A Jing (pseudonym), 40, was left out because her husband was busy with business, so she chose to go online for comfort. Soon, she "fell in love" with a male netizen named "Wan Yang" and poured almost all her feelings into each other. In four years, she refused to "borrow" from her for more than 200 times, and remitted money to Wanyang for more than 200 times, totaling 1.4 million yuan. It was not until one day that Jing knew that the other party was married and had children, and her husband asked her about the whereabouts of the money at home, that she woke up from her dream and reported the case to the police. After investigation by the police, it was found that this 6.5438+0.4 million yuan was taken to eat, drink, prostitute and gamble by A Jing's lover who had been "deeply in love" for four years.

A Jing was originally engaged in household goods business with her husband in Jiaxing. Since having children, she and her husband have worked together: her husband runs a business outside and Jing is a housewife.

When the children grow up and start school, A Jing feels that life has lost its focus and her husband is often away from home. Jing is addicted to the Internet.

At the end of February, 2008, A Jing met a man 10 years younger than herself through QQ, calling himself "Wan Yang", and they also had a video chat. After more than ten days of online conversation, the two gradually became familiar with each other and had a good impression on each other. They not only left each other's phone numbers, but also matched their brothers and sisters.

"I used to be in the ceramic business, and I have certain funds. I don't do business now. I feel bored surfing the Internet at home every day. I want to find some business. " During the chat, A Jing confided to Wan Yang.

"Wan Yang" enthusiastically replied: "Sister, I have run a hardware factory now, and the profit is very low. I want to close it and open a sock factory in Haiyan. Why don't we cooperate? "

A Jing, who had a good impression on "Wanyang" for a long time, thought it was an opportunity to invest and do business to make money, so she readily agreed to cooperate in investment.

Later, A Jing came to Haiyan and proposed to see the situation of the sock factory, but she was pushed off by the "Wanyang" with ulterior motives. Thinking that he didn't invest after all, Jing didn't insist on looking after the factory, just talking about the investment. Subsequently, the two opened the house.

Shortly after the first meeting, Jing received a phone call from Wan Yang. "Elder sister, please lend me some money quickly. I hit someone with my car. The other son-in-law is a gangster and can't afford it. "

Thinking that your sweetheart is in trouble, it is also appropriate to help. A Jing readily transferred 5,000 yuan to the "Wanyang" card.

In May 2008, "Wanyang" proposed that machinery had arrived in Guangzhou, but workers needed money for transportation, loading and unloading, food and shelter, and their own funds could not be turned over, so they needed to borrow some money.

Jing, who has been in love, has remitted several more money. At this time, A Jing remitted more than 250,000 yuan to Wan Yang.

Thinking that since he invested so much money, he should sign a contract and visit the sock factory. A Jing told Wan Yang his idea, but Wan Yang shirked it for various reasons. Even Jing's request to write an IOU was rejected by Wan Yang. "I am sincere in doing business, so I don't write IOUs. I don't want to pay you back, and it's useless to write an iou. " Helpless, Jing compromised again.

On March 20 this year, "Wanyang" called A Jing again, saying that the machines in Shandong were very cheap, and he planned to buy them in Shandong and needed money. In this way, A Jing remitted 6.5438+0.03 million yuan at one time.

"It's like a bottomless pit that can never be filled." In the past four years, Jing drank the ecstasy soup and willingly remitted money to Wanyang for more than 200 times, totaling RMB 1.4 million yuan.

It was not until September this year that her husband noticed the difference and asked about the whereabouts of the money at home. A Jing hurried to Wan Yang and offered to divorce her husband and marry Wan Yang, but Wan Yang told her that he was married and had children.

Jing woke up from her dream and went to the police station to report the case. According to the relevant information provided by A Jing, the police quickly arrested Lin (net name "Wan Yang"), a man from Haiyan, on June 10.

When I first met Lin, the police didn't believe it at first. The thin man in front of me with some lame legs and feet is the man that A Jing loved.

Lin, 30, said that she had an accident when she was 2 1 year old. His parents are alive, his wife has been away from home for many years and he has a 3-year-old son. The investigation found that Lin had a bad habit of gambling and whoring on weekdays and was detained for stealing other people's mobile phones.

