But! Today is really safe and sweet, so I think I still have a say in this issue ~
If you are in love, you might as well look at the experiences of two "experienced people" after a long-distance running in love;
If you haven't found the other half, you should finish reading this article, because ... after reading it, you may have that "ta" in your heart ~
Every relationship in life needs careful management. Love, affection, friendship and getting along with people all need "brains"
I have been in love with my boyfriend for four years and once became a "model couple" in my circle of friends. In this relationship, we explored these truths. ...
Don't forget to feed the people you like and praise them!
Love can be roughly divided into these stages:
The infatuation period on the top of love → the relaxation period in which enthusiasm gradually fades → the conflict period in which large and small contradictions emerge one after another → the stable period after running-in.
Well, many, many people say goodbye in the second and third stages.
I think the reason for this phenomenon is that many people often forget that falling in love is a matter of two people in the process of getting along.
Let's not talk about first love for the time being. After all, during that time, everything the other person can do can be transformed into a pink bubble full of love in your eyes.
When my boyfriend and I first got together, there was no big contradiction. Small contradictions could be solved with sweet words, and we would not object to what the other party did.
To put it simply, this period of time is the peak of our relationship, including the "freshness" of this person, and those dissatisfaction, small temper and small willfulness can be left behind.
After this period of time, it is time for both sides to "show their true colors"
Friendly reminder: if you are just together, the other party will be angry with you without scruple, and you will have many contradictions, so hurry up. I don't want to tolerate it at this time, and the future is even more torture. )
Actually, this is easy to understand. When they are not together, they only think about how to be together.
The initial goal has been achieved, but I don't know how to proceed.
In love, it is necessary to make some changes in order to keep going for each other. This kind of change is not forbearance, but for the better of both sides.
My experience is: be considerate of each other, listen to each other's ideas and put yourself in each other's shoes.
Instead of thinking, "How can I feel that ta gives me more love and more good?" It is better to leave yourself more time to think about "how to get along with each other to make each other more fit and love each other?"
We need to find a "balance point" so that your relationship can develop for a long time.
Almost everyone's cognition of "work" is a woman's love work, in fact! Don't men ever make trouble without reason?
Of course, I'm not making excuses for girls. It's quite impressive. In a love relationship, girls really love "work" more.
I used to be a member of the "sitting team", and I did something similar to other girls, but I changed it in time!
The idea of a "writer" is actually: I want you to love me especially. If you can't give it, then make trouble.
I have a hard time, and you don't want to get better.
The view of outsiders is: ta EQ is not enough.
Yes! How can a really smart person exchange "noisy" for each other's love? You should be smarter than your friends!
"Work" is actually inadvertently consuming the other person's goodwill towards you. The initial stage of two people together is the most critical moment for you to establish an emotional foundation. Before being together, it is a heartbeat, and after being together, it is the process of truly falling in love with ta. Your unreasonable behavior not only confuses the other party, but also makes ta run away from you and be afraid of you over time.
Take one thing for example. When I was in college, six people in our dormitory never went to nightclubs together, so it was really strange!
But for people who have boyfriends, it is really easy for girls to go to nightclubs alone, and eight out of ten men will feel a little uncomfortable.
But ah! Let you see how smart my boyfriend is!
I told him about it carefully, saying that I went to the nightclub because I was curious, and it was also a gathering between dormitories, and there was absolutely no other idea!
My boyfriend was more or less reluctant, but he didn't stop me. The night I went, he told me:
"Hold the phone in your hand and keep me in mind. I believe you. "
What kind of brilliant man is this?
I fell. You weren't angry. You trusted me so much. Why should I dance?
But! The roommate's boyfriend's handling of this matter is slightly "not smart"
First, I allowed her to go to nightclubs, and then I began to look for reasons to quarrel and say cruel words, and disappeared for no reason, which made my roommate in no mood that night. In order to contact her boyfriend, I made more than a dozen phone calls and cried for a long time, because what her boyfriend said to her was really hard to hear.
After that, men had a cold war for more than a week before they recovered.
It wasn't long before my roommate broke up with him because of something else. What my roommate mentioned was impossible to recover.
I wonder how you feel when you see this.
Anyway, I don't think this boy has enough emotional intelligence.