All parents want their children to succeed, and hope that their children can get ahead and be superior. More and more parents also realize that education is the most important. In order to make their children become excellent, they need to receive a good education first. Only when their EQ and IQ far exceed their peers can they get more chances of success in the future.
However, many parents in society do not realize the importance of all-round development. They just ask their children to study hard and deal with others. These problems are often ignored by parents, which also leads to the unbalanced development of IQ and EQ of many children.
My colleague Xiao Wang is a typical example. He strictly requires children to study hard, but does not require the most basic manners, which leads to children often making some very naive mistakes and sometimes even not knowing how to respect their elders. What will this unbalanced educational method lead to?
0 1 What is easy to happen when children's IQ and EQ are unbalanced?
Many parents do not attach importance to the development of emotional intelligence, and their children's interpersonal circle is very small, which affects their healthy growth. In society, many parents do not attach importance to the development of their children's emotional intelligence, and most parents gradually attach importance to the development of their children's IQ, especially the improvement of their grades. Although more and more parents realize that grades don't mean everything, good grades don't necessarily lead to a good future. However, it can be seen from various cram schools in society that parents still pay attention to the development of IQ, but rarely cultivate EQ.
Not paying attention to the development of emotional intelligence will often make children's interpersonal circle very small. In today's society, the ability to get along with and communicate with people is becoming more and more important. Childhood is the friend that children associate with. Most of them stop contacting when they grow up, but the most important thing is that children learn how to communicate with others in childhood and cultivate their ability in this respect. The healthy growth of children needs not only the care and help of parents, but also the help of classmates and friends, so children need a good circle of friends if they want to grow up healthily.
Some parents do not attach importance to IQ development, and their children's learning ability is getting worse and worse. There are also some parents in society who do not attach importance to the development of their children's IQ. These parents believe that the IQ of children can't explain anything, and the IQ of children will gradually improve over time, so parents don't have to worry too much.
But children's IQ develops very rapidly in childhood. If we don't pay attention to the improvement of children's IQ at this time, it will often make children encounter some difficulties and setbacks in their future study and life, and may also widen the IQ gap between children and their peers.
Why is the development of children's IQ and EQ unbalanced? What is the reason?
First of all, many parents' educational concepts need to be improved. The unbalanced development of children's IQ and EQ is closely related to parents' educational concept. Children listen to their parents' demands in childhood, and children grow up by imitating and learning their parents' behavior and habits. Therefore, if there are some problems in parents' educational concept, it is likely to affect the healthy growth of children.
If many parents think that IQ is more important than EQ, or EQ is more important than IQ, such a one-sided view will also be reflected in the child's training methods. On the one hand, it is not enough to pay attention to the cultivation of children's abilities. Parents should attach importance to the development of children's emotional intelligence and IQ, and the balance between them is the best.
Secondly, children lack time to communicate with their parents. Parents are children's first teachers, and the way children communicate with others is often slowly changed by communicating with parents or slowly learned by observing the way parents communicate with others. Therefore, if parents lack time to communicate with their children, the children will have no object to learn and refer to, and they will not be able to cultivate their emotional intelligence.
Many people will say that emotional intelligence is the most difficult to improve, because IQ can be improved bit by bit through learning, but emotional intelligence is very subtle. When dealing with problems, we need all kinds of abilities, so parents should cultivate their children's emotional intelligence from an early age, which is of great benefit to their children entering the society in the future.
What do parents need to do to make their children's IQ and EQ develop in a balanced way?
The balanced development of children's IQ and EQ is eagerly expected by all parents, but many parents are forced by the pressure of the times, and the requirements for academic qualifications in today's society are getting higher and higher. In order to keep their children from losing at the starting line, parents have to strictly ask their children to study hard and get high marks. So what should parents do if they want their children's IQ and EQ to develop in a balanced way?
First, communicate with children more.
Parents should communicate with their children first. Cultivating their EQ and IQ requires the care and help of their parents. Parents are children's first teachers, and they are role models for children to learn, whether dealing with problems or interacting with others.
Therefore, parents can spend more time with their children, which will gradually affect their ability to deal with problems and think. At the same time, more communication between children and parents can also promote the feelings between parents and children and help children open their hearts and grow up healthily.
Second, strive to cultivate children's abilities in all aspects.
Parents should not only communicate with their children more, but also cultivate their abilities in all aspects. Emotional intelligence and IQ can be reflected in all aspects of life. Sometimes a small matter can show the level of emotional intelligence and IQ, so parents can cultivate their children's ability to deal with various small things in life and cultivate their emotional intelligence and IQ in this way.
It is not very difficult to cultivate emotional intelligence and IQ. We just need to keep learning and experience all kinds of things in life. In the process of dealing with these problems, our emotional intelligence and IQ will be significantly improved.
Third, when studying in thousands of books, it's best to take Wan Li Road, and take time to take children out to travel or participate in some social practice.
Practice is the best teacher. No matter how much knowledge we learn from textbooks, it is not as good as what we learn through practice. Only practice can turn this knowledge into a part of ourselves. Therefore, parents can take their children to participate in many social practice activities or travel, let them contact the real society, and constantly hone their emotional intelligence and IQ in society.
There are more and more practical activities in society, such as going to nursing homes or volunteering. Although children only work there for a few hours, they will communicate with others and learn a lot of valuable wealth during these hours. Let children get in touch with the real society earlier, which will also help them to re-plan the future and be of great benefit to the healthy growth of children.