Hu Shi said: It is a must-see scenery. & gt Yu Dafu said: Xiaoman was Prometheus who shook China's literary and art circles in the 1920s. & gt Liu Haisu said: Old poems are fresh and pretty; The article contains grace; Painting was quite common in the Song Dynasty, and it was a generation of beauties. & gt Xu Zhimo said: Her eyes are talking and glowing, which is the secret of her heart. & gt Wang Yingxia said: She is indeed a generation of beauties, and my impression of her can be summed up in four words: petite and exquisite. & gt Looking at Xiaoman from a modern perspective, she is just a real woman, with the most courage, no affectation, and the courage to pursue personal happiness, which is the most common. & gt& gt Previously, Xiaoman was remembered as a "disaster" and "* * *" woman, because Xiaoman was really different from traditional women, but the more important reason was that people loved Zhimo too much and always wanted to find a scapegoat for Zhimo's death, and Xiaoman was ready-made. & gt Our poet Zhimo, the soul mate he is looking for can't be an ordinary mortal. The woman he is looking for is the embodiment of love, beauty and freedom. Then his lover must have such ingredients to marry her. More importantly, their combination was achieved through some hard struggles and troubles. Without sincere feelings and deep love, they will not come together. So what kind of person Xiaoman is, we can know from the standard of Shima to lovers. & gt When they first met, Shima was a free man, but Xiaoman was married, and her husband Wang Geng was also a promising young hero of the upper class. There is no stone horse's "guidance" to Xiaoman. "His radiant eyes penetrated my heart, recognized my hidden pain, and advised me with sincere feelings not to drag out an ignoble existence by deceiving others and not to ruin my future." It is because of Zhimo's love and determination for Xiaoman that Xiaoman walked out of marriage and became an immoral woman considered by society at that time. As a matter of fact, Xiao Man had a disagreement with Wang Geng before he agreed to fight with the will. & gt So Xiaoman is an emotionally awakened person, and one of the few women with personality. Compared with ordinary women, Xiaoman is unwilling to accept resignation. & gt What kind of person is Xiaoman? Why did Shima run away from others in pursuit of her? Why does she slander everyone? Xiaoman was born in Shanghai, Shili Yangchang. His father was not only a juren in the late Qing Dynasty, but also studied in Japan. High flyers, a graduate of Imperial University, is a proté gé of the famous Japanese Ito Bowen. He has also worked in places like the Ministry of Finance for more than 20 years, and served as a counselor and director. Xiaoman's mother was a rare woman who knew books and was reasonable at that time. She not only has a profound literary foundation, but also is good at meticulous painting. My father thinks highly of Jackie Chan (she is the only daughter in the family), and my mother's family education is extremely strict. It can be said that Xiaoman was a real lady at that time, but because of rebellion, she finally became the target of public criticism. & gt Xiaoman was the best educated woman of her time. Xiaoman attended kindergarten in Shanghai since childhood, entered the primary school affiliated to Beijing Women's Normal University at the age of 6, and transferred to the French-run noble school Beijing Sacred Heart School at the age of 13. Xiaoman is proficient in English and French, also plays the piano and is good at painting oil paintings. She is a smart, beautiful, lively, individual and lovely woman. 1920, Xiaoman 18 years old, young. Gu Weijun, Foreign Minister of Beiyang, asked Sacred Heart School to recommend a beautiful young girl who is proficient in English and French to the Ministry of Foreign Affairs to receive foreign envoys. Xiaoman was selected. Minister Gu once praised Lu Xiaoman in front of his father and said, "Lu Jiansan's face is not smart at all, but his daughter, Miss Lu Xiaoman, is so beautiful and smart." After hearing this, the little father felt useless and proud. & gt& gt Xiaoman's loveliness lies not only in his warmth and gentleness to people, but also in his personality and adaptability. She may be a little arrogant and slow, but she is by no means a slave. Once, when Xiaoman was entertaining foreign guests to watch a literary evening, the foreign guests said rudely to some programs, "How can such a rotten thing be put on the stage?" "The little man retaliated." These are all programs with characteristics in our country, but you just can't understand them. Another time, at a festival banquet, some foreigners burst the balloons of China children for fun, and then burst into laughter. Xiaoman was very angry when he saw it. He also used the same method to inflate the balloons of foreign children, which made foreigners and China people dumbfounded. What others can't do, she can do, because she has personality and sincere feelings, and because she is smart and humorous, others can't do anything about her. Such a first-class, amazing woman, Shima certainly marveled. & gt Hu Shi said, "Lu Xiaoman is a must-see scenery." She's great. "The Ministry of Foreign Affairs in Beijing often holds social dance parties, and Xiaoman is a dance expert. Assuming that there is no beautiful image of her on the dance floor on this day, it is almost an unpleasant seat. Chinese and foreign male guests, of course, are fascinated by it. Even Chinese and foreign female guests seem to be dazzled by her and want to talk to each other quickly. Besides, she has good manners, gentle speech and unparalleled manners. ? And some men admire her and slander her, because China people don't approve of women who are too eye-catching. This is also evidence of her "bad reputation". & gt Zhimo danced with her personally to fully appreciate her charm; I had a heart-to-heart talk with her all night. I understood her difficulties and sincere feelings. I also know that when she is familiar with English novels and good at painting, how can she not fall in love? A beautiful, affectionate, lovely, versatile and unfortunate woman can best arouse a man's desire for love. He must not marry her in this world. What betrayal, what career prospects, no love, would rather die. After two years of long-term efforts and struggles, Xiaoman did not let Zhimo down for fear of public opinion and family pressure. She broke through the trap of etiquette and resolutely walked with Zhimo. & gt Looking at Xiaoman from a modern perspective, she is just a real woman, with the most courage, no affectation, and the courage to pursue personal happiness, which is the most common. At that time, if she was more tolerant, she would just be an alternative woman in public. But in the eyes of Taoists, she is an unfaithful "* * *" and "* *", a bad woman who is spurned by thousands of people and society. & gt？ Xiaoman's misfortune is not that society regards her as an unfaithful woman, because she, Shima and their friends despise hypocrites. Xiaoman's misfortune is that she is not a good wife and mother in the eyes of Shima. Her "sin"? The reason is that she didn't give birth to a son and a half for Zhimo, and Zhimo cares and hopes very much. It is also because she didn't serve Zhimo wholeheartedly and didn't treat Zhimo with the attitude that Zhimo's business is her business, so some people think that she is hateful and not a good woman. She only cares about her own personal freedom? Only care about your feelings and feelings, your happiness and leisure, your life. & gt？ At this point, she violated the female role stipulated by society for women, so people say that she is not a good woman, and this view is probably the view of ordinary men. So she and Shima's male friends have alienated her for this reason. The plane crashed in Zhimo, and they hated her and blamed her, which was her punishment. She has carried such a heavy burden all her life. & gt The value of Xiaoman lies in that although she was born rich, she did not envy her. The most important thing is her true feelings. She is generous and does not pursue fame and fortune. She has a distinct personality and treats people sincerely. She goes her own way, is free, and attaches importance to the freedom of individual life and self-feeling. If she was born in modern society and her body can make decisions, maybe she is still a rebellious feminist. Her faults and misfortunes could not be found in the social ethics at that time, nor in the provisions on the role of women in traditional society. So we need to look at Xiaoman from another angle. & gt