He admitted to getting acquainted with netizen A Jing, and committed fraud on the grounds of cooperating in running a sock factory. "I haven't opened a sock factory, bought a machine or had an accident. These are all made up by me to deceive Jing. " Lin confessed that in order to cheat money, he specially set up two cards for her to put the money into the card, and all the money cheated was used for eating, drinking and gambling. The largest sum 103000 yuan is used to repay usury. "

Recently, Lin was arrested by Haiyan County People's Procuratorate for alleged fraud.

Loneliness is a weapon to overcome all strong emotions. Couples who get together less and leave more are factories that create loneliness. Therefore, men may be able to tie a woman's body with a ticket, but they may not be able to tie a woman's heart.

Many times, married men and women always use tolerance and reputation to restrain their dissatisfaction with marriage and try their best to ensure the integrity of marriage. However, when they are lonely, they can't help facing the temptation of extramarital affairs. To this end, a story of a lonely housewife supporting her lover with her husband's hard-earned money was staged. Jing is not the first woman to become stupid because of loneliness, and certainly not the last.

Love, like faith, is not entirely controlled by the lower body. Once you have love, you will devote yourself wholeheartedly, especially women. In the face of extramarital affairs, I know this is a mistake, but I have told myself countless times that this is a mistake that I will never regret in my life. In fact, not everyone who plays extramarital affairs can bear the consequences of the truth being exposed, but find an excuse to play extramarital affairs that even they feel low.

Jing is not stupid or stupid, just poisoned by extramarital affairs. Although Lin is idle, he has a glib tongue. Therefore, if he wants to be a man who makes his wife happy, he must learn to speak sweet words, because women know that some sweet words are false, but they are extremely useful to women and never tire of hearing them.

When you have to make a choice, the truth often comes out. If Jing's husband doesn't find out the family finances, he will wait for Jing again and again. It was not until the moment the extramarital affair was exposed that A Jing knew that her husband was the most important man in her life, but she drifted away on the road of maintaining the integrity of marriage, and even waited for the man who kept saying that he loved her on the Internet to give her a marriage with a naive feeling.

Now, Lin's arrest has completely shattered Jing's last fantasy about her lover. All that remains is the embarrassment of being fooled for four years and the deep guilt of betraying her husband. This is a great event. Can a husband who works hard to make money give himself a chance to turn over a new leaf?

The phenomenon that "my husband is busy making money outside, but he finally gets the swing of marriage" has never stopped. The most fundamental reason for this phenomenon is the serious imbalance between material and emotional in marriage. A quiet husband is not angry, but who can feel the loneliness of silence? After all, it's really hard for a woman to carry those cold bills every day but not see her beloved husband.

It's really a pity that A Jing and her husband run a marriage like this, but under the present circumstances, marriages like A Jing and her husband can be seen everywhere. For this part of marriage, how to solve the relative balance between money and emotion?

First, couples should try to avoid separation.

Love needs the spirit of self-sacrifice. From the macro level of the family, the one with less income should resign and follow the one with more income, but don't choose to be a full-time wife, but stay in the city where her husband works, and then choose a job that may be less stable than before or with higher income, so that husband and wife can be together forever. It is better to be apart than to be newly married, but long-term separation between two places will lead to physical or emotional derailment of one party and physical and mental derailment at the same time.

Second, husband and wife should always exchange their expectations for marriage.

Understanding and tolerance is a gesture, but you need to sincerely express your expectations for marriage. Excessive indulgence of dissatisfaction in marriage is actually a disguised form of marriage. Not only are you uncomfortable, but your lover can't guess your own thoughts. You are stupid enough to think that maintaining marriage in the form of separation between two places is also an appropriate marriage management model. Once a woman is lonely, she must be the first to tell her husband, and a man should not ignore his wife's loneliness.

Never regard making money as the greatest pleasure between husband and wife.

Making money is for a better life. Don't make yourself a slave to money, but how many people can see through this problem in real life? More often, many couples regard making money as the first pleasure in life, but ignore the most important people around them. Do we have to wait until marriage is in jeopardy before we reflect on the balance between money and emotion? To this end, remind all besieged men and women to make money as a job, and don't forget to enjoy the original fun of life after work.