes she will deliberately tease him and say, "Hey, honey, everyone else is sending flowers to his wife on Valentine's Day!" " "He would somehow pick up the crops:" That's all for young people. What does it have to do with us? " A word choked her silence.
Later, his unit closed down. After he lost his job, he looked for a job all over the world, worked as a salesman, worked as a temporary worker, and even tried to set up a stall to do some small business ... Anyway, he did everything that could make money, but he worked hard every day, and the tickets he got were still difficult to make a living. She is not a vain person, and she doesn't like to compare with others. However, when she can't make ends meet, it is inevitable that she will be a little bitter from time to time. When things go wrong, these bitter feelings will naturally turn into sharp and mean words, and she will sweep over her face and hit him regardless. Every time he listens to her ridicule, he either smokes glumly or works silently and never contradicts her. His forbearance makes her very angry.
One day, he came back from outside and told her excitedly that he had found a new job and would be able to support his family more than enough in the future. She was surprised to ask him what he did, and he said, a courier. She is a little puzzled. I wonder what happened to the courier. He explained to her that express delivery means sending express mail to others at home every day. This is a high-paying industry. If you do well, you can earn more than 3000 yuan a month, that is, you work hard and have no rest days. Looking at him who is nearly 40 years old, she is a little distressed: "Can you eat?" "He looks calm and confident." Why can't he stand it? I have enough strength to support this family! "His words, unexpectedly let her instant tears wet eyes.
From then on, he got up before dawn every day, rode an electric tricycle to a courier company 20 miles away to distribute goods, and then sent express mail to people all over the city and received emails from customers until dark. After a hasty meal, I had to sit down and sort out the shipping documents for the whole day. I have to scan, take photos and upload one by one, and I have been busy until late at night. She sees it in her eyes and hurts in her heart, but she can't help him. The only thing she can do is to take the initiative to do all the housework.
With his efforts, the days are getting better every day, but he is getting thinner every day. Looking at his weather-beaten face and black hands cracked by the wind, she repeatedly said with distress, if not, let's change to a lighter job. It doesn't matter if we have less money, as long as people don't suffer. He smiled very sunny: "I am not afraid, as long as it makes you feel comfortable, I am willing to work hard!" " "His words made her burst into tears, and when she looked at her pear flower with rain, he suddenly became at a loss. Looking at his silly appearance, she burst into tears in an instant, because she finally understood his love and said, "As long as you are comfortable, I am willing to work hard." Isn't that the best interpretation of his love for her?
So, she understood, there is another kind of love-I will work hard for you in this life!
When you don't want to love yourself.
When I met him, she was already a strong woman in the shopping mall, and he was just a young man who just graduated from college. He admired her shrewdness, simplicity and loveliness. Although there is a 9-year-old age gap between them and she is a single mother, all the obstacles are so insignificant in front of love, so they resolutely walked into the wedding hall hand in hand in the eyes of everyone.
After marriage, he took good care of her, and she felt that she was the happiest woman in the world: her career was booming, her husband was considerate, her daughter was smart and lovely, and she was like the darling of fate, envious of everyone around her.
However, in the third year after marriage, an unexpected car accident brought all the happiness around her to an abrupt end. She lay in bed for a whole year. After she left the hospital, she not only lost her career, but also her former beauty and health. The sequela made her have to take a lot of medicine every day, resulting in serious physical deformity. From the former strong woman to the present, her self-confidence has plummeted. As a result, she was unhappy all day long and was even more critical of her husband. She always creates troubles of one kind or another in her family life to vent her emotions.
The husband understands her feelings and cares more about her feelings. He hoped that his love would help her regain her confidence! Therefore, for her unreasonable troubles, he mostly chose forbearance and tolerance. However, his tolerance does not give her enough sense of security, but will bring her more and more suffering.
10 years later, their marriage still exists, but no one knows how much her husband has paid and suffered in this marriage. When someone asked him why he could persist for so long, he smiled indifferently: "Because I love her, I married her. Because I married her, I will be good to her all my life! " "His answer touched everyone except her, because in this marriage, although he endured her for more than ten years, she didn't buy it. She always felt that he was not as good to her as before, and she attributed all the reasons to her own gap.
Later, because of a trivial matter, she actually filed for divorce, but he was reluctant to let go. In order to save their marriage, they went on a TV mediation program.
Throughout the mediation process, she has been very sad and full of sadness. After listening to their stories, everyone was moved by her husband 17' s insistence and felt that their marriage was really not easy and should be cherished. But she insisted on a divorce. When the host asked her why she wanted to divorce, she complained: "Because I am not a strong woman now, I am out of shape and have no face value. He looks down on me and doesn't value me, so the existence of our marriage is meaningless. "
A mediator listened to her words and smiled: "In fact, everything you said stems from your lack of confidence. You feel that your face value is gone, your figure is gone, your career is gone, and it is not worth loving. In fact, your husband can persist in this marriage until 17, which shows that his love is still there. You have been complaining, but your husband didn't complain, which means it's not that he doesn't love you, but that you don't love yourself. If you want your marriage to continue, the first thing to change is yourself. Starting today, you should learn to discover the joy of life. For example, you can go out to square dance, do charity, or travel with your husband. When you leave home, you will find that the sunshine is still beautiful and life is still beautiful. And when you love life, your mood will get better. At that time, if you look at your marriage and your husband, you won't have so many dissatisfaction and complaints, and your marriage will naturally be happy. "
After listening to the mediator, she was thoughtful. Her husband came to hold her hand and said, "Wife, don't be afraid of me! I hope you can forgive me for what I did wrong before, and I will be better to you in the future. I believe I can help you get out of the haze in your heart and make our marriage happier. "
Listening to her husband's confession, she finally smiled, but she instantly put away her smiling face and said to all mediators with all kinds of grievances: "He still owes me a word!" "
"Ah?" Her sudden change surprised the mediator, and then they suddenly realized and asked in unison, "What are the three words your husband owes you?" Her husband immediately said, "Wife, I'll add two words, I love you forever!" " "Her husband's affectionate confession made her smile instantly.
In the end, she and her husband held hands and made up. At the end of the mediation, she said that she must be a confident and self-loving woman in the future and enjoy the beauty of life and marriage.
Yes, when a person doesn't even love himself, his eyes can't see love and his heart can't feel love, so life is complaining. So, be a confident and self-loving person from now on, because happiness will never fail a person who loves life!