When my daughter was less than 3 years old, one night, she was playing on the carpet in front of the TV in the living room, and we sat and chatted. The daughter suddenly enunciated clearly and her voice was loud: "This is great! That lady's husband will love her more now because she has become slim. " It turns out that she is not playing at the moment, but looking up at TV. My husband and wife got up almost at the same time and hurried to turn off the TV, but they wanted to make their behavior less deliberate. This feeling is so weird. The advertisements of weight-loss products broadcast by Australian television vividly show the happy face of fat people who suddenly become thinner. Our toddler daughter has accepted all the information-being loved equals being thin, being a woman equals being decorated, and getting married equals being a goal in life.
Joan (33) and Daniel (33)
Once, I was choosing clothes to wear when I went out the next day. As usual, my two-year-old daughter watched. I chose a pair of tight black jeans with high waist, which is the kind of pants that you have to work hard to lift. I accidentally caught a glimpse of my blonde shaking herself in front of the mirror, staring at her diaper-wrapped ass with a look of "my ass looks too big in these pants"! Seeing this scene, I was shocked and almost cried.
Claire (39 years old)
About 15 years ago, many enterprises began to extend their claws to girls. Marketers realize that this is an undeveloped group, and this group is the least resistant marketing target in the world. Large enterprises often hire child psychologists and ask them for advice on ways to expand sales. If necessary, they will even use methods that will hurt children. Yes, some tobacco companies and some big companies that also lack conscience have hired psychologists to help them sell their products. With the so-called scientific support, they are even more unscrupulous. In some underdeveloped countries, unscrupulous enterprises let teenagers wear fashionable clothes and sports shoes that look expensive, and then let these children take to the streets and distribute free cigarettes to other children. And these unscrupulous enterprises are not worried about whether the tar content of these cigarettes is high or low. On 20 16, an Australian brewing company also launched a pink soft drink. There are several small red hearts printed on the plastic bottle of the beverage. The alcohol content of this beverage is 8%. Fortunately, now the law has explicitly prohibited the production of such alcoholic products, because they are openly directed at the younger generation. Similar drinks quickly withdrew from the market (but it took nearly 20 years for such a law to be passed).
By the beginning of 2 1 century, the situation became worse. Experts employed by these enterprises say that there is a big difference between girls and boys. Girls are more susceptible to social cues. If two primary school girls are good friends, one of them occasionally frowns or looks gloomy, and the other will not let go all day. If they are two boys with a good relationship, there may be conflicts, fights, even minor injuries and bleeding, but they will soon be able to "smile and forget all their troubles". Boys don't remember things, or more accurately, boys are born to take them seriously, while girls care about them. Of course, we still have to teach boys to consider other people's feelings.
With this information and other insights on children's psychology mentioned in this book, advertisers began to spend millions of dollars to target these girls under 10. In fact, the concept of "girls under 10" was invented by advertisers. In the eyes of advertisers, 1 1 seems to be an age without any special value. 1 1 children can become teenagers by adding 1 (I want to tell advertisers that children are not "below anything" and are as old as them, so don't make a fuss about their age).
These advertisers have achieved great success. Now 10 girls, 40% are worried that their looks are not good enough. In order to lose weight and improve their figure, they strictly control their food intake, but these efforts are actually harmful. Because all girls will look a little baby fat for half a year before entering puberty, and they need to take enough estrogen for their healthy development in the future, it is not good for girls to care too much about their weight. People used to know this. They don't care about the weight of a girl. But what about now? Mothers and careless fathers who are overly sensitive to their daughters' appearance will directly say to their daughters, "Wow! Why are you getting fatter? "
This is the truth of the matter. Girls have lost four years, four years of precious time, which they can use to develop creativity and build self-confidence. 10-year-old children care too much about fashion (or they have fashion anxiety), 12-year-old children are afraid of not keeping up with the trend in clothes, eating and drinking, 14-year-old children spend their pocket money on cosmetics, but in fact, their faces full of collagen don't need to wear these things at all. A 12-year-old girl may also have an eating disorder, because she fantasizes about becoming as slim as a model in a magazine that she has read countless times. In this way, the child's weight will go up and down like a roller coaster, and the metabolism will be completely out of balance. 16-year-old girls began to beg their parents to take them for breast augmentation or labial plastic surgery. And this trend shows no sign of stopping.
There is only one way to avoid all this, and that is to protect your daughter from the influence of bad media information, which requires you to start from yourself. Now let's talk about what to do.
Once, I went to a school to give a lecture on "How to raise girls". In the meantime, I had a whim and said to the audience, "If you are not satisfied with your body, please raise your hand."
Now, you can also evaluate your satisfaction with your figure and tick the description that best suits you.
1. I really want to change my body. I am not satisfied with many parts of my body now.
I can basically accept my body, although there are several parts that I want to change.
I think my body is beautiful and I love it unconditionally. I treat it gently and sincerely thank God for giving me such a body.
Of the people who came to the lecture that day, 98% raised their hands, and only 2% would choose the third description. But if you want to help your daughter avoid the trap of paying too much attention to appearance, you need to be alert and tell yourself that you should choose the third description.
The following is my personal experience as a teenager.
I'm thin, very thin. I am very happy to have such a body: it is very strong and can basically do anything I want it to do. I love my body, because it is amazing, and it has been with me for 60 years. But when I was a teenager, my opinion was not like this. At that time, our school was poor and there was no swimming pool, so we had to go to the seaside for swimming lessons. In the dressing room, I will hide from my classmates until they are all gone, and I will not take off any clothes. When I swim in the sea, I also avoid others (especially girls) at a distance.
I hate my body. I tried all kinds of methods and spared no effort, but I never grew a muscle. So what I want to say is that teenagers will have this stage, and we all want to look Shuai Shuai and beautiful.
But in the face of the same problem, the pressure on children today is 10 times that of before. Therefore, we must pay attention to it and never let the children have to bear this pressure in their own homes. To do this, mom or dad should take the lead.