But it is imperative not to be idle. You can find hobbies and learn knowledge and skills. If there are small things to do, don't be disgusted.

I'm glad to answer this question. When people reach middle age, they are old and young, and there is a wife in the middle. At this time, when men are under the greatest pressure, it is particularly important to adjust their mentality. So, I will answer your question from the following aspects:

1, adjust your mentality in time and straighten your position. Because people are most stressed at this time, if they don't have a good attitude, they will easily collapse.

2. Use the rich time during the epidemic to improve yourself. Keep yourself busy and you won't have time to think about anything else. At the same time, you can also increase your income appropriately.

3, cultivate a hobby of your own, which is also very important, such as practicing calligraphy, drinking tea, fishing and so on, to calm yourself down.

Always keep a grateful heart and thank your parents, lovers and children, so that your mood will be different.

In short, find the right position, relieve your troubles, persevere, and hope you can be happy.

When people reach middle age, they are in a situation where they are old and small, and they bear the responsibility that they have never been able to unload. As the pillar of the family, we have to support our parents in the world, take on the car loan and mortgage in the middle, and raise our children in the next step. All kinds of pressures are concentrated on our chest. This sudden novel coronavirus gave middle-aged people their first feeling: fear. Once infected, in the near future, "whoever looks after the baby will take care of the parents"; If you are not so lucky, the most unfortunate thing will happen. "What about the rest of the mortgage and car loan? How will parents spend the rest of their lives? Who will take care of the young children? " The whole family will encounter an unimaginable disaster, and they will be extremely afraid.

1. Admit that you can't control everything, but you can control your life effectively.

To admit that we are not omnipotent, everything can't be perfect, we can't control everything, and the only thing that is certain is that we can control our own behavior. We often have a deep-rooted desire to control our lives, but in the current special period, we have no choice but to give up our personal social space and inner psychological space for our own safety, not to have an infection trend and to end the epidemic as soon as possible. This does not mean that we are completely out of control of our lives. We can still make limited choices and control in a limited space. For example, we need to stay at home for a long time, how to arrange our daily routine? Children can't go to school at present, how should they arrange their study time? How far can the adjustment of work go? ......

2. Adjust the pace of life and restore inner order.

The way many people deal with anxiety is to do things, and relieve their inner anxiety through what they do and say, but the more they do, the more anxious they become. Especially during the epidemic, I am eager to relieve my anxiety by working and doing things, but I can't finish my normal work. In the process of this contradiction, my anxiety is more serious. We can't control the outside world, but we can slowly restore internal order. We can adjust the internal order through mindfulness, meditation and meditation. , so as to calm the heart. (See tomorrow's tweet for mindfulness training)

3. Look at the epidemic rationally and pay attention to the combination of work and rest.

4. Increase communication opportunities and strengthen family support.

Middle-aged friends, we are the pillars of our family, and we should also love our country, our family and ourselves!

Exercise and study are practical and effective ways to relieve stress, or they can be very simple. Health is the capital of revolution. At ordinary times, everyone is busy with work and ignores their health, and even their health is dragged down by excessive fatigue and entertainment. Just during the epidemic, let them have a good rest and recuperate, so that they can have a better state to work. Learning is the only magic weapon for us to keep pace with the times. Usually, it is scattered time. During the epidemic period, we have plenty of time to sort out and learn systematically, so that we can enrich ourselves, find new ideas and sort out past experiences and lessons, so as to better complete the follow-up tasks.

As a middle-aged man, I also encounter many problems now. My approach is to set myself a small goal that can be achieved in the near future according to my own ability, and then plan for one year and two years.

At present, small goals are in progress, and it is also difficult to implement them. I feel that people's luck is also bursting. Nothing goes smoothly these days.

However, since you are alive, you must find a way to live your own life. In particular, my mother's life is not satisfactory, and the children have not yet joined the work. The responsibilities on my shoulders don't allow me to relax.

As the saying goes, "God helps those who help themselves", and there is also a proverb abroad that "God helps those who help themselves".

I am no longer young, and my life needs some changes. For my family and for myself, come on!

During the anti-epidemic period, it is inevitable to avoid infection, protect health and safety, and strive for survival. Especially for those moonlight families who have no fixed work units and labor contracts, we should sum up experiences and lessons. First, we should inherit Sinochem's tradition of managing the family diligently, scrimp and save, it won't rain in sunny and rainy days, and there will be no famine in good years, instead of learning from the bad habit of Europeans and Americans to eat up consumption in advance; The second is to establish labor relations by relying on the legal system. Work should not be too free and unstable, and organizational care at critical moments can be guaranteed.

If you save your life, you will have nowhere to look for gold!

Middle-aged crisis is an inevitable psychological phenomenon when people reach middle age, especially in the epidemic environment, there are few deposits left, old and small. What is even more tragic is that in the harsh business environment, people who work are facing unemployment, so they are more anxious about the current economic situation and the future. How to alleviate it and how to deal with it? …

1. It's no use complaining about others. It is better to use this time to sum up and reflect on why your ability to resist risks is so poor when the wind and waves come. Is it a social environment problem or your own problem? Understand, can calm down and find the right direction, set sail again, and fight for another 500 years; There are countless examples of successful entrepreneurship after middle age, so I won't list them here.

Second, in the face of difficulties, society is realistic and cruel, especially when you are temporarily unable to start a business, it is unrealistic to always think about the help of others. As the saying goes, it is a good idea for others to help you, and it is reasonable not to help you. Therefore, when you are stranded, you should worry about the strange eyes of others and be miserable. You should put down your face, take action, do what others don't want to do, support yourself first, support your family, and find opportunities to turn over in the process of work.

Third, don't always stay at home, go out for a walk more. It is said that going out will give you a chance, and not waiting to die forever will make you more anxious. Everyone likes people who are positive and sunny. Who likes to sigh all day? You can go out.