On the African prairie, there is a vampire bat. This bat is not big, but it is the natural enemy of African wild horses.
They often lie on the legs of horses, bite the legs of wild horses with sharp teeth, and then suck blood with sharp mouths. During this period, no matter how wildly the horse jumps and runs, it can't get rid of it.
Only when the bat is full of blood will it leave on its own, and at this time the wild horse is dying and dying.
But according to the research of zoologists, this bat's blood intake is very small and not fatal. What really caused the death of wild horses was not blood loss, but heart failure.
In order to get rid of vampire bats, wild horses fell into a rage and mania, so they kept jumping around, which made their physical strength consume sharply and eventually led to heart failure.
Aren't we just like wild horses sometimes, because we are too anxious about some small problems, which makes our situation worse?
In life, it is often your own emotions that really crush a person. On this road of life, the biggest problem we face is not birth and talent, but our own emotions.
Can't be the master of emotions, but can only be the slave of emotions; And once the emotions get out of control, it is doomed to be a disaster.
Avicenna, an ancient Arab scholar, once did an experiment: two lambs born by a child were put in different environments to live.
One of them lives happily with the sheep on the grass, and the other lamb is tied to a wolf.
The poor lamb, looking at the wolf in front of him, fell into a state of extreme panic.
Even if the wolf couldn't touch it at all, it couldn't eat anything at all and soon died of panic.
If your mood is too bad, your life will get worse, your life will get worse, and your mood will get worse. In the end, it will only lead to the collapse of your mood and life. This is a vicious circle. A man out of control is like walking a tightrope at high altitude. Old sin makes new shame.
Jobs once said, "When people are defeated by themselves, they are defeated by their emotions first."
Don't rush to judge life because of a temporary mood. If you fall into the bottom because of a temporary emotion, you will only regret it tomorrow.
You know, in the adult world, there are not so many ifs. All the bad emotions can only be paid by yourself in the end. Modern medical research has found that 65% to 90% of human diseases are related to mentality.
Mentality affects emotions, and emotions affect health, such as:
Once the emotion is excessive, it will affect health, and physical discomfort will lead to emotional out of control, thus falling into a vicious circle.
The British medical community has investigated 1080 cancer patients and found that more than 80% of them have suffered adverse events and emotional stimulation, such as widowhood, unemployment and natural disasters.
In the 1980s, 200 patients with gastric cancer were investigated in Shanghai, and it was found that all these patients had one thing in common: long-term depression and family disharmony. In the book "Fatal Emotion", it is even more outspoken:
All the data show the fact that a bad mood is the biggest killer of health. Zhong Nanshan once said: "The first essence of health preservation is psychological balance, which is the most important and the most difficult to achieve. Scientific research shows that when the mood is low, the anti-cancer function of the human body will drop by more than 20%. "
Health, first raise the heart. The mentality is wrong, and all health care is empty; If the mood is negative, no matter how good the medicine is, it will not help.
Samuel said, "The world is like a mirror. If you frown at it, it will frown at you. " When you smile at it, it smiles back at you. "
Emotion is a double-edged sword. Good mood will drive away the haze for you, and bad mood will push you to the abyss.
Only the weak can be controlled by emotions, and the real strong can control their emotions.
There is a saying in The Doctrine of the Mean: The joys and sorrows, the joys and sorrows are in the middle; All the hair is in the middle section, called and.
It means that emotions are invisible, which is called "zhong"; Moderate emotions are called "harmony".
Keeping calm is a great practice in life.
Everyone has emotions. It is an instinct to explode emotions, but it is a skill to control them properly.
There is a saying in Buddhism: Bodhisattva has low eyebrows, so there are six ways of compassion; King Kong glared and surrendered to the four demons.
Really mature people know how to make good use of the power of emotions.
If you are not trapped by emotions, you can't be a slave to emotions; Only by controlling your emotions can you control your life.
Emotional stability is not the absence of emotions, but knowing how to release and express reasonably, without embarrassment or embarrassment. This is also a sign of high emotional intelligence.
As Cai Kangyong said: "High EQ doesn't mean not to lose your temper, but to lose your temper reasonably, so that your emotions can be expressed smoothly, so that you can be yourself comfortably and make yourself and the world happy."
People with high emotional intelligence are not without temper, but know how to control their emotions and know when to lose their temper.
Once the emotion cannot be expressed, it is suppressed in the bottom of my heart, and once it breaks out, it will only be more terrible.
Controlling temper does not completely eliminate temper; Controlling emotions can't completely eliminate them.
Kicking a stone in anger will only hurt your toes; Without emotion, you will only become a puppet without soul.
As anthony robbins said, "The secret of success lies in knowing how to control the power of pain and happiness without being countered by this power. If you can do this, you can control your life, otherwise, you can't control your life. "