As a result, she didn't go to the gym for several days and stayed at home to sleep every day. Instead of losing weight, she is getting fatter and fatter.
She also joked: "I was a few pounds fatter than other children when I was born. I was born a fat man and I have given up hope. "
In fact, the reason why she failed to lose weight during that time was precisely because of habitual procrastination, which delayed her goal and eventually discouraged her until she gave up her goal.
So why do we procrastinate and what can we do to get rid of it?
How to get rid of perfectionism and become more self-disciplined? It takes only three tricks to be an efficient person.
First, the two psychological reasons behind habitual procrastination:
1, perfectionism
What is perfectionism?
Perfectionism is similar to what people call obsessive-compulsive disorder. It is an idea based on dissatisfaction and imperfection everywhere, and it is extremely perfect. It is formed because of the lack of communication and safety in extreme environment.
In fact, everyone has a little perfectionism tendency, thinking that they can overcome perfectionism, complete the most important things within the specified time and become an efficient person.
But the actual situation is just the opposite. Many procrastinators are always pursuing perfection, afraid of failure and anxious about the upcoming task. In order to alleviate this anxiety, they have to postpone the question again and again.
For example, something happened to me recently. I was going to get up in the morning and finish the work first. Instead, I didn't make full use of the time to get up early in the morning, but spent it on movies, and finally the writing time was delayed.
Perfectionism will make a person pay too much attention to the results, and everything will not be done until the best conditions are met, but I just don't know. It is precisely because of this that I hurt myself.
Always take execution as the standard, not perfection as an excuse to delay, otherwise things can only stay in the thinking stage.
2. Have too many negative thoughts about things.
Many people subconsciously have the bad habit of negative thinking, thinking that everything is bound to fail, and what awaits you after failure is endless pain.
For example, writing, many people know the importance of writing, and also know that headline writing can bring them good results of fame and fortune. However, many people will think for a long time before writing, such as thinking about how others will evaluate their writing. What if I can't write well? What if there is no material?
When you start from scratch, you will have negative thoughts, which will easily make a person delay and finally give up one thing.
The vicious circle of "cognitive error → depression and anxiety → procrastination → failure → self-denial → further procrastination" will be repeated again and again until it is completely defeated.
In fact, success is the accumulation of countless failures. As long as you are willing to start, you can persist, and what awaits you is ultimately success.
How to get rid of perfectionism and become more self-disciplined? It takes only three tricks to be an efficient person.
Three great tricks to relieve procrastination and get out of the procrastination cycle easily
1, disassembly target
Many people aim too high, which leads to perfectionism. For example, they frown at the thought of writing an article, but they never like the habit of dividing their goals into small goals.
For example, it is difficult to write an article. You can break an article into four parts: the title, the beginning, the middle and the end, and you will find it much easier.
When you accomplish small goals, you will feel a sense of accomplishment, prompting you to accomplish more small goals and finally achieve the ultimate goal.
Completion is more important than perfection, and execution is more important than idea. Only constant action can produce perfect results. So, if you have any goals now, take them apart and finish them step by step.
2. Important things should be given priority.
Drucker's book Effective Manager mentioned the concept of priority, which means that among countless things, we should finish the most important thing first.
Born Tracy once said: The worst way to use time is to do meaningless things perfectly.
In fact, when you think about it, most of our time is wasted on meaningless things. As I said before, I get up early to write articles, but I waste my time watching movies.
Writer Yi Shu insists on getting up at five o'clock every morning and starting to write. She has never given up writing for decades.
Therefore, if you want to relieve procrastination, you must make clear the priority rules, do the most important thing first in the morning, and focus on the most important thing, and gradually you will get rid of the habit of procrastination.
Step 3 empty yourself
Many people obviously have a lot of important things to finish, but they can't stop picking up their mobile phones.
For example, many people who have no self-control know that there are reports to hand in, but they just can't help playing with their mobile phones for a while. In this state, the most important thing is to stop and let yourself go. You can go for a walk outdoors or close your eyes and have a rest.
Breaking away from the original environment, not being confined to a small world, contacting the new environment and breathing fresh air will help you get out of the original predicament, make your heart more calm and peaceful, and make it easier to enter a state of efficient work